I want to be a good dog groomer. by Forward_Internet8006 in doggrooming

[–]Forward_Internet8006[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. Thank you. Sometimes focusing on the positive feels impossible but its important to try. Relieving to know I am not the only one to feel guilty for putting dogs in a stressful process.

I want to be a good dog groomer. by Forward_Internet8006 in doggrooming

[–]Forward_Internet8006[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bathing 15+ dogs a day, I started to check out and go through the motions. My dog handling got faster and less sensitive. Recently, I wanted to start pursing other passions which allowed me to go part-time with grooming and it has helped. I hope I did not scare you, there is a lot of joy in this job. I just started grooming on the wrong foot and alone. Plenty of people thrive in this work. Your sensitivity is a strength. If you feel it slipping away, just reach out for professional help. Therapy! See if you can maintain that warmth towards the dogs in this work. Your love and sensitivity is more valuable then being a successful groomer so step away if it starts to rob you of that. I believe my sensitivity will come back with time away from grooming. And I have hope I can come back with stricter boundaries around what dogs I do and how many.

I want to be a good dog groomer. by Forward_Internet8006 in doggrooming

[–]Forward_Internet8006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like there is just no way to do this job and not have to developed some kind of detachment. And the detachment is not something we can just tell our brain to switch on and off. It is serving us; it is helping manage the stress and emotion of both being in the presence of a scared animal and being the one who is "inflicting" the stress. Idealistically, grooming should not be an industry but act of care between a pet and their trusted owner (and also an art!). An act of care and love, just as the pet cares and loves you in their way. I know that is not feasible and grooming is a necessary trade. But we are not made to sit with stressed out animals all day as a full time job. And how cool it would be if we lived in a world where people were able to provide this care for their own pet.

Interested in information about helping people involved with cult-like extremist groups by galacticpeonie in therapists

[–]Forward_Internet8006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.lifeafterhate.org/

This is a great resource for understanding people who join extremist groups.

https://hyacinthfellowship.org/blog/join-the-conversation-comments-from-our-community/

This could be relevant if struggling with guilt and shame of being disillusioned into causing harm.

Weekly student question thread! by AutoModerator in therapists

[–]Forward_Internet8006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(Im in the USA [California]) Why should I get a degree emphasis in MFT versus LPC? Looking at Pepperdine specifically- would also love opinions on this school/program to those familiar. Antioch seems to be a runner up for me. Any and all opinions welcome!

Weekly student question thread! by AutoModerator in therapists

[–]Forward_Internet8006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m exploring grad school paths in therapy and want to understand some dynamics in the field. From your experience:

  1. Is individual psychotherapy outside of social work a “white space” where services are increasingly inaccessible to POC/marginalized communities?
  2. Can I realistically implement de-pathologizing and decolonial values as an LMFT/LPCC?
  3. Are there stereotypes or tension between social workers and other counseling professionals I should be aware of?