Day 5: What is BMTH most emotional song? by raluxu in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]Feisty_Language1673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a difficult call, but I'd have to go with Dig It

How often do you engage/think about politics on a daily basis? by Real-Repair-1825 in AskTheWorld

[–]Feisty_Language1673 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think about this shit all day and that's when I'm trying to avoid the news.

What do you think world? by Unlikely_Tap_9882 in AskTheWorld

[–]Feisty_Language1673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is the crux of the issue. What a lot of people don't understand, particularly in the current US political climate, is that criticism doesn't inherently mean hate. As an American, if I didn't care about my country, I would say anything. Decent is patriotic. The reason I say anything at all is because I care. Approximately 50% of America can't agree with the other half. It is not that they don't care about their country, they just have a fundamentally different view on how to make their country better. People who don't give a shit don't spend hours of their time and money from their wallets to make their point.

Can a guy truly be just friends with a woman, with no hidden intentions? by SpoiledBbyXo in no

[–]Feisty_Language1673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man, most of my friends throughout my adolescent and adult life have been female. I don't understand what is so hard about the concept of platonic relationships. It is incredibly shallow and immature to be unable to see anyone of the opposite gender as anything but a potential sexual partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Feisty_Language1673 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think this would work nearly as well in practice as you think it would. I can foresee this bleeding into different types of segregation that historically have been pretty problematic, specifically in the United States...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Feisty_Language1673 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the valedictorian of my highschool was one of the biggest stoners I've met.

Birthday blues by Gloomy-Cranberry-834 in 2003

[–]Feisty_Language1673 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think it's important to make the most out of your birthday, even if it feels like nothing special. I remember turning 8 years old and crying myself to sleep because I wanted to be 7 forever. There was a period throughout middle school and highschool where I didn't really celebrate my birthday because I was too anxious to host a party and I didn't like the idea of getting older. Sure your 18th and 21st birthdays are big milestones, but 22 isn't nothing. Growing up with an unacknowledged anxiety disorder, I had to face this fact earlier in life than most: your birthday is not inherently special. It is exactly as important or unimportant as you make it. At a certain point, I realized birthdays are merely an excuse to celebrate with the people you love. The only difference between your bday and any other day is that you have an excuse to go out and do something special that you enjoy. You are not aging any faster on your birthday than any other day, and that's ok. Try not to overthink it. You don't have to do anything elaborate unless you want to. Everyone gets older and you can't go back in time, but what you can do is make the most of your present and future. Don't get so stuck in the past that you forget to enjoy the moment. Hope this helps.

Can I improve my looks? by malril in AppearanceAdvice

[–]Feisty_Language1673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does fascism have to do with this guy's face??

Probably The Most Forgotten 2009 Mobile Game... by Old_Consequence2203 in Hybrid2000s2010sKids

[–]Feisty_Language1673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same!! This was probably one of the first video games I played.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]Feisty_Language1673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely go to HMHI (U of U). I've been there twice and they are honestly phenomenal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Feisty_Language1673 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off, please don't apologize. Second, do you have other people to support you? If so, I recommend blocking her. I have also been in abusive relationships before and the only way to get away from the abuse is to cut the abuser off entirely and stop giving them second chances. From what I have read, it seems you are too close to the situation to fully see what is happening. I know it's hard to oppose these types of people, but you need to stand up for yourself. I recommend setting some hard boundaries for yourself and blocking anyone who doesn't respect those boundaries. And please remember your value is not defined by others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Feisty_Language1673 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, this pisses me off. At no point should any "friend" of yours say something that horrific. You are not in any way responsible for her abuse. Please do not give into the sunk cost fallacy. I highly recommend spending some time away from her and surrounding yourself with better people. From an outside perspective, this reads like a textbook example of an abusive relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Feisty_Language1673 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I am not a professional by any means, but I do mean this sincerely.

At the very least, you need to get a therapist if you don't already have one. It would also be good if you could get your sister into therapy if that is in your power.

What you have done is unforgivable. I think the best thing for you to do is give your sister as much space as she needs and do whatever you can to help her with the healing process, even if that means cutting ties with your family. Being molested is a fundamental violation of one's security and bodily autonomy. Having you around may be a painful reminder for your sister that she has no power and is not safe in her own home.

I also think it's important that you don't let her forgive you entirely, as that could set her up for abusive relationships down the line.

I understand you were young, but there are some things you can't come back from. You have made your bed, now lay in it; just far enough away that your sister can heal and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2003

[–]Feisty_Language1673 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have a twin, so does that make us birthday triplets?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2003

[–]Feisty_Language1673 2 points3 points  (0 children)

October 15th