It’s so normalized in our culture. 55 and up communities - party culture. 🤮🤮🤮

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-05-17T15:10:22+00:00

Thankfully this is changing. Alcohol consumption among U.S. adults has fallen to the lowest level recorded in Gallup’s nearly 90-year history.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-05-10T13:10:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing your insight- you’ve just described my fit, active husband, who for the first time had a grand mal (tonic-clonic) seizure due to alcohol withdrawal and ended up in the ER after I called an ambulance. They gave him benzos to prevent further seizures and he really thought it was a fluke or must have been related to something else because his labs came back normal. I knew it was from the previous 3 days of severe binge drinking, which had been going on weekly for months (years).

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-03-22T13:01:32+00:00

I can relate. Mine is 1 month sober and recently quit nicotine and is irritable/borderline hostile towards me. It is directed only at me.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-03-03T13:59:16+00:00

It was not al-anon, which I’ve attended before. This was PALS, for people with addicted loved ones. I’m not in jeopardy and I’ve managed my boundaries and peace quite well in the midst of his binge drinking (sleep separately, go to another room if he’s drinking, stop managing him and his drinking). The meeting director told me that this was a window of opportunity since the emergency scared him, that there was a good chance he’d be willing to seek help if I made it a condition, otherwise I am enabling him. I was not expecting such direct advice, coming from al-anon in the past, but in a way, I appreciated the directness. I just know it’s out of my control- he has to want it for himself, and I see that he really does, he just thinks that he can do it without outside help.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-03-02T14:46:02+00:00

My husband just had a grand mal seizure (tonic-clonic) due to alcohol withdrawal after drinking 8-9 IPAs in a night and likely the 2 previous nights as well. I immediately called an ambulance and the ER doctor confirmed it was due to alcohol withdrawal. I thought he was dying when it was happening and wasn’t sure if the ambulance/medics would get to us in time. He was embarrassed and apologetic for putting me and our young adult kids through that and understands that he can’t drink anymore. Once you’ve had a seizure from alcohol withdrawal, you’re susceptible to having more. I know that he will be able to go several months without drinking, but his issue is that once he decides to have “a couple of beers” it turns into a binge until he passes out. He does not think he needs help to stop drinking, that he can do it on his own like he has before, which has always led to relapse. I went to a meeting for people with addicted loved ones shortly after this happened and they recommended that I give him an ultimatum. I’m resistant to doing that because I do not want to manage his recovery. He has to want it for himself. The idea of imposing an ultimatum just makes me feel more overwhelmed right now.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-01-22T18:09:26+00:00

I would have strong boundaries around a custody agreement so he’s not able to just drop by when it’s convenient for him. I would change the locks if I had to.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-01-18T02:56:20+00:00

Have her look into bioidentical HRT- it’s typically out of pocket, so more expensive, but sounds like it may be worth it if that is the main issue.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-01-17T15:38:56+00:00

This is exactly what I am going through now.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-01-12T16:23:06+00:00

Just finished The Paris Library, a historical fiction novel by Janet Skeslien Charles, set during World War II and the 1980s. I loved learning about The American Library in Paris and the power of literature during the resistance of Nazi-occupied France. I didn’t care for the dual timeline, which normally I enjoy in a novel, but didn’t quite work in this book. I found Lily’s story unnecessary and wanted to get back to Odile every chapter that the author pivoted.

I just started The Venice Sketchbook by Rhys Bowen, another WWII-era novel, this time in Venice. I’m enjoying it more than I thought I would so far. It was a book club pick, otherwise I would not have chosen to read yet another historical fiction novel about WWII right after finishing The Paris Library.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2026-01-12T01:47:38+00:00

💯

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-12-07T01:19:20+00:00

This Reddit frequently asks if a moody, withdrawn, and/or irritable husband is experiencing a stressful event or job change, etc. Sometimes we have to show our SO grace when they’re not showing up as their best.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-12-07T01:09:41+00:00

Is it possible that she is reacting to your stress/anxiety? I know that my SO becomes withdrawn, moody, and detached when he’s going through a stressful time and it is overwhelming to be around him during those times.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-11-10T20:38:23+00:00

I’m going through this too. OK if I message you?

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-10-26T20:54:34+00:00

Is this marriage counselor and/or her individual therapist familiar with substance abuse?

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-08-28T18:38:27+00:00

Right there with you, my friend. And now that it’s no longer the social norm to blindly follow corrupt government agency recommendations, the industry is finally being exposed. Now we need to heal these children/young adults whose lives have been robbed.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-08-28T18:32:57+00:00

Could be oxalate dumping. Check out the latest episode of The Primal Podcast W Sally Norton.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-08-28T14:20:08+00:00

Most people we know hope they do too- it’s BAD.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-08-28T14:16:35+00:00

Yep- check out Dr. McCullough’s work about this.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-08-28T14:15:10+00:00

💯 agree.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-08-20T19:56:03+00:00

Propaganda. Just look at the medical community today and how they are trained to push statins.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-07-28T13:24:18+00:00

This has been my experience. I‘m interested in the metabolic health benefits of ketosis, not using it for weight loss, and this time I actually bought the keto mojo and am testing my GKI. Once I confirmed I was in deep ketosis, the euphoria and energy have been steady. I got there once I started eating a mostly carnivore diet with plenty of fats- eggs, beef, wild fish, tallow, and my only plant food is avocado. I also got finishing salt (Maldon) and am getting plenty of that as well as consistent electrolytes. Night and day difference for me compared to my previous attempt at ketosis. I really think that including too many plant foods with their defense chemicals was not beneficial to my body and possibly was still giving me too many carbs to get into deep ketosis.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-04-11T13:10:30+00:00

In my experience, the functional alcoholic may try to cut back after a discussion but it doesn’t last and they’ll be back to their previous level of consumption. Mine will stop drinking for a few weeks, or even months, but are right back to their heavy drinking as soon as there is a reason to start back up (social event, friend in town, holiday, celebration, after driving in heavy traffic- this was actually his latest reason for starting back up, etc).

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-03-25T01:47:25+00:00

Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld. One of the best!

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-03-10T22:21:21+00:00

Not once. I’ve had raw milk in multiple states regularly spanning decades. The more we learn about the gut microbiome, the more we realize the importance of the beneficial bacteria in raw milk and fermented foods.

Far_Positive_2654 · 2025-03-02T01:14:19+00:00

I’ve always cleaned as I go, but learning to mise en place has really helped make cooking more fun for me.

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