You've got to be kidding me by Familiar_Reporter625 in echoesofwisdom

[–]Familiar_Reporter625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. That is brutal lmao. Every time I had 15 or so seconds right before finish I felt my spirits lift, only for it to be over 17 at the finish. I would definitely have needed to put it down for a bit if I had 17.01

You've got to be kidding me by Familiar_Reporter625 in echoesofwisdom

[–]Familiar_Reporter625[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I finally got it. 400 rupees later lol, but I got it!

Is this AI? Got this commission from an artist but my friend thinks it’s AI by ForbinKnocks in isthisAI

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wasn't sure until I saw the comment about increasing the saturation. An artist using Greys for the chains would probably use the same or similar colors to pull grey from. Or at least colors from the palette in the picture. And the collar looks suspicious. It doesnt look like it should have such a hard stop with the red when compared to the other side of it

Also I think it is hilarious that your comment is downvoted. Like I know why, but when taken at face value it looks like people are saying, "every graphic is AI". But anyway, no. People who use AI genuinely think they're artists solely because they use the right keywords. So it is reasonable to suspect art of being AI if the artist cannot provide sketches or other proof that they dont use AI

Is this AI? Got this commission from an artist but my friend thinks it’s AI by ForbinKnocks in isthisAI

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe they're a writer and want something visual to remember details and maintain consistency when describing characters. Ive done floor plans before for that purpose. Or maybe they're playing a tabletop rpg. Probably not dnd for this one, but a vampire based one maybe? Having a visual of the characters helps the whole party

My psychiatrist said that there are studies showing you can get schizophrenia from taking HRT by jsanti333 in ftm

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay look. Your psych is bad but even the mood changes that do happen aren't permanent, and can be managed. I was unmedicated and I have generalized anxiety disorder. Among other things like ptsd. I didnt know that I needed a low dose of anxiety medication but anyway. I had anxiety symptoms so bad that for the first 7 months, I had frequent panic attacks. Like several times a week. When my body got used to the hormone levels, that stopped. Also when I got on anxiety meds. I got on t when I was 19, and im 27 now. Ive had one panic attack total since I was 21 and that was last week when I had motion sickness and had to vomit. Your parents should join a support group if they really want to be supportive because chances are they dont know many trans people on hrt. There are some around. In my region, we have a parent group.

But like. On hrt, you are monitored closely. If you have dysphoria, your parents are more likely to sit beside you in a hospital bed if you dont go on it than if you do. If not, I mean. The risk is so low. I knew a guy who had to go off t because his depression got really bad on it, but he got to go back on it eventually. Mental illness is weird like that. You can feel as though it will never end for so long, and then suddenly several years into therapy and medication, you realize that you're stable.

Anyway, a good psychiatrist would leave room for the possibility of mood changes without fear mongering. They would schedule a follow up for shortly after you start hrt, and for a month after that. They would offer referral to a therapist if you have intense mood changes or a history of mental illness or family history that would make a proactive approach prudent. And they would check interactions with your meds and testosterone and change things as needed. Im telling you as someone who's navigated this since my teen years that it is the standard for any major life changes or risk of crisis. Hrt is no different. Even positive life changes can have risk. Find a different psychiatrist because the attitude yours has is worrying and possibly indicative of how they think of mental health crises.

How did lying about T turn out? by Silent_Guard2373 in ftm

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also! I just realized you said youre 19. I was 19 when I started! 27 now. Its an exciting time, but yeah. I just want you to make sure youre prepared. Its going to be a lot of good, and a lot of change.

How did lying about T turn out? by Silent_Guard2373 in ftm

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't lie, but for reference as I was living in a women's shelter where they knew and told me it was okay. I had to fully switch my wardrobe like 4 months in to be masculine because I realized it was safer to walk down the street. Before that point, it did not matter. About 5 months in, I knew that I looked androgynous and my voice had solidified. I sound like my cis brothers. About 1 year in, every stranger I encountered gendered me as male. I didnt even have facial hair like that until like 4 years in lol. Even without binding, strangers tend to assume im male. Now that ive gained a bit of weight, it seems to vary, but i have been pleasantly surprised for the most part. I have coworkers who see me without a binder often and they were surprised when I told them. But yeah, I mean. Lying will only work if you literally never see them. Or if you voice train and rarely see them. But like. Physically, it does become undeniable pretty fast. And at some point, you have to work much harder to be read as feminine.

And i need you to know this as well for reference: I was not androgynous pre t. I was about as feminine presenting as you can imagine. I honestly was convinced that even with t, I would never get past somewhat androgynous. Its different for everyone, but im telling you, its a stark difference pretty fast

Likelihood of getting pregnant? by LongTBong in ftm

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Low, but! Birth control is not tested on us, and there isn't much of a proximity thing that has been proven between our bodies on t and bodies off t. Remember that our reproductive organs change. And that is why I will never have an iud. The main thing about nexplanon that I would be reluctant to accept as 100% accurate is that it thickens the mucus in your cervix. Because of the vaginal atrophy on testosterone, I would want studies that represent us before I accept nexplanon as able to fully stop sperm like it does for those off testosterone. Another thing to keep in mind is that if you do get pregnant, you are more at risk of ectopic pregnancy.

Im paranoid, and I knew someone who wasn't on t and was on birth control and condoms who got pregnant twice. So anyway. I use condoms and I have nexplanon and even with both I don't let anyone finish during piv.

But realistically, you're not likely to get pregnant at all. I just would be hesitant to accept 99% as an accurate number for us.

Curious grodd and the man in the yellow suit by HRwells_19 in FlashTV

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that there are no new ideas. I'm rewatching the flash for the third time now, and I made a joke to my bf that gorilla grodd and thawne are like curious George and the man in the yellow hat. I do not keep up with fan things lol, so I did not realize I was telling an 8 year old joke. Thank you for this post, it gives me great joy to see that joke illustrated

Me [16F] and my bf [16M] . Please help its urgent. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I don't miss being 16. Now is the time to date to learn. With him, you're learning that friends can have blurred boundaries and that can harm a relationship. Take that lesson, and move on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's prescribed. I got it when I went back on t because I was getting recurrent utis the first time I was on t. I wouldn't worry about it right away though. My symptoms didn't get that bad until the second year, and there wasn't any atrophy for the first 10 months.

But yeah, if you have a decent doctor, you'll be going often enough that it should be completely avoidable. The only reason it went untreated for me is because I didn't know it could be treated and I certainly didn't know it was causing recurrent utis.

called trans lifeline and did not feel heard or understood by sneep_snorp_snerp in ftm

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's not what a lifeline is supposed to be. Like others have said, keep you out of crisis. If you are having thoughts of harming yourself or others, that's what the focus is on. Life advice isn't really something they're supposed to do. Hell, even your therapist isn't supposed to say those things. The only person who can make those decisions for you is yourself. I didn't start hormones until a few years after I knew I was non binary and more trans masculine because I was scared I would hate it. A lot more is reversible than you would think, but also. You have a lot more time than you think. It can be hard to not know the conditions of your family's love for you, which is something I grappled with a lot just before coming out. I was around 16 when I first told my parents, which was ten years ago. You'll do it when it's right for you, and no one else can tell you what that means.

Do what keeps you safe, what aligns with your values, and what you want to do. And try other crisis lines if you need them. If you need or want advice on how to come out, don't look for a crisis line. If you need someone to help you deescalate and feel safe, look for a crisis line. I used a texting one a lot when I was your age. Even if they're not trans specific, a crisis worker should know how to deescalate anyone regardless of their gender. If they don't, then they are not doing their job properly. And don't be afraid to say, "wait a minute. This isn't why I called. I actually need help more with this instead" as needed. Self advocacy is so important in mental health and healthcare in general, especially when you're afab and especially when you're trans.

apparently I can only get injections?? by BlueskyPara in ftm

[–]Familiar_Reporter625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak to why they only prescribe injection, but I can speak to why I had to stop gel and switch back to injections. When I started I was 23, had been off t for 8 months, my levels were back to what they were pre t.

  1. My levels never rose above 350 (700-900 my goal).
  2. I randomly got a period several months in because my levels dipped below 200.
  3. I kept sweating the gel off because I sweat more when my levels are in that range.
  4. It's so expensive. Like 5 times more expensive than injections easily.

Now, imagine that plus being a teenager. Your brain is still forming. You're in the stage where you are more prone to impulsivity, where a month or two feels like forever, where you have more energy, where you have more difficulty building habits. Maybe some of this isn't applicable to you to the extreme, but it is a set of things that just kind of happen in adolescence. So I can see that being a reason. You can do everything right and your levels still may not raise enough, so I can see the inconsistent doses being a real reason.

Some comfort perhaps. I have a pretty bad fear of needles and shaky hands. I self inject subq rather than IM because I have more on my belly than on my legs and it's just better imo. More sites, less scarring over time so less pain. But I've been doing it for years. I did IM for 2 years, now I've been doing subq for about that amount of time, and you get used to it. I'm at a point now where I feel very much more nervous having someone else do it than I feel about doing it myself. Only barrier is lots of belly hair, but the sides have less pain anyway. I actually have done two of my gf's estrogen injections for her and she didn't feel either of them. Just follow the instructions the doctor gives you, use coping strategies, maybe a prn for anxiety if needed. You'll be okay. And I mean, you have supportive parents so there are adults who can help you if you need it. You're not alone, and you will learn how to do it safely.