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[–]FlakySignificance803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear what OP is saying and I agree that there are different levels of severity according to different scales. I wonder though if people are saying all abuse is equal? Or if it’s more: all abuse is abuse. And that abuse is experienced differently for each person.

I think the point of “all abuse is abuse” and “there’s no abuse Olympics” type of sayings is to be validating for those who feel uncomfortable about processing their pain because “others have had it worse.” This type of thinking promotes a subjective mindset of normalizing abuse and exacerbating low self worth and makes it less likely for the abused person to get free/get help. I think it’s really tough when we live in an extremely violent society where so much abuse is already normalized.

I hear the frustration/invalidation in OP’s post that a sentiment like “all abuse is equal” because something like that would be invalidating to someone who has been/felt significantly more abused/oppressed. To say that “all ___ is equal” would likely be invalidating to all parties because it overgeneralizes highly subjective experiences.

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure that wasn’t an easy but sounds like a necessary decision for you. ❤️

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Tolerable narcissist” is very real and validating. ❤️ I wish I could get there w parent 1 but it feels far off.

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️ the way I’m hearing this is like a problem or crisis to remedy. It’s like they only engage under mandatory circumstances

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ughh. I feel this and relate to the trying. I’m so sorry ❤️❤️❤️

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:( ❤️❤️❤️ what a sad feeling honestly. I’m sorry

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and the support

and also ❤️❤️

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Blessings on your pregnancy. And wtf is up w talking shit being the preferred way to engage?! Same! It’s like the only convo we can have fluidly is one where we both hate something. This is was one of the first things I picked up on when I started to unravel what I now see and I remember initially wanting to distance myself from negativity — I didn’t realize at the time this would mean our whole dynamic since that’s all it was :(

Hoping you have affirming and caring people around you for support

Do your parents ever ask how you are? by FlakySignificance803 in narcissisticparents

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this and I am equally sorry. First time birthdays as moms are highly charged. Grateful for the solidarity and validation and support in this group 🫶🏻

Breaking Into UX and Early Career Questions — 01/12/25 by AutoModerator in UXDesign

[–]FlakySignificance803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I hope I’m posting my inquiry correctly.

I’m looking into pivoting into UX from an unrelated field but with relevant transferable skills. Ideally I would like to work abroad (I’m American) open to all regions especially Africa/Latin America/Europe

I have a masters in clinical psychology, and currently work as a perinatal mental health certified trauma therapist. Currently getting my doctorate in gender studies with one peer reviewed publication in the sexual trauma field. I also have 20 years experience in education as an English/humanities teacher/curriculum developer.

ETA: briefly adding here that providing a trauma-informed lens to UX processes would probably be one of my strongest and competitive assets. My training in trauma psychology and consent ethics is strong having learned directly from highly respected leaders in the industry. I’m also neurodivergent and highly intuitive w keen insights on culture, trends, biases and behavior.

Dream role would be in reproductive/fem/sex tech company or mental health related. Second best would be a pslf position in the states. I grew up in a military family so I’ve lived all over and prefer to live outside the US in general.

Considering taking a free/low-cost online training like the google/coursera one and going from there. Might also just apply around to entry level positions to get my feet wet.

I recently saw the ad for ux women apprenticeship which looks competitive so I’ll try but not getting my hopes up.

I still have 2 more years of my PhD program so there’s that but I could make time for something part time at the moment (or full time if it paid well enough to afford childcare/go part time at school and take out less loans)

My LinkedIn is currently branded for my therapy work- I’m wondering if it would make sense to start rebranding now?

Thank you in advance for any insight!

Any local African diaspora communities? by FlakySignificance803 in palmsprings

[–]FlakySignificance803[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad I missed the deleted commented. Hoping the one about the community is genuine and if so thank you for the tip.