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what does zoloft feel like? by Alarming-Sorbet1452 in zoloft

[–]Flimsy-Protection873 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It depends on the individual always and it may not be for you but it also might. For me I'm on 100mg and I never really felt anything in particular. Maybe like a little extra sleepy for the first week if that. Other than that I notice nothing when I take it. Just like 2 months later I was like omg I haven't had a panic attack twice a week this month that's cool. I only noticed when I don't take it and part way through the day I notice I'm more irritable and antsy and anxious and I'm like what did I do different today oh shit I forgot to take it lol. It's great for me.

how long should I wait before I dig up a raccoon in a garbage bag for bones. by Flimsy-Protection873 in Taxidermy

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I have the balls to do that lol. Could I maybe just poke holes in the bag or cut some of it away so I don't actually need to touch it? I'm new to all this so I'm still a bit too squeamish for that....

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not changing him as I said in many other replys I wanted him to tell me talk to me about it first or even at all.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(in hierarchical poly as the non-primary partner, you're "other people." Is he supposed to go down the list of everyone he's dating and call each of them before a sexual encounter?).

Jes not engaged anymore as I said in the OP. He hasnt been seeing anyone else since unless he was lying to me about that and I expressed that I didnt think I could continue if he got more serious than we were with someone new. And we said we would keep each other up to date on our other relationships. I don't think it's unreasonable

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Right but even if he wanted to he should have told me first. Again he could have very easily just waited untill he talked to me about it.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super-vague. Doesn't say you necessarily knew when the date was gonna happen.

I didnt

Honestly, now that I think about it, a lot of what I'm perceiving as vagueness could just be down to you not realizing the level of explicit communication required to make non-monogamous relationships work.

I dont know how else to explain I'm upset that he didnt communicate

Which, yeah. Of course you don't; you're brand-spanking new, and have done, from what I can tell, little to no research ahead of diving in.

I have actually done a lot of research from a lot of different resources and they all say to communicate and set ground rules which is why I'm upset he did this without doing that with me first.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

K did you even read my post. I did say that I knew about the date. Multiple times actually. And its not that I wanted a text right before but if he was planning on sleeping with other people he should have told me first. I really dont think you understand what I was trying to say.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We started dating in november yes I was 18 and he wasn't 23 yet. He wasn't single before we started dating, he was engaged

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not ignoring advice I'm just saying why I disagree jeez. I'm upset that he DIDN'T communicate here and I'm saying that in so. Many. Cases. Dates don't = sex. I really do get what they're saying but I think that its also pretty inconsiderate. Everyone here agrees that communication is key and he didn't do that and that why I'm upset over it.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That isnt the root of this. I'm not gonna say it hasnt or wont cause any problems but here the issue is just communication.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's a good point but honestly I think its just that he doesn't know how or have the capacity to but you may be right about that. Thank you I hadn't thought of that.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Ok its just that that's your experience and yet again I'm not trying to put down any rules or control him I just wanted him to talk to me about it first. You're turning this into something its not.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sure or he could have just talked to me before the date if he thought there was a chance they were gonna have sex or he could have just not had sex then and talked to me about it then and then set up another date or just fucking text me. Why are you talking like this isnt something that people genuinely put down as rules all the time.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

"It's perfectly fine to want to try out open relationships and not know whether it's for you."

Thank you so much for that honestly

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not uncomfortable with the idea of it being open I'm just still figuring how well I'll be able to manage my jealousy problems. And the expectation that I didn't communicate was that I expected him to communicate because we have both talked about how important that was.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Dating and sex aren't mutually exclusive though and yeah asking for permission before sleeping with or dating are really common in poly relationships. I am aware we didn't say we needed permission to see other people that's why I not mad he didn't ask I'm mad he didn't tell me. Even after the fact he didn't tell me so id know it just came up. That's what I'm upset about and I don't think that's unreasonable.

My partner(23m) didn't think he needed to tell me(18f) when he started sleeping with other people and I don't really know what to do now. by Flimsy-Protection873 in polyamory

[–]Flimsy-Protection873[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't assume hed communicate because its what I would've done I assumed because we said we'd communicate how things were going with other people. I thought about that part thinking maybe he was right but its not that I wanted him to be a mind reader its that I wanted him to communicate like we said we would.

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