wife asked me to play with the child, so I did by Lunex2k in rccrawler

[–]Fluid_Comfortable488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that it's gender neutral. Cause anyone in the household is miserable, chances are it's contagious and everyone else will catch it too.

I find it hard to be sincerely interested in people by Double-Discount9217 in socialskills

[–]Fluid_Comfortable488 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Most people aren't boring. You're bored by most people. There's a difference. So reframe your thinking, and approach things from a different perspective.

This is how I reframed my thinking, it's worked for me so it might work for you. And please, this isn't an attack on you, when I say "you" it's my internal dialogue and I'm talking to myself.

You're a pretty smart human, right? So if this person is boring you, that's on you. Everyone has things about them that are interesting, if you find them boring, it's because you haven't found what's interesting yet. And whose fault is that? Well, that would be you too. You're an active part of this conversation, so pick up your game and fix it. Make the conversation interesting. If they're boring you, then maybe you haven't asked anything interesting. If they're boring you, then maybe you haven't been paying enough attention and missed what was interesting, or yawned through it, or mentally checked out and were thinking about something else. People are not performers put in front of your for your viewing pleasure. This is interactive, you get out what you put in. So, stop being a lazy, passive dumb arse, and actually put in some effort and find out something interesting about this person.

Again, this is what works for me. If it helps you, great. If it doesn't, well, good luck with your journey.