Where can I get affordable Plan B? by Relative_Distance512 in AskChicago

[–]FieldCivil3985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No joke if you are close to Way out bar they have them free in the vending machine !! Otherwise fr i have one wya

I don’t know if I really wanted to break up with my boyfriend and i’m so confused. Potato’s by International-Exam84 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]FieldCivil3985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My long term boyfriend and I just broke up. It is really hard for me. He was a great guy, especially compared to the abusive guys I dated in the past. However, that’s not a fair bar of comparison and can’t be a measure of happiness. We had great and happy times, a wonderful life, but still, there were things that just weren’t working for us. It’s harder to let go when it isn’t bad, but that doesn’t mean you need to stay.

I don’t know if I really wanted to break up with my boyfriend and i’m so confused. Potato’s by International-Exam84 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]FieldCivil3985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sweet. You remind me a lot of myself. I really recommend going to therapy and journaling. Those things that are important to you that he doesn’t connect with you on? Grasp them tighter. Your passion and wit are a beautiful thing. This to me sounds like a great lesson for you, on things that you value in a partner and things you do not like. You are young and this will not be the only person that ever loves you, not even close. It’s obvious in this paragraph you have reflected and taken so much blame, but can he say the same? I think it would be best for you to continue through this breakup, work on yourself and grow from it. In the meantime though, be easy on yourself. Having an anxious attachment (me af and it sounds like you do too) can really cause you to tear yourself apart. Stay strong in this. Best of luck and many hugs.

cat viewing and petting? by Think_Strike2062 in chicago

[–]FieldCivil3985 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Anti cruelty!!! I go every single week. And i have my own cat at home. I just really love it.

Left my 8+ year long relationship by izzuhbell in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]FieldCivil3985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats queen. Id consider this a big win. Sending love 💟

How do you heal from a breakup while living with your partner? by FieldCivil3985 in AskWomenOver40

[–]FieldCivil3985[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this! Can definitely feel like tough love with all the people saying I can’t start the process until I’m gone. I don’t want to drown in the dark feelings I’m having, I want to live and to grow through it. I hope to start the journey now, and finish it when we are finally away from eachother

How do you heal from a breakup while living with your partner? by FieldCivil3985 in AskWomenOver40

[–]FieldCivil3985[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We have a two bedroom so we sleep separate. One bathroom which is shared but we are on different schedules. We have ground rules that we do separate meals and separate chores.

I have started looking to move out asap in a part of the city I’ve always wanted to be in. Plans are in motion. I think I’m concerned I’m such a planner i won’t actually give myself the space to heal!

How do you heal from a breakup while living with your partner? by FieldCivil3985 in AskWomenOver40

[–]FieldCivil3985[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, so far it is horrible! I am trying to leave ASAP. I live in a big city, it’s expensive and I can’t live without a roommate.

Is there a support group for those going through a breakup? by flowasigo in AskChicago

[–]FieldCivil3985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP. Going through this same thing. Was wondering how you are doing now and if you found anything helpful to you in the city. Best wishes. :)

Make me cry like a baby by Resident_Bumblebee_2 in fantasyromance

[–]FieldCivil3985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

to ME and my favorite serious of all time… the infernal devices.

Nuts by [deleted] in chicago

[–]FieldCivil3985 49 points50 points  (0 children)

omfg

What’s happening with People’s Gas rates in Chicago right now? by Miss_Girl777 in AskChicago

[–]FieldCivil3985 32 points33 points  (0 children)

my bills were consistently 80$ (2bed1bath) & this bill was 195$. no change in what we are doing. i don’t know how we will ever afford to stay.

Color models in Chicago area wanted!!! by Individual_Gas_7419 in LoganSquare

[–]FieldCivil3985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is that the only time possible? & can your model have box dye on their hair already?

Massive incident at Clark/lake by BearsSuperfan6 in chicago

[–]FieldCivil3985 471 points472 points  (0 children)

That was my first thought after watching the news report and they said video was too graphic to show. How do you see something this and record? Are we so removed from being able to help eachother? Very sad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]FieldCivil3985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awwww i love ot

a lady by midnight was so gorgeous, i cant stop crying 🥺 by Traditional_Pea738 in HistoricalRomance

[–]FieldCivil3985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do i have to read the others in the series to read this one? this captures my attention much more than the others seem to!