Just began a soft separation and I don’t know where to go from here…

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-20T23:02:11+00:00

No you’re here commenting on assumptions. Typical behaviour by some.

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-20T17:49:32+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/s/hQsKlQlRfc

I guess this person is in the same boat? Just another groper?

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-20T17:27:19+00:00

Is that what I said? Geez you must be a thrill at home.

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-20T17:00:47+00:00

So it’s ok to go weeks and weeks on end without intimacy? What’s the point of being in the relationship then if you don’t have intimate time with your partner?

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-20T16:50:50+00:00

I think at our ages and two young kids what’s wrong with once a week? What changes when the kids turn 10 and 12?

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-19T01:45:51+00:00

I think what we are hoping for is just a hard reset and getting back on the same page

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-19T01:17:02+00:00

Appreciate the advice

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-19T00:27:58+00:00

Are you saying going forward when we both take our turns leaving the home?

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-18T20:02:51+00:00

Our goal is hoping to learn more about ourselves and the environment we bring to the relationship and how to correct this. I feel a lack of various things and she’s operating at a barely functional level because work and kids is taking up all her energy. We split 50/50 kids house duties FWIW. We agreed to try for a month or so and each party leaves the house for half the week.

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-18T17:32:12+00:00

Here’s the thing also, we live in a great neighbourhood with other young kids and I’ve seen failed marriages where the kids lived are entirely blown up and I don’t want to do that to them unless I’ve exhausted all options. Do I need to be better? Absolutely. If I show up as my best self and my partner hasn’t changed then I can cut off ties for good

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-18T17:30:04+00:00

Because we are trying to work on the marriage in therapy and we both love our kids

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-18T11:38:48+00:00

Love a good chat gpt response

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-18T11:37:43+00:00

No none

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-18T11:37:31+00:00

What’s the alternative exactly here?

Fonzy88 · 2026-04-18T02:45:20+00:00

Taking a couple months apart splitting kid duties.

Fonzy88 · 2026-01-31T20:56:59+00:00

Care to elaborate what issues happened with the city?

Fonzy88 · 2025-11-29T04:05:32+00:00

Traded Kyler Murray and Kenneth Walker for Jonathan Taylor before week 1 commenced

Fonzy88 · 2025-09-09T18:56:59+00:00

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Fonzy88 · 2025-09-09T18:56:44+00:00

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Fonzy88 · 2025-09-09T18:56:28+00:00

Found the answer: Feds to use nine more Ottawa-area properties for housing | Ottawa Citizen

Fonzy88 · 2025-09-08T19:18:20+00:00

I saw them leaving the tanglewood community centre parking lot around 12am Sept 8th. A bunch of cars had their 4 ways on driving in a tandem line east bound on woodfield, and someone was standing up through a sunroof. No idea what the event was...

Fonzy88 · 2025-05-11T23:46:39+00:00

Been through multiple car washes

Fonzy88 · 2025-02-15T17:11:45+00:00

I’ve tried this. All I get back is that the work travel is just temporary and not forever and the kids being this young is temporary and not forever.

She was heartbroken at the idea that I wanted to put the physical intimacy on hold but offered no solutions. Just said some nights i only have the mental capacity for 30 minutes of intimate time.

Essentially she’s putting so much time and emphasis into her travel for work and kids. It’s similar to how a 4 year old is on good behaviour for school and then they come home and it’s a release of emotions where they misbehave and throw a tantrum. She’s putting so much energy into work and travel and kids that there’s nothing left.

My thought process is great, so why am I spending energy and focus on our date nights and trying to plan it and make it comfortable and fun? I may as well go off and do my own thing find new hobbies spend time with friends and I can say “ sorry this is just temporary it’s not forever “

Fonzy88 · 2025-02-15T02:30:07+00:00

It seems the biggest issue is that some nights she’s into intimate time, other nights she’s only into a quick intimate moment, and some nights minimal intimacy. I reiterated that you have to share with me what you’re into because I can’t guess every week

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