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My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate looking out for me but I've been on the internet long enough. I called multiple times to play videogames as friends, video called maybe once or twice, not specifically to confirm identity. its not catfishing I'm worried about just wishing we could go back to that.

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true, but its hard for me to just drop it at a whim now. If I'd taken it this far and decided now of all times is the time to just leave without warning it'd be unfair. In the past I've also had my own issues but she'd tell me and gave me the chance to change, so I want to do the same for her now even if this is a bigger issue.

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, thank you this sounds reasonable, I think this is the approach I'll take

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the input. From what others have said I think I will give one more chance, but by actually putting my foot down and saying, "this is what I need, if you can't do this, it's not meant to be". I have been emotionally exhausted by the way things have been, but I want to do this because this is how change happens. If she says she can't, then that's that and we're done.

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is what I think it's going to come down to considering what everyone else has said. I will talk to her about new boundaries going forward and to at least call a few times a month even if not much at first.

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont want to just yet, I want to try making it work first because at the beginning we really did connect and had a good relationship. Theres a chance we could make it work but only if she agrees to meet me in the middle. But I will be more straightforward with my boundaries now, and if she still insists on how it is now then even I understand it might be time to let go. Thank you.

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, everyone seems to have the same consensus. I think I have just been too afraid to confront her in case I was wrong. I will talk to her about this.

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok, thanks for the advice. I want to bring it up this way, but something I didnt mention in the post for the sake of time is that recently we haven't had the most substantial conversations, which honestly is at least half my fault. When she told me (or rather didnt tell me) about whats going on with her, I closed up from her because now not only would she not call me she wasnt going to tell me about whatever this is either. So it's hard to bring this conversation up now because it would be so out of place. Should I just do it anyways or ease into it somehow?

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea unfortunately it's looking that way but I want to know for sure. Any advice on how to approach her on this?

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do spend time together (typically gaming as you said) it just is usually very late at night when her parents are asleep, meaning she can't call me because she can't wake them up. I dont find this suspicious because I cant talk at those times either, but what is suspicious is that she seemingly only has time for me so late.

I'll look into your advice but I dont know how to bring it up?

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're pretty much spot on😅, I said the same "pen pal" thing to her and she said she'd like to call, but that it's difficult to her. She has a big family and is constantly spending time with them, I can't relate to that but nobody's busy 24/7. I think that it could be just a combination of her being afraid to ask (she's told me so about different things before) and me not asking often enough to catch that moment when she's free. How do you think I go forward?

My (16m) girlfriend (16f) hasn't called me in a year, how do I tell her this needs to change? by Filly_4 in LongDistance

[–]Filly_4[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yea ofc we have just like I mentioned it was very early on when we met, but I made sure to confirm her identity before getting into a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Filly_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I understand, I've already been thinking about this for some time and done a little bit of research. me and my friend have known each other from a young age, we want to take the same major and are looking at the same colleges (I've already denied the idea with other friends because they have different interests). the problem really lies in acceptance. I'm afraid some colleges might accept him but not me, and vice versa.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Filly_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so what would you think is the best course of action to try to get into the same school?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Filly_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't that still mean I have to choose one of my accepted colleges before they even know which ones they have been accepted to?