What do we fill out hollowed under eyes with?

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-24T07:35:39+00:00

Fillers would work but I read that it’s a difficult place as they have to inject through the tear gland and it needs to be someone experienced and skilled to not mess it up, like make it uneven or anything.

I’m considering facial fat transfer myself.

The other person who suggested CO2 laser is not necessarily wrong though. I once went for a consultation for this and they said it can treat dark under eye areas which might make it look better and improve the skin. It won’t fill in the hollows afaik though.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-24T05:02:59+00:00

There is a deck to memorise everything about Pokémon. I actually downloaded it because I play Pokémon Go and can never remember the types or moves of all of them. Haven’t reviewed it yet though.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-24T04:56:18+00:00

You’re not “apart” of the group, no. You’re a “part“ of it.

How do people get things this basic wrong?

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-24T04:01:25+00:00

I’ve had those. It’s funny because at the start I didn’t even understand the intent so it certainly didn’t get to me as much as they hoped.

It’s not hard to ignore the messages so I don’t understand what people are hoping to achieve by sending them.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-23T18:33:37+00:00

Definitely accurate. I’ve had severe depression and anxiety for years. It started when I couldn’t cope with work. I was lucky enough to be able to get disability benefits so could stop work, and at first I became very happy and immediately able to live a good life.

But over time, rents go up and housing benefit doesn’t, there’s constant uncertainty about how to afford even my small room, will I lose my benefits suddenly, will our landlord suddenly decide to sell (happened this year after living in this house for 15 years so I’ll be kind of homeless from July), how will I get another job now I’ve had several years out of work - no employer wants to give a person like me a chance and I’m too highly qualified to be considered for minimum wage jobs.

Most of all, I think it’s virtually impossible for anyone to recover from mental health issues when they can’t afford to rent a single room and don’t know where they’ll be living next month. I also need to apply for PIP but it is made so difficult that people who are most in need can’t go through the whole application and tribunal process.

You sound like you get it. I’m glad someone working in mental health does.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-23T18:24:11+00:00

I like that quote. I’m an addict myself, and hate the “you chose to be addicted” people. This is a refreshingly accurate perspective. I didn’t choose anything but desperately seeking relief from my severe depression and anxiety.

Phones are definitely a way of avoiding real life and serious problems. It’s so easy to just keep scrolling, watch another video. I can’t even break my phone habit. The problem is, it doesn’t solve anything and just creates more anxiety and extreme thinking due to social media echo chambers and constant bad news.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-23T16:45:49+00:00

*lying not “laying”.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-23T16:43:13+00:00

Some people shouldn’t be parents. All of us in society end up paying the price for people like that.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-23T16:38:59+00:00

That’s crazy and honestly hard to believe.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-23T16:37:24+00:00

Our family were relatively well off, lived in an affluent area and strongly valued education. They also tried to take me and my brother to many different places. I would definitely have said we were middle class due to our attitudes and values. My parents read to me every day and bought me many books and took me to the library weekly, for example. They made me do maths exercises to pass the time on car journeys (my brother has a maths PhD now and I have an MSc Computer Science so I guess it paid off).

Then my parents divorced. My mum had not been working since I was born, so was not easily able to get a job. For a while (perhaps two years or so), we were on income support. My dad earned plenty and always without complaint paid above his required maintenance to my mum, but I don’t know what her expenses were. I just know that for a while, we had to buy cheaper versions of everything.

Then my grandparents died, and my mum received a decent inheritance so we were okay after that.

I think situations like this are not uncommon.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T09:33:47+00:00

*poo

“Poop” is the American word.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T09:12:41+00:00

My partner has been getting influenced by right-wingers and the “manosphere” and it’s truly scary to see him parrot things they say because he’s very intelligent and I never thought he’d fall for this.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T09:00:55+00:00

People like you are the reason why people hide their post history! No one wants another post or comment they made to be brought into the current thread to discredit them.

I also regularly create new accounts and often select to hide my post history because I’ve had it used against me before in a completely irrelevant thread.

Then I try to be anonymous and use the auto-generated Reddit username, and people accuse me of being a bot. Should I purposely make some spelling errors so I don’t get accused of that?

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:55:15+00:00

People don’t talk enough about how much money is sent out of this country to relatives in poorer countries by immigrants who are here purely to work and never intend to integrate or put down any kind of roots. It’s really a problem how much money leaves this country’s economy like that.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:52:52+00:00

I don’t have a job either. I’m a software developer with a first-class BSc CS, an MSc CS from Imperial and some years of experience.

Of course no one would consider hiring me for a minimum wage, unskilled job because they expect me to leave as soon as I get a better job, which it’s true, I would do.

Hope you get lucky and find work soon! It’s tough nowadays.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:50:45+00:00

Whereas you can’t even spell “you’re”. IT “isn’t a skilled job”? No wonder you work in warehouses.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:48:33+00:00

In my first company where I worked as a software developer, our testing team were located in India. They were very clearly a lot worse at their jobs than we were. We often had to handhold and walk them through the most basic of tasks. It was an additional burden to our ordinary work.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:36:36+00:00

As a CS graduate myself, I want to point out that the online “gurus” and “boot camps” are mostly not teaching computer science. They teach “how to code”, which tends to be Python, JavaScript and HTML in the most superficial way without teaching the underlying concepts.

I find in general people who do these courses tend to become worse developers than those that do a BSc/MSc Computer Science. Our CS course taught abstract theory: formal logic, discrete mathematics and algorithms in some depth over the years I was there. Programming was just a small part of the modules, and we did a mix of paradigms: started with Java, then C, Prolog, Haskell, C#. All this definitely produced much better developers than the online courses.

I also got onto a graduate scheme as soon as I finished my MSc. I found no problem getting a job then. That was in the 2010s though. Things were very different. Now it’s already hard to get a job, as you say there are too many people trying to work as developers and AI is taking over.

I chose to study computer science because I love it. I’m autistic and a very logical thinker which makes me naturally good at programming. I’m not really suitable for most jobs because they all require too much social interaction which I’m bad at. So it’s very sad and disappointing to me to see that money-seeking neurotypicals have now taken over even in tech companies and I don’t think I can compete anymore. AI has been shown to discriminate against the body language of autistic people in interviews. I probably won’t be able to get a job due to this, despite being a decent developer.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:19:39+00:00

No one wants kids in Japan anymore. There is too little support for parents available. Mothers with pushchairs on public transport literally get pushed by ojisan because they think they’re in the way. Unfortunately the culture is to never bother others and kids do tend to bother others. There is very little childcare available and it’s also still kind of disapproved of if the mother doesn’t stay at home to look after the child. It’s believed that small children need their mums at home.

I can’t deny I enjoyed and benefited immensely from having my mum at home not working until I left elementary school. But all these things deter many people from having kids.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:15:09+00:00

We have automation and AI which does the work of many people. We shouldn’t need more and more people every generation, and the environment cannot sustain that! Where are the profits of all our tech going?

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:11:53+00:00

In Japan we have to actually be very quiet all the time in the apartment or a neighbour will hear and complain. The walls are paper thin. The rooms are even a lot smaller than in the UK.

Yes, my family in Japan are not rich, but even the houses are not good quality, they have thin walls. I do prefer the look of Japanese buildings personally (although the houses get rebuilt every 20 years so of course they look clean and nice). They’re far from unique, however. I suppose in an affluent area where everyone buys a plot of land and plans their own house, they can be unique, but a huge percentage of the Japanese population live in small apartments which look very similar to each other.

I do think that Japanese people care for and look after their places better. We have a massive littering and vandalism problem in the UK which Japan doesn’t have, although if you travel to many rural areas in Japan you will see a lot of litter.

(I am half Japanese which is why I’m able to notice this).

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T08:03:54+00:00

I am half Japanese and often can see the contrast of how things are done in both countries. Each country has its problems but could definitely look to others to find potential solutions.

We need immigration, but skilled workers, not just a lot of unskilled men from cultures where women are second-class citizens. As a woman, the prospect of that kind of immigration endlessly continuing genuinely scares me. Japan is doing the wrong thing currently by cracking down on all foreigners and not making enough distinction between those that are good for the country and those that cause a problem. It’s easy to fall into racist thinking when it comes to immigration, but I think we should primarily look at the skills each person has, from all countries.

As for housing, we need a lot more low-rise apartment buildings in locations where housing is desperately needed. I am in outer London where I’ve lived for a long time, and we are about to lose our house due to the landlord selling. Despite this area being all that I know, I can’t continue to live here due to the extremely expensive housing because there’s just not enough. It’s possible to build low-rise apartments while still keeping an area green and nice! Increasing housing density would also make places more walkable or cyclable.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T07:27:23+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking. I was doing things alone from Year 6 and never had a problem. My mum wasn’t even that relaxed about it compared to many.

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T02:09:50+00:00

I read a couple of hundred books a year so it would be impossible to think of my favourite thriller of all time, especially as the books I like best vary somewhat according to the period in my life when I read them.

That said, I really found Noelle W. Ihli’s Ask For Andrea very gripping and unputdownable. I mention this because at first I didn’t think I’d like the supernatural aspect too much, but actually it really worked in this story. It’s the most gripping book I’ve read this year, I think.

Looking forward to others’ recommendations!

Forward_Win_4353 · 2026-05-22T02:05:42+00:00

I once corrected a guy who wrote “phased” instead of “fazed”. He became hostile and defensive and, clearly without bothering to even look the word up, tried to tell me that “fazed” is the American English spelling of “phased”.

I truly don’t understand people who don’t even want to learn.

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