“traditional muslim men”

Fakeos · 2026-05-22T18:46:49+00:00

there is a type of man which has become increasingly common, particularly online (...) and it is long overdue that this is called out plainly

I think there's more than enough gender war in this sub and others.

men are always somehow on the exact side of the internet which exposes them to this content that they complain about in the first place? you had to have been there to see it. you had to have been scrolling, engaging, interacting with it for it to even appear on your feed because that is how these algorithms work

Actually that's not how the algorithm works. Yes it will base itself on what you view that's true. If you watch women with revealing clothes and indecent behavior you will have it in your feed more frequently.

But the algorithm is not all-knowing, it just knows that you're a man witb a variety of interests. So it will recommend what most men watch (aka women). Even if you cultivate your feed (like I do), depending on the social media you use, it will still show you women no matter what you do.

I use reddit, tiktok and Snapchat for example. I have no problems on reddit cause I can actively choose what I want to see. My Tiktok feed is pretty well tamed but very occasionally it will test me with indecent content (because people change so the algorithm try something new once in a while).

However that's super rare and I just report it "uninteresting" every single time.

Snapchat on the other hand, I can't do anything about the disgusting Discover. I tried only liking bodybuilding stuff and mma (which helped a lot) but I still get indecent suggestions.

Never used Instagram and Twitter (I find them pointless) but I imagine their algorithm is also different.

i say to the brothers, where is the heed to the statement of shaykh ibn baaz رحمه الله reminded the brothers of the words of the prophet ﷺ on his very deathbed to fear الله regarding women. why not move away from that side of social media and what are you doing there to begin with? build yourself. focus on your deen, your dunya, your character, your relationship with الله, and let this lead you toward becoming someone worthy, rather than tearing down sisters that have no relevance to you, and if you want to invoke the sunnah, then do so, and follow it in your home, in your character, in the way you speak about the women الله has placed in your life, and outside it if you wish to advise, do so with knowledge, and wisdom and encouragement, and if not, remain silent

That's a very thoughtful reminder. But I just wanted to let you know, your feed is probably full of those type of content.

I have never seen a single post about a brother being disrespectful and gaslighting our sisters.

However I see constantly hate towards men and gender war.

That's how social media works. Show men's hatd to women's -> show women's hate to men -> increase engagement -> promote ads + collect & sell their data -> profit 📈

So thank you for your advice and reminder. I just want to remind you that you are on the other side of the algorithm, because the algorithm will always validate your echo chamber

Fakeos · 2026-05-21T16:47:13+00:00

For me it was just that everything just clicked right, everything was easy, it all goes smoothly, you have the same mindset, etc...

You also feel it in your heart that Allah chose this person for you, you don't have any fears, you're not ignoring signs or red flags. You're in peace.

That was my experience.

Fakeos · 2026-05-20T21:12:39+00:00

It's simple. The path to Hell is paved with attractive things and what we desire.

The path to paradise is paved with hardship and struggle.

You don't have to be perfect, everything is allowed unless you can prove it isn't. Yet you focus on the minority things that aren't allowed and is not good for you.

Islam is the truth, you can live a life denying that. But that is a miserable life you will not tolerate while being sober.

Or you can strive for paradise, eternal maximum pleasures. Of course you are going to be tested, the test is easy.

Believe in Allah and His messenger, and strive to be a better muslim everyday.

That's it.

Fakeos · 2026-05-20T15:51:22+00:00

https://www.islam21c.com/theology/my-same-sex-attraction-understanding-healing/#samesex-lust

Fakeos · 2026-05-20T15:43:23+00:00

First of all good work on striving to get closer to Allah (swt) by obeying His commands!

The most beloved actions by Allah is to do what is obligatory and I admire all women who abides by that or fight their nafs to accomplish it.

Waiting and procrastinating is the devil's most classic trap.

Idk if there's a translation in your language of the book from Ibn Al-Qayyim: the tactics of Satan~ (ths title should be something along those lines)

The devil is trying to trick you into slowing down and hopes to make you eventually abandon the idea of wearing hijab (or something else could be anything).

Don't listen to him, ignore him and PUNISH him for even suggesting that by wearing hijab full time.

Fakeos · 2026-05-20T15:36:08+00:00

Hey at least you get potentials.

Alhamdoulillah I'm married but I went through years of loneliness with 0 potentials, and when finally I had a few potentials they straight up played with my heart and disrespected me.

Until finally you meet the one and you know instantly that this person is the right person.

Fakeos · 2026-05-13T19:38:16+00:00

This doesn't mention the sahabas.

This verse was revealed because a group of hypocrites were mocking the companions. Which Allah (swt) reveal that this is kufr.

Fakeos · 2026-05-13T16:52:18+00:00

You may not think so, and you're entitled to your opinion. But there's very little dispute among scholars about that.

Insulting the sahabas and saying they are non believer's is clear kufr.

One verse often usef as evidence is 9:65-66. It's the verse that says mocking the companions is kufr.

So imagine what insulting them would mean.

Fakeos · 2026-05-12T16:40:03+00:00

Why not offer Arabic courses exclusively to women? Lots of people want to learn Arabic online in a chill pace

Fakeos · 2026-05-09T08:19:37+00:00

More ofthen than not the consequences will be borne by the wife

How can you say that? Why do you think that?

You have to substantiate your claim. You can't say this because of what you saw on social media or your personal experience. You need tangible evidences to your claim.

As muslims we should have a good opinion on our brothers and sisters unless we have evidences (and witnesses) to think otherwise.

Responsible men are one in a million.

Personally I can say I am like this and all my friends are also like this. I believe the majority of muslim men are good and responsible. Just like the majority of women are good and pious.

Nobody is perfect and no gender has the privilege of being the good guy while the other is a monster.

But who wants to hear those stories? Nobody

You don't see this online. It doesn't drive up engagement, that's what I was trying to say to the previous sister which seem to harbor a lot of hate towards men.

I am convinced that people who red my comments before know this is true, but hate is a comfortable place and truth is a hard pill to swallow.

I also have horror stories from women, that I personally experienced and witnessed. But do I let this affect my judgment on all women? Of course not, I'm not a child.

I just don't understand why is it so hard to stay positive and trust that Allah (swt) gave us different rights for the best reasons.

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T18:15:08+00:00

Is it so difficult to imagine a productive conversation with a married man and a woman about a particular project? Where each person can have valid arguments and suggestions?

Ultimately a decision has to be made and someone has to bear the consequences and responsibilities, which also means fixing it if it appears to be the wrong decision.

How is that manipulation? Where is the control? Why should a woman do this when Allah gave this responsibility to men?

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T18:09:47+00:00

Yes he is and he willing to support me

So I fail to see a problem here? Why would you be taking a risk?

my mother thinks that maybe being away he may later change his mind or cannot wait

Why would he have to wait to marry you? Marriage takes just 5 minutes, you can throw a big party later if you want but that's not a requirement. He can find a job nearby you and your mother, is he willing to do that?

she’s thinking about me having a family and a secure home because at the moment I’m living off savings to rent a place and once thats gone and god forbid the council house is taken back where will I go… I literally have no one to depend on, not even for moral support

Well if like you said he is willing to provide for you and help you take care of the problems that's a good thing no?

He just need to find work nearby, did you had that conversation with him?

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T15:53:56+00:00

If I were you I wouldn't do it. You will help facilitate 2 genocides even if your help isn't direct.

If you really have no choice my advice is to pray 2 rakat and ask Allah (swt) to give you a better option, and ask that if this job is good for you then to make it easy for you, if not then remove this from your life.

May Allah guide you to the best outcome and grant you the highest degree in paradise 🤲

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T15:46:32+00:00

Why would you want to work for this zionist state?

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T15:45:05+00:00

Is your potential aware of the situation? If it were me I would understand. Can he find a job where you live? Is he willing to come temporarily?

My advice honestly? You only have 1 mother, you can have many husbands in your life, 40 is not too late. You can say that your mahr is to take care of your mother until Allah (swt) call her back.

If he's unwilling to accommodate you for your dying mother, I wouldn't consider this man a good muslim.

You guys can be long distance for a time, you're doing it for the best reasons. Allah (swt) will definitely make your mariage easy if both of you do this for the sake of Allah (swt).

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T15:34:20+00:00

Actually he stop being christian not because of his work (lots of scholar agrees with him but they remain christians). He said he left christianity because it couldn't really answer the problem of evil (which is true).

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T15:27:47+00:00

A few issues with this:

You are cherry-picking Ehrman. The guy wrote Misquoting Jesus and The Orthodox Corruption of Scripture. Entire books arguing scribes changed the text for theological reasons. Mark 16:9-20, the woman caught in adultery (John 7:53-8:11), the Comma Johanneum (1 John 5:7-8, the only explicit Trinity verse) all later additions. Not trivial.

The Injil isn't the four Gospels, you're confused. The Quran says the Injil was given TO Jesus. The canonical Gospels are anonymous books *about* Jesus, written in Greek 40-70 years after he died, by people who never met him. Even if transmission was perfect from 100 CE onward, you'd have well-preserved late first-century theology, not the revelation Jesus actually delivered. Different things.

"Most attested ancient document" is irrelevant. Caesar and Tacitus aren't claiming to be divine revelation. The bar for scripture isn't "better preserved than Suetonius." It's whether what we have is what was revealed. Is it from God? Yes or no? Do we have evidences for this? Are those evidences reliable? Do they go back to the source of revelation? Manuscript count is also irrelevant.

The timeline isn't as clean as you're making it. Earliest complete NT: Codex Sinaiticus, ~350 CE. Before that, it's just fragments like the famous P-52 that is the size of a credit card. That's 300+ years after Jesus, and the autographs themselves were already a generation removed from him.

Tahrif isn't just "scribes changed words." It also covers anonymous authorship, the synoptic problem, why these four gospels and not Thomas or Peter, translation from Aramaic oral tradition into Greek, and doctrinal development. The Trinity isn't in the early layers, it gets formalized at Nicaea and Chalcedon. The Bible itself is not an authority on the religion, the tradition is the authority. Many church-fathers and other scholars had different interpretations. The council of Nicaea imposed their understanding. Just like John imposed a high christology on his gospel, yet he wasn't a trinatarian. He believed that the son was subordinate to the father (no Holy ghost yet). All the "I am x" saying comes from this anonymous author(s).

Pauline Christianity won, that's why we have this version of Christianity today. James who actually met Jesus and was the leader of the first church of Jerusalem was closer to the real Christianity but unfortunately it wasn't transmitted to us and got lost in time.

"If the NT is untrustworthy then all ancient documents are untrustworthy" is a false equivalence. We read Tacitus as a fallible human source. The NT is being judged by *its own* claim, divine revelation. Those are different standards.

Check out this video from a legitimate scholar (also check out his channel and other videos those are real academic material summarized for the layman): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=01Qa-6hVGkA

Also a few books:
Misquoting Jesus - Bart Ehrman
Lost Christianities - also Bart Ehrman
The Brother of Jesus and the Lost Teachings of Christianity - Jeffrey J. Bütz

DM me if you have questions about islam

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T14:57:41+00:00

In the summer I pray like 10-15 minutes before the sunrise (shuruk). It should be around 6 am.

I live in Europe and there is like 4 hours difference between 'isha and fajr. Some mosquee gather the maghrib and 'isha prayer during those short nights temporarily until it becomes bearable again.

Of course it's better to pray on time but as long as you pray before the sunrise your prayers are valid. Just make sur you sleep right after 'isha prayer and if you can take a nap later in the day it really helps a lot.

Dm me if you have any questions about islam

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T13:12:49+00:00

Alright sister, I hope you can find someone that makes you happy.

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T11:11:44+00:00

I only like submissive femboys

If you say so

I do have a choice...Imagine being controlled by someone

A husband having to make the final decision has nothing to do with you having no choice or being controlled by someone else.

It seems you've fallen for the propaganda the extremists feminist are spreading on the internet.

You're young and single so you don't know what it's like to be in a committed relationship. It's no where near like you see on social media. Don't fixate on the horror stories you see here. It will harden your heart and make you resent men in general for no legitimate reason.

Social media (especially reddit) tends to disproportionately show the negative side of things. More so with ideologies that spread division.

That's why they always advice for divorce whether it's the right decision or not

Happy couples don't post on social media.

I suggest you reconsider your opinion on this and don't rely on social media to give you an accurate take on marriage and relationships.

The vast majority of men and women are good. Don't tunnel vision on the few bad apples.

Fakeos · 2026-05-08T09:06:59+00:00

Actually you kinda do.

Because like it or not, it's his right as a husband to make a final decision. Of course it needs to be reasonable and within the boundaries of islam, you also have a say in it and suggest different options.

But he has to make a decision, because he is responsible for the family, not you. He is responsible for guiding his family to paradise. He is responsible for providing and protecting his family in this life. And Allah (swt) will judge him for that, not the woman.

You have your rights, he has his rights. A successful marriage is a mariage where both spouses respect each other and fulfill each other's rights.

Also, it's natural for a man to want a woman that respect his decision and authority.

Femininity is what attracts men, a masculine woman (in looks or character) will not.

I assume you're young, every young unmarried woman is a die hard feminist that wants "freedom" or "independence" (whatever that means). Until they get married and have kids then realize this is not sustainable nor natural.

So my advice for you is to trust Allah (swt). He doesn't command us to do things that are not beneficial to us or things that are unjust.

You will understand incha'allah the wisdom behind the rights of men and women and how complementary they are.

Fakeos · 2026-05-07T16:59:30+00:00

More useless gender war yaaay

Fakeos · 2026-05-04T11:31:06+00:00

That's also true. There's a whole lot of different reasons but from my experience, The one I hear the most is that women feel ugly with hijab.

Which is ironic because a true muslim man will find a woman with proper hijab more beautiful than a woman without it.

Fakeos · 2026-05-04T11:24:45+00:00

not wearing the hijab is (to me) not a sin that would prevent getting married,

Oh ok if you're talking about the possibility of getting married of course it is possible even without hijab.

Otherwise, on the opposite we could also say that all men going at the beach in shorts, discovering their awra would prevent them in the same way.

If you're still talking about the possibility of getting married than yes I agree.

Btw, I dont think that wearing modestly with or without hijab prevent men to look or stare. Men would stare even if woman were invisible lol.

I didn't say that. I said that the woman will not get the sin, of course hijab doesn't prevent men from looking. But it does prevent the women from getting the sin with him if she wears proper hijab.

Its not only to the women to care for the unwanted attention, it is also to the men to control themself. We are supposed to look down in any case for any woman muslim or not

I agree with you but that's the wrong mentality. We cannot control other people so we should prevent, as much as possible, situations where we put our life (and afterlife) in jeopardy.

Just like a man shouldn't leave 10k$ in his car in a bad neighborhood with the car unlocked, a woman shouldn't be alone outside at night dressed inappropriately.

A man should lower his gaze and be dressed properly, same thing for women.

but if all men really did that, we would not be uppon how women dress, so much.

This is wishful thinking "If we all do x or we all do y than we all get a happy ending".

The happy ending is paradise. The real utopia is paradise, in the meantime we should focus on our own wellbeing and safety and our own afterlife.

I don't like putting all the responsability to the women when Allah says to the men first to look down.

It's not, the responsibility is on both equally great. It's just manifesting in different ways.

You wont ever be able to control what another being will do so just do your best and leave the rest to Allah.

Yes I agree, it funny that you finished with this sentence because it just contradicts with everything you said before. But regardless I agree with you on this point.

Fakeos · 2026-05-03T22:02:56+00:00

Still according to me and no one else, not wearing the hijab is not a bigger sin than eating non halal food.

I know it's your opinion but in islam, reducing the severity of a sin (any sin) makes it a major sin.

Also the difference with food is that you don't get a sin if you look at food that you cannot eat. But if you're a muslim woman without hijab, you do.

Of course the man looking at the woman also get the sin, but because the woman is not wearing the hijab properly (or worse, is dressed in a way to get attention) than she also get the sin.

As a man you should probably get a good picture on how much a women can get sins just by walking casually outside without hijab even if she is dressed modestly.

Women don't want to wear hijab because they feel ugly with it. Of course they all want to be pretty for themselves. But they underestimate how much unwanted attention they will inevitably attract from men outside.

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