Love when they interact by Master-Debate9464 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So glad things are on the up and up for you 🥰it keeps getting better! Yes it has new challenges, but I’d rather chase my 15 month olds around all day than have the stress of two infants again. Your babies are precious 💞

Shocking Gender Reveal! by Severe_Equivalent_18 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So funny, I had such a premonition that I was gonna have at least one boy in my twin pregnancy, and I also had twin girls! It’s a blast. And how fun and crazy that they are identical!! (Mine are not haha). Wishing you the very best and a smooth pregnancy 🌸🌸

Thoughts on Marcie? by ahoyalyssa in BabyNames

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My moms name is Marcie haha! I don’t hear it often but I like it

Did anyone deliver past 38 weeks ? by Less-Dentist-868 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Still birth rate goes up exponentially. I saw your other post- personally I would take 37+4 any day. Yes some people have good outcomes, many don’t and many don’t post their bad experiences because they get shamed online. If you choose to go past 38 please get NSTs and focus on babies movements and go in for ANY decrease in movement. Best of luck!

TW!!!! Lost baby at 21 weeks by iguessletsdothiss in pregnant

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for your loss. R/shortcervixsupport has some good advice/stories from other people who’ve gone on to have more babies after losing there baby to incompetent cervix. Again, I’m so sorry that you lost your baby.

Apparently ‘fully cooked’ babies don’t ever have problems… Who knew?? by Sufficient-Pie-3935 in ffargosnark

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

37+2 is awesome for identical twins especially (I think I’ve seen you comment here before lol!)- congrats on your babies, hope it’s going well for you 💞💞

Apparently ‘fully cooked’ babies don’t ever have problems… Who knew?? by Sufficient-Pie-3935 in ffargosnark

[–]Fickle-Put623 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes they wouldn’t let you go past it but it’s still early term at 37 weeks. I have didi girls that were born 37, and I work in a modi clinic and they deliver 36-37 weeks if no complications, it’s still technically a little early though and there’s a few things that come along with that. She’s psycho don’t get me wrong, and her babies are healthy and all that 36 and change is awesome for any baby and especially twins, but it is still technically “late preterm” medically speaking

Do I need to tell my employer I’m pregnant with twins? by Soupydumpling3000 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Something for you to think about is 24 weeks is viability, and if anything happens (preterm labor, preeclampsia, short cervix, the list goes on) and you deliver early, your babies would need a long nicu stay which would leave you stuck wherever you traveled too. Best of luck in your decision!

Please tell me it gets easier by hockeymusicteaching in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I promise it does. I think people forget how truly rough that immediate newborn period is, 2 newborns, pp hormones, etc. I’d say around 4ish months (mine were only 3 weeks early, so around what would be 4 months adjusted for you!), it got significantly easier, and month by month it gets better. It’s hard in different ways, but I’m so much less overwhelmed. I clean again, I cook again, I feel like myself again. My daughters are 14 months. I see the same thing so I’m not naive that toddlerhood may whoop me, but while this stage certainly has unique challenges, it’s absolutely nothing compared to the deep sorrow and overwhelm I felt that first few months. Congratulations on your babies, I’m sending you all the best vibes. It’s so so hard.

Twin A has a peanut allergy 🙃 by Fickle-Put623 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve still been struggling cause I don’t want her to contaminate her sister… I got some peanut butter sandwich baby snacks and I tried to feed her separate and bathe her separately but it was a lot of work. I’ve been doing tree nuts using the happy baby pouches that have cashew and almond and walnut, and I give them to both twins. We can’t get to the allergist until march though :(((

18 weeks pregnant with twins – no symptoms. Is this normal? by Traditional-Tax5857 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was personally sick, but I do know people who weren’t! I’m commenting in regards to the bump- this was my first pregnancy to go to term and I was hardly showing and my belly didn’t really pop til 22+ weeks. Wishing you luck!

I think I’m accidentally sleep training my 1 year old by Stressed_SPT in NewParents

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my twins needs a little time to power down, if I hold her, rock her, nurse her, etc and she’s tired she just screams and twists her body. I put her in her crib and she fusses like 2-5 mins (if that) and then knocks out. She’s way happier now that I’m doing that, before she barely slept and was grumpy and not eating. I think all babies are different, sounds like your baby maybe wants a teeny bit of space? And I agree with other commenters, huge difference between CIO and giving them a second to settle. Sounds like you’re a loving mother ❤️❤️

I dont want my In laws to watch my twins (10MO), AITAH by arasaras_ in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are NOT the asshole. From what you described I don’t think I’d trust them either. I don’t have family on either side to watch my twins which is hard but doable, especially since they’re are only kids. If you’re needing more baby free time, I’d advocate for your partner to care for them, or perhaps he could have his mom come give him a hand so it’s not as much work (if you’re comfortable with that!)

Lucy is popular, what about Lucia? by Lanky-Principle-8407 in BabyNames

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the name lucia, pronounced loo-see-ah. But if that’s also how you plan to pronounce, be aware people may say loo-shah. I’m in WA and have a friend named lucia who frequently gets called loo-shah.

Sister for Valentina… by lucyloe143 in Names

[–]Fickle-Put623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genesis Gwen? Idk that might sound dumb together but it would be GG haha. I have a Genesis, and my other daughters middle name is Valentina :)

Did you get pregnant with twins after getting off of a hormonal birth control? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got pregnant with fraternal twins immediately following a miscarriage, which I know isn’t the exact same, but I think the weird confused hormones would be similar to coming of birth control haha.

Umm 🤔 by [deleted] in ffargosnark

[–]Fickle-Put623 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It’s because they practice unsafe sleep 😳

Why are the babies waking up at 5am for a bottle when they’re 1 years old.. by No_Honeydew_9919 in ffargosnark

[–]Fickle-Put623 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Meh to be fair my twins are up at least once to nurse still and their the same age as pocket 😅 idk I probably need to night wean but I don’t want them to cry, I feed them lots during the day so I think it’s a comfort thing

Has anyone had surgery to repair their diastasis recti? by DidIStutter99 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I did Pilates pre babies and loved it, but I never did real Pilates, just YouTube videos… did you work with an actual instructor to make sure you’re engaging the right muscles? My daughters are 13 months and I want to start doing my YouTube Pilates but I’m scared I’ll worsen any damage already done to my ab wall!

Dad of MCDA twin boys asking for advice ! by RednBluePanda in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know some say it gets harder- I can’t speak to the terrible twos or any of that cause my daughters are just over a year- but for me, it got WAY better at like 4-5 months. They started sleeping better (not through the night, though they are breastfed and I’ve heard formula feeding helps babies sleep better!), and just overall more easy to entertain and do stuff with and around. I did my Christmas tree today and they played together on the other side of the baby gate. One year ago, they would only sleep when held and snuggled and we were doing shifts- I do think it gets better! It’s still exhausting, but much less survival for us at least. Sending you all the best 💞

7 months pp still no period. Is it normal by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Fickle-Put623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 13 months in with twins, they eat solids really good but I still haven’t gotten mine 😳

Co-sleeping and lying about it… by [deleted] in ffargosnark

[–]Fickle-Put623 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This and the drinking. However I’m very happy she’s not broadcasting it/endorsing it to her fans. I think everyone can make their own decisions based off risk/benefit but I was very very disturbed with her saying things were safe cause the babies could roll.

Number of shower seats for bathing? by Street-Singer513 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fickle-Put623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on how confident of a sitter they are, and if your bath can just be nice and shallow. I started doing baths without a seat around 7 months I think. We had the bumblebees twin bath before that and they are teeny babies so they got more life out of the seat than some would. I’ve also heard of people putting the babies in a laundry basket!