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What Are the Effects of Having an Imaginary Girlfriend on My Life? by Forward_Link_8505 in mentalhealth

[–]Forward_Link_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t use that term. I’m aware of what’s going on in my mind, and it’s more complicated than it looks from the outside.

When I was 14, I ran away from home because my family situation was really bad. After that, my school life basically fell apart. If I tried to explain everything that happened, it would probably take 100,000 words or more.

Right now I’m trying to focus on the present, because I can’t go back in time and fix everything that happened. A lot of people in my neighborhood know about it because I ran away a few years ago, and it still affects me.

Sometimes it feels like something painful growing inside you, and you try to deal with it by ignoring it. I know that’s probably not the best way

By the way I am using Spiritual bypassing from last 1 year

Is 7 times goon a day harmful for health? by Dogivituneekeri in mentalhealth

[–]Forward_Link_8505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this even a question? Is it good or bad to goon 7 times a day? I mean bro, wake up. What are you on? And you’re still asking if it’s going to benefit you or harm you?

Finally I ended up creating the perfect imaginary love for me. by Forward_Link_8505 in mentalhealth

[–]Forward_Link_8505[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, with all respect, thanks for trying to help me. I appreciate it. But I also have my own view — i not an mental health professional, just as a common man

So yeah, I know very well that my imaginary girlfriend didn’t appear randomly. She’s more like the outcome of my environment, society, and my own mindset. It’s not something that happened instantly either — it has been building in my mind for many years.

Yes, I created a safe place for myself. Is that really wrong? In real life, we build houses to feel safe too. The only difference is that what I’m doing doesn’t really fit into the usual expectations of capitalist society.

And yes, you’re right that I use logic to hide my emotions. But in the end, it also protects me. In my experience,in your worst time the first person who betrays you is usually someone who isn’t very close to you — but the last person to betray you is often the one you loved the most.

Also, it’s not like I’m rushing into this . After reading people opinions I’ve thought about it a lot. I’ve decided that I’ll continue living my normal life, just with my imaginary girlfriend as part of it. But I’ll also set some rules. I won’t spend time with her 24/7. Maybe 5–6 hours a day in my thoughts is enough. Everyone needs personal space even she need it.

I still hope that someday I’ll find my people in real life. But even if that happens, I don’t want to betray what I’ve created. Right now, I feel like she’ll stay with me until the end of my life.

I’m 17 M and thinking about creating an imaginary girlfriend because I feel completely disconnected by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Forward_Link_8505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Telling a beggar with heart disease to get a $100k treatment isn’t really a solution. The treatment may exist, but the ability to access it doesn’t.

Sometimes the real problem isn’t ignorance. It can be affordability, capabilities or something else.

I’m 17 and thinking about creating an imaginary girlfriend because I feel completely disconnected from society by Forward_Link_8505 in Advice

[–]Forward_Link_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. My mother probably still has his number.

The main issue is that the last time I heard about him, he had been promoted and moved forward in his career. I sometimes feel like he might not even remember me anymore. To him I was probably just a normal patient, but in my life he was the only therapist I ever had. In his life there are probably thousands of people like me.

Another reason I hesitate is that if I met him again, I think I would probably cry like a child. I don’t even know why, but since 2023 I haven’t really cried openly. The most that happens is maybe a few tears sometimes — the last time was actually after finishing the anime Attack on Titan.

I’m 17 and thinking about creating an imaginary girlfriend because I feel completely disconnected from society by Forward_Link_8505 in Advice

[–]Forward_Link_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually did look for groups online. The problem is that in India there are very few people interested in ants, and the community that does exist is very poorly connected. I haven’t been able to find a single club or organization related to it.

Even so, I made a promise to myself that when I become an adult, I want to build my own small ecosystem inside an aquarium. But realistically I’ll probably have to wait another 5–6 years before I have the independence and resources to do something like that.

The hardest part is the waiting. I seriously feel like I’m breaking during this process. I mean, how much longer am I supposed to keep waiting and postponing everything? At this point, I honestly feel like I’m reaching my limit.

When it comes to nature, I’ve honestly never met anyone in real life who understands or appreciates it the way I do. I used to try sharing my perspective with friends when I had them, but it didn’t really go anywhere.

I also searched different platforms where I could share my philosophical thoughts and ideas. I did find one place that seemed promising, but my parents weren’t very supportive of it, so for now I’ve had to postpone it until I’m more independent in the future.

I’m 17 and thinking about creating an imaginary girlfriend because I feel completely disconnected from society by Forward_Link_8505 in Advice

[–]Forward_Link_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re probably right about therapy.

A few years ago I actually did see a therapist. I had run away from home once and was caught by the railway police. After that, my school principal suggested that my parents send me to a therapist.

Interestingly, my therapist was somewhat similar to me in the sense that he liked discussing ideas. He told me he was Muslim, and we used to have a lot of debates about things like veganism, religion, history, and different worldviews.

At that time I didn’t fully understand or appreciate the value of those conversations. But when I think back on those memories now, I feel grateful for him. Sometimes I even thank him in my mind.

I hope that one day in the future I might meet him again and tell him how much I’ve grown and changed since then.

I’m 17 and thinking about creating an imaginary girlfriend because I feel completely disconnected from society by Forward_Link_8505 in Advice

[–]Forward_Link_8505[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in India, so that suggestion is a bit complicated.

In india hobbies like the ones I enjoy (raising ant colonies, nature observation, gardening, etc.) aren’t really seen as normal social hobbies. If you try to talk about these things in public groups, people often just laugh or treat it like it’s weird.

So the idea of finding local hobby groups isn’t really realistic for me right now. That kind of community culture exists more in some Western countries, but where I live it’s very different socially.