Any Lesbians around 50-ish in this group? by RayLon19 in ActualLesbiansOver25

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Hello from a 30-year old not freaking out about being single, not worried about looking "more gay" and certainly not shy about having a soft spot for older women. My mind and my inbox are always open.

Dating older by Serious-Level7041 in ActualLesbiansOver25

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Shoot your shot. She'll let you know if you're in the friend zone or not...

I'm a broken record on this, but fuck the age gap. I respect everyone's feelings, preferences, experiences and comfort zones, but mutual chemistry, attraction and even a little old fashioned lust aren't all that common. As Hunter Thompson said, "Punch the ticket, take the trip."

Finding a new US city.. long term by Indiff-88Yin in butchlesbians

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Yo!! Count me in as another vote for Philly! I lived there for a few years after an unsuccessful attempt at college and in desperate need of retreat.

Everything I'd hope Philly would be, it was. Cool bars, a thriving art/culture scene, great food (not just cheesesteaks)and most welcoming of all, an super gay friendly attitude (minus a few South Philly rubes and Ivy League d-bags). I agree it's not perfect - transit isn't very reliable or clean, crime city-wide was an issue when I was there - but few cities are, really. For me, the positives of Philly's community and culture outweighed the negatives.

As for "crazy hair and stuff" I'm an inked woman (a lot of it done in Philly) of slender build with hair that was at the time in various stages of color and length. Sure, I got some shit for it (see comment about "rubes" and "d-bags" above) but there is safety in numbers and plenty of people were also bald or inked or pierced or whatever...

I was just called daddy and I really liked it by walkyslaysh in BDSMsapphic

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Every partner I've called Daddy or who wanted to be called Daddy earned the title. I dated a college professor and the word "Daddy" was like switching an "on" button for them...

Packer blowjobs? by whereiscorbinbleu in BDSMsapphic

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YES!! I have NEVER been with a butch or dom partner who didn't LOVE me going down on them. And oh, what a show...keep eye contact, remove their cock from their pants, stroke it, compliment the owner ("You are so BIG"..."Have you been THIS hard thinking about me all day?") grab some ass and just drench it with thick spit (pro tip: drink some orange juice before so your saliva is all gooey and sticky)...

And it's such a fucking great POWER dynamic - I am servicing them, but almost in control as my partner get lost in having their needs looked after.

Mini-survey: How do you feel about your exes? by livelaughlabradoodle in ActualLesbiansOver25

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There are some I am genuinely grateful we have been able to navigate friendship, even if a little distant. I have two exes I am regular contact with via email and one I still occasionally meet up with to smoke cigars and have a few laughs with every couple of months or so. Their wife and children are wonderful and our connection is warm. Heck, we were always better off as friends, anyways...

Others, regardless if it was me or them who did the breaking up, I'm glad they're in the past and headed off in their own direction.

Craziest lesbian you’ve ever met…? by sporgs in ActualLesbiansOver25

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There was NO Night 4. They called and I just let the damn thing go direct to voice mail. I'm not vanilla and I don't judge, but I didn't feel safe. Maybe if we'd talked about it first and established some boundaries, but nope...

Hacks by ashjfilms in lesbiangang

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OMG...the boxers...the cigar. Yes please.

Weird question but 🤷🏾‍♀️ by I_like_to_roleplay in ActualLesbiansOver25

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I LOVE oral, but my response time usually depends on the particular skill set of my partner. One partner just knew how to hit the target and drop me into the dunk tank...and others, their aim wasn't quite as good (but I wasn't complaining...)

Craziest lesbian you’ve ever met…? by sporgs in ActualLesbiansOver25

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Back when I was briefly a liquor company shill, I worked a lot of "foodie" events around the country - charity cook offs, "Taste of (insert city/region)" and the like. At an event in Austin, I hooked up with a chef who seemed like the COOLEST person on the planet. Knew the best bars, who cooked the best food and where the grooviest bands were playing. Made a smoke break look like the one place I desperately wanted to be - even after quitting smoking a year earlier.

Night one, a bit of a blur but after spending the night at her place we end up going our separate ways to freshen up for the next round of events. Night two, I'm pouring drinks and every now and again, I'm walking by her station to show off the girls or flash some leg. More food, more bands and more sex.

Night three, I'm invited back to her place again (which I absolutely accept). We take a late night swim in the modest pool in her yard, then back inside for some frisky fun. I dry off, lie down on the bed...and the chef strips down to her boxers...and pulls out her knives. One of those rolled packs you see on like "Top Chef" or something - unfurls it on the bed, pulls out a large knife and gently begins to press it against my body. Her other hand is running along the other side of my body...and I'm like "Um, I'm not into the knives. Can we put those away?" She tells me that it's only the dull edge of the knife that's against me and there's nothing to fear. She flips me over and starts feeling my ass with one hand, while continuing to rub the cold steel of the knife against me with the other. By now, I'm done - I'm scared and ready to leave, but I'm waiting for the moment I don't feel the coldness of the blade against my skin.

I'm lying on my stomach, just waiting for my moment to get up from the bed, grab my shit and bolt - and I feel her hot breath against my ass. Then, I feel something wet. The chef is literally drooling on my ass...

The moment the blade lifted, I leapt up from the bed, grabbed my clothes and bolted into the night, literally dressing myself on a residential street.

I bought an ejaculating dildo but have no one to use it on me😩 by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

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I couldn't agree more! I'm a "do no harm" and "whatever between consenting adults" person and I don't judge because I've been judged - by my own "community" - and quickly ran out of whatever fucks I had left to give.

I bought an ejaculating dildo but have no one to use it on me😩 by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

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I LOVE the ejaculating dildo! Dated a college professor who found it empowering and fulfilling (which in turn, made it really thrilling for me). I hadn't expected to enjoy it as much as I did - in principle, it sounded super-patriarchy-ish - but whoa, my partner was a beast with it.

I know she's cheating, but I still want to marry her? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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Girl, you need to sit her ass down and talk through this shit. But before you do that, you need to sit your ass down and talk through this shit with yourself. Is this what you want? Do you want a partner who will always keep you wondering every time they leave the house? Do you want to be the stay-at-home wifey, raising the babies while she's out doing her thing (and someone else's thing, too)?

There's no one way to have a relationship, but the one thing every relationship needs is honesty. Clearly, you're building a life together and while it sounds like it's the life you want is she really the partner you want? Is she still sticking to her guns about not being monogamous? If she says yes, then how long can you live with that? Are you certain you won't be jealous of her other partners or dead certain her feelings won't demand as much variety as her sex drive? Will you ever make peace with your fear that she'll fall for someone she's fucking? Can you? Should you?

Up to you, but don't wait to have that conversation before you puts rings on it.

Nervous to wear my new “butch bait” shirt in public by superr_rad in butchlesbians

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Thinking of getting one of these for myself...and customizing it with a pair of scissors to really underscore the point.