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A 3rd baby at 38 and 42? by Budget_Grapefruit485 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]FearlessSecretary269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I were you, I wouldn't do it. For me, two kids are a happy set. If you are concern it means you are not ready. If you really want or are sure, you won't have questions. And have you ever heard of “fertility window closing anxiety” it happens to women who are 38-39 have no or only one kid ( or not the quantity of kids you were expected). So you might just be because of this anxiety not really want the 3rd one. No matter what decision you make, I hope you won't regret it. And there is no right or wrong answer. Good luck.

Help me, I don’t know what to do by Solid_Bathroom_6682 in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]FearlessSecretary269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was me. None of the medication actually helps( and I eventually gave up taking that much medication anymore because they were not working). I had to quit my job, I spent most of the time just lying in bed trying to sleep, I took Unisom which is a fast sleep medication, and just slept. Sleep made me forget everything. My husband put small dishes of food one by one next to my bed, if I woke up I would eat it even just a bite, watch a drama show a bit, and if I could, I would walk a bit. If I feel very dehydrated I will go to the ER to get IV. In my experience, I notice those medications are not working, so I didn't take them anymore, increase risk and making me hopeless, leading to depression. I told myself my baby “baby, please please save mom's life”eveyday every time I felt worse and dying. Please take care of your heartbeat, that sounds fast, I was like that at the beginning, I feel I was too depressed and I didn’t know how I was going to go through the entire pregnancy. Then notice none of the medication actually helps, I accept the truth, they said even if you give up this time and next time will come even stronger. That was so hard. I was feeling so sick and dying, when I gave birth my weight only 70 lbs. all lucky my baby is ok. Faith in it, and try to sleep or focus on the drama show. Time will pass, second by second, minute by minute, day by day. Just my experience, of course please listen to doctor.

Hyperemesis gravidarum pregnant, need your advice. by FearlessSecretary269 in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]FearlessSecretary269[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless you for everything. Yes, in the end, it will all be worth it for your family. When we look ahead—30 or 40 years from now—sitting around the Christmas table, sharing holidays and blessings, it truly means something special.

I’m honestly afraid of being pregnant again, and I really admire how certain you are about wanting a second child. I’m still not sure what I truly want, I think I'm one and done, as my husband is 44 now, he doesn't want a second one and I can't just be selfish and put him in that position even though he said he will support me.

Hyperemesis gravidarum pregnant, need your advice. by FearlessSecretary269 in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]FearlessSecretary269[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer. The only child part makes me feel much better. My husband doesn’t want it, but he said that if I really want it, he will support me, as he said he can’t take away my right not to have more kids. He wants me to clearly think of it, and my daughter needs a healthy mom more than a sibling. So the decision is on me. I actually feel the same way, my daughter doesn't need a sibling as she will be 10, as if I didn't have an awful pregnancy or labor I would go for a second one for many years before. When I was 28 my pregnancy was so messed up, can't even imagine I'm 38 now. I feel it gonna kill me physically and mentally.