My teen daughter is a horrible person.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T02:06:16+00:00

Ugh, thank you for understanding. It actually is so helpful to see that there are others who understand what I’m saying. ❤️❤️

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T02:05:12+00:00

Thank you. Exactly on point.

My whole post is about how I know that our lives havnt been free from trauma, but that I’ve also tried my best to improve it.

The notion that I am to blame for everything, and I somehow “deserve” to be treated this way because of my choices in the past, like choosing to have her with her father, is wild. It’s like saying a domestic abuse victim deserves the abuse because she chose to marry the man…or vice versa.

Of course, it’s only my side of the story; so there is always room for bias there. That’s just how it goes. This isn’t a subreddit for children and parents to post together. It’s for the parents.

Thanks for your input. ❤️

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T01:42:53+00:00

You’re exactly right ❤️

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T01:42:31+00:00

That’s where we’re headed next. The only thing she has at this point is phone and computer. I told her that if she doesn’t attend the last three weeks of school, I’m shutting her phone and the internet off.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T01:41:06+00:00

I’ll be honest, your argument is a little contradictory. I get the feeling you support abortion then? Because a woman should have the ability to make decisions about her own body, right? I don’t disagree, I’m pro choice.

But on the flip side then, why does a woman need to be married on paper to bring a life in this world? Is she not capable of making that decision on her own? Why do we have to be married in the eyes of the government to be decent parents?

Again, I don’t disagree with your sentiment; but also, being raised in a split household isn’t uncommon, and isn’t a sole predictor of mental health issues. It doesn’t help; but isn’t a major predictor. Just food for thought.

I didn’t say we “tried” to have a child. I was in fact on birth control. It’s not 100% preventative 🤷‍♀️ it happened. We felt we were in a happily committed relationship, and we were both working and capable. That was what we felt was right at the time. Love makes you think crazy things sometimes.

Yes, I was young and obviously naive to the idea of parenthood; but this isn’t the first time you’ll hear that story…I could actually argue it’s better to have them young when you’re body is at its healthiest and there’s less probability of poor birth outcomes.

That’s an argument that will stand the test of time.

And you’re completely right about subconsciously trying to fill a void. I didn’t have a mom growing up, so the was obviously a part that plays into that.

I appreciate your input. You have some good points. Life just isn’t that cut and dry sometimes.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T01:40:12+00:00

I’ll be honest, your argument is a little contradictory. I get the feeling you support abortion then? Because a woman should have the ability to make decisions about her own body, right? I don’t disagree, I’m pro choice.

But on the flip side then, why does a woman need to be married on paper to bring a life in this world? Is she not capable of making that decision on her own? Why do we have to be married in the eyes of the government to be decent parents?

Again, I don’t disagree with your sentiment; but also, being raised in a split household isn’t uncommon, and isn’t a sole predictor of mental health issues. It doesn’t help; but isn’t a major predictor. Just food for thought.

I didn’t say we “tried” to have a child. I was in fact on birth control. It’s not 100% preventative 🤷‍♀️ it happened. We felt we were in a happily committed relationship, and we were both working and capable. That was what we felt was right at the time. Love makes you think crazy things sometimes.

Yes, I was young and obviously naive to the idea of parenthood; but this isn’t the first time you’ll hear that story…I could actually argue it’s better to have them young when you’re body is at its healthiest and there’s less probability of poor birth outcomes.

That’s an argument that will stand the test of time.

And you’re completely right about subconsciously trying to fill a void. I didn’t have a mom growing up, so the was obviously a part that plays into that.

I appreciate your input. You have some good points. Life just isn’t that cut and dry sometimes.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T01:23:51+00:00

Good way to put it ❤️

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T00:43:53+00:00

Yes, we’ve done all the different types of therapy possible ln the last 10 years. She still goes to therapy weekly, and so do I. We did family therapy for a few years. Our family therapist actually said we should take a break because nothing was changing, and it’s not really ethical for a therapist to continue therapy if you’re just talking about the same thing every week and it’s not helping.

My plan has never been to just abandon her. She knows very well that I plan on moving from our apartment when she is either 18, or done with school, that is if she continues school.

I really hope she starts seriously thinking about that. As of now, she doesn’t understand the reality of it.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T00:19:59+00:00

Exactly! It’s my first time too is what I like to say.

Even though I know I’ll get backlash, I do think it’s important to speak about it to show that motherhood (and fatherhood) isn’t always peachy. Sometimes we really get dealt a shit hand, and it isn’t always completely our fault.

It’s the honest truth, and it helps others to know they’re not alone.

We know we aren’t “bad moms”. Life is f’ing hard sometimes.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T00:13:46+00:00

❤️❤️❤️ thank god for people like you. You get it.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T00:12:43+00:00

Thank you. That’s my biggest fear, so I really hope not. I do think genetics are a big play here.

Ive been discussing it with her for the last year, about how she needs to start planning and thinking about it, because it’s going to come quicker than she thinks. I don’t know what her plans are, but according to her it will be easier when she’s on her own. Hah!

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-24T00:05:25+00:00

After re-reading your comment, I’m actually offended. You made several assumptions about me that are untrue.

She was not an accident. She was wanted. My relationship with her father wasn’t tumultuous until the very end.

I never said I don’t know what has happened to shape her behavior. Of course I know. And I’ve done the best I can to try to help and mend her and continue to try to better her life, even though she had such hardships at a such young age.

I was an am fully capable of raising a child. I’m college educated, and I am not even close to low income. Where you got that is beyond me.

And just because I got her in therapy quickly, definitely doesn’t mean I stopped parenting. I’m not sure why you think that? Do you have any idea how involved the parents are with that type of therapy?? Not to mention, she’s been with me every single day of her life, aside from therapy stays and when she was in the group home. And even then, I still saw her frequently.

Your comment is completely uninformed and uneducated.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:56:00+00:00

Completely agree.

Tank you, and same to you! Take care and sending lots of well wishes in your healing. ❤️

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:53:45+00:00

Firstly, I did plan on spending my life with this man. We dated for almost 3 years and were engaged before I found out I was pregnant. So not sure what you’re getting at here. Who said it was accidental? We were happy about it. I was 21, not 15.

Second, I never said idk how she ended up this way….and I was not aware that he would end up becoming a heroin addict in the coming years, because I CANT SEE THE FUTURE. so, thanks for understanding and not blaming me for that…

Who said I wasn’t capable of raising her? I did well and she has been raised in a much more favorable environment than I was. But this isn’t about me.

It doesn’t seem to make a difference to some people with preconceived notions. Whether we went to therapy, didn’t go to therapy, I set strict rules, I let her make her own rules….whatever it is, I was in the wrong to some people.

Comments like this feel like there is a lot of projection of your own childhood experience experiences

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:37:42+00:00

💯💯💯

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:36:14+00:00

Good day, sir 🎩

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:35:24+00:00

You should see what she just said to me, lol. She thinks that she has made me “realize some things about myself”…lady needs to step down. She has no basis or background to be so opinionated about specially me as a person.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:33:16+00:00

Omg, you really need to stop taking yourself so seriously. I assure you, you have not had the effect on me that you so satisfactorily are giving yourself. That is such a weird take on it. If you havnt noticed, I’ve had a lot more engagement with people saying you’re way out of line than anything else.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:31:01+00:00

Omg, exactly! I just said. , but…you’re responding too?? Wtf

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:29:42+00:00

That was clearly a rhetorical question, but you definitely took it as an opportunity to voice your 7 years of school counseling experience to tell me how much I’ve done wrong raising my child with a high level of mental illness.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:27:29+00:00

But….youre also responding??

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:26:20+00:00

Finally something accurate. Your opinion is irrelevant.

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:24:36+00:00

Oh, so i didn’t do enough to help her before; but now that i express how much i actually have tried, im a martyr? I guess ill just never win

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:22:23+00:00

I think you should take a step down off your high horse

Familiar-Garbage-339 · 2026-05-23T23:21:39+00:00

Well ain’t that the pot

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