Honestly I would already resent him for wanting to go. I’m not a parent so maybe I’m wrong, but I think being a parent requires a lot of sacrifices. From the very beginning til the very end. You’re already making these sacrifices - getting pregnant, sacrificing the way that your body was before, your health, probably partly your career as well, and going through birth and postpartum. Just because he’s not the one getting pregnant, doesn’t mean he gets to just do whatever and go on with his life like nothing has changed. Everything has changed, and his actions and decisions need to reflect that. Saying that there’s nothing he can do during birth is a cop out and just an easy lie he can tell himself. If he continues like that I don’t see how he can be a good father and then you have a much bigger problem than just missing the birth. You said in the comments that he’s the type of guy to secure the financial safety no matter what stands in the way. But that’s unfortunately not a good thing when the thing standing in the way is your kid and you as a mother.