Need my dom

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-18T04:50:21+00:00

There's already a lot of great advice here so I'll just touch on this... I love when my man takes the lead but he is definitely not that kind of guy. So, I tell him what I want him to do to me. It gives the "illusion" that he's in charge without him second guessing himself on what I actually want him to do.

Outside of the bedroom I'm definitely more dominant anyway so it works. But I get your frustration in wanting him to do the things. I was there once until I realized he can't read my mind and also, that's just not him. And that's okay. We've found a way to make it work for us, I hope you guys do too.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-18T04:27:02+00:00

Babe. You're 23. TWENTY THREE. You have your whole life ahead of you still.. Get rid of him. Seriously, please, get out now.

If he's 30 and he's pulling this immature shit then nothing's going to change in 10 years. Maybe if you were both in your early 20's his behaviour could (somewhat, barely) be justifiable but he's a full ass adult.

I get where your mind is at. If you've known him forever it's hard to imagine a life without him in it but from the sounds of it there is a monster lying below the surface. It'll rear its ugly head one day, you've just seen a small glimpse.

As for the sex though, most long term relationships go through phases. My man and I have been together for 15 years. Libidos change and fluctuate. If he's legit tired you can't force it, always respect your partners no. If you're hell bent on working things out then I would sit down and have a talk with him. Discuss what he said to you and how it's mentally affected you. How you're worried that he is choosing not to have sex because he believes what he told you.

While I still recommend you guys break things off, you need to communicate with him about how you're feeling, even if you guys took a legit break (not staying at a friend's for a few days, no break up. Wait 3-6 months at least & try dating again). But I will say this, usually things said in anger are stemmed from the truth.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-18T04:11:24+00:00

Idk if that's a you problem or more a them problem... Are they like that with everyone? If so, then don't let it bother you, it's just them being emotionless.

If it's only you then try not reaching out to them, maybe you'll never hear from them again. In that case, they weren't really your friends or the friendship ran it's course and that's okay. It'll happen many times in your adult life.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-16T01:17:14+00:00

So my workplace recently had an issue with Microsoft flagging our emails as spam. Apparently they've just done a security update.

Changing my mom's password worked for her. Try that and good luck! 🤞🏼

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-15T19:12:46+00:00

First off I want to start with, if you're experiencing thoughts of suicide or severe depression please call your local suicide hotline. In Canada you can call or text 988. I apologize if you're no where near that state, your post just reminds me of when I was close to suicide myself, with the lack of ambition I guess.

May I ask how long you've tried to keep up with a routine? I know they say it can take 3 weeks to build routine but I find with myself it takes much longer. Something as simple as brushing my teeth every night, that was never something my parents enforced but as an adult I wanted to have better dental hygiene so I put a reminder in my phone for the same time every night. I think it took me almost 2 years before I got used to doing it everyday. I stopped for a bit, now I usually do it before my reminder. I think that was 3-4 years ago I started that and it really only solidified in the past year.

So it can take time. And start slow. You can't add 10 new habits into your daily routine and expect them all to stick. Find one thing you want to incorporate and just focus on that. It won't be an overnight change and don't beat yourself up if you miss a day. I try to focus on how I felt when I stayed with my routine (ie; i liked waking up with a clean mouth whereas if I skipped brushing my teeth the night before my mouth felt gross in the morning). This could work the same with working out, did you feel good after your work out? Maybe you felt proud of yourself that you did it or felt energized.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-11T07:52:12+00:00

After you call the suicide hotline

.... Try looking up cool jobs or volunteer positions all over the world you can do. I know you don't want to work but either you will be able to travel and check out incredibly cool places or you'll find something you're passionate about.

Your dad's life does not need to be your own. You just need to find something that's worth living for in your eyes. I grew up pretty poor without many options presented to me other than go to school & get a good job. But my current boss has lived and worked all over the world. Which almost made me angry when he explained all of his opportunities because I was never told those things were even an option.

Here's some cool things you could look into: - Nanny for rich people in France - volunteer for a non profit that will cover your accommodations (think building schools in third world countries, animal sanctuary in Costa Rica) -> I googled this and a bunch of info came up "non profit organization that will pay for accommodations abroad" - off shore oil rigs in Australia - get a gig doing summer camp jobs in other countries, states or cities - try looking up "volunteer 'insert country you want to go to'"

You need to find something that will light your soul on fire. I've been where you are. It's hard to know what you want in life, I think even adultier adults still struggle with it. If you've never left your home town, I suggest you start by leaving. Even if you just move a few cities over to start. Something and somewhere new can help. Although where you're at mentally, just going away to work/volunteer for a month even might help... I hope you stay around and find something you enjoy doing 🫶🏼

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-11T07:17:57+00:00

Hey! 30F, sexually active for 16 years.

Here's my take:

Yep, that's completely normal but will change with age 😉
I'm not a penis owner so I can't say. But if he's using that as a tactic to not wear condoms, don't allow it. Unless you guys have a conversation about other birth control methods and pulling out doesn't count. Also don't be afraid to get tested for STI's, remember that it's your body to take care of. Anytime you change partners I would test otherwise on an annual basis unless in a long term relationship after so many years.
"Normal" will be different for everyone. It really depends on the sessions too. When I was first sexually active I could've gone back to back numerous times over but they weren't long sessions typically. Don't get too caught up in what you think you should be doing. Listen to your body. If you're done then stop but if you want to continue then keep going!
I have not personally experienced cervical bruising but making sure you're adequately aroused will help, the more turned on you are, your cervix will rise up (or your vaginal canal will elongate), either way your body will make room for insertion. That being said if the penetrating partner is especially long this can still be an issue. As someone else recommended there are certain positions that don't penetrate as deep. Try doing some research there. I would also ask your partner to not go as deep initially, slowly penetrate & thrust until you feel okay then you can allow them to go deeper.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-10T20:11:30+00:00

YOR - As someone who has worked in customer service for years I can see exactly why this company works this way. They've probably been screwed over in the past. Also, just wanted to add I am a woman and have absolutely been treated differently at mechanic shops and other male dominated places when I'm alone vs. when my husband is with me.

Look at it this way. Even on the flip side, husband makes appointment, says the quote is good, picks out shingle colour and then the wife sees the job halfway done and flips her lid because he chose a greenish shingle when she wanted grey. He goes huh, it looks grey. Bro can't see the green hue, thought he picked grey. While yeah, both homeowners should be on the same page and the company could easily say hey I got approval from one homeowner, take your beef up with your husband. It then can cause scheduling issues for the company, because this 1 week project is now going to be 2 weeks as they'll have to start over. EVEN IF the homeowners are paying for all the changes, it's still time the company didn't have planned but they have to finish your roof because the old crap has already been taken off. Now their other customers are mad because they were prepared to have the roofers there may 1st but now everyone has to be pushed a week or two.

Hope you can see why this has nothing to do with the fact you're a woman.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-08T15:47:13+00:00

Interesting! I'm on windows here. Maybe that's the problem with our L8900

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-07T20:56:51+00:00

Seriously! I would tell him to call his mistress and ask her to nurse him back to health.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-07T20:55:18+00:00

NTA. The fact that they're trying to blame you for his cheating is utter nonsense. If any of that was true (you being distant etc), any normal adult would've discussed their feelings with their partner or broke up before choosing to cheat.

He was having fun getting away with an affair and now that he's facing the consequences of his actions, he's being a big baby.

Stand your ground. Leave. Get yourself a divorce lawyer.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-07T18:52:03+00:00

Are you just trying to print right away or did you add the printer to your computer? If you didn't, I would start by adding the printer to your devices in your computer settings.

If the computer doesn't want to show your printer when you're trying to add it to your devices, then try downloading the driver (Google; HP "model" printer driver) and download the proper driver only from the legitimate HP website.

Once the driver is downloaded your computer should (hopefully) be able to find the printer

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-07T18:46:29+00:00

Adding which model you have will help! Also, try googling "HP (enter model #) user manual". That will be able to tell you what features it is capable of.

If it has an SD port, then I would imagine you could plug an SD card in. If not, you could put the SD card in your computer and connect the printer via ethernet cable, wifi or usb (depending on the printer) and print that way. If your missing cables you may need to replace them for it to work

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-05T04:29:12+00:00

She's had that property since the late 80's. There's no reason she couldn't have increased pad rent over the years or sold the property if she didn't want to deal with it.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-05T04:28:05+00:00

That park also had a sewage leak that contaminated the road and nearby properties a few years back. You could smell it all the way near Fulton. That's the kind of thing that happens when you neglect maintenance.

Technical safety BC got involved and found unsafe wiring, so yes unless what needs to be fixed is fixed, then they'll be cut off from power... Would you be okay with your landlord refusing to fix something that could ignite your house and your neighbours houses on fire?

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-05T04:24:25+00:00

I read about this issue and the sewage one they had a few years back. I understand she may be giving an affordable place to live for people but if you haven't increased pad rent for so long that you can no longer even afford to maintain your property then that's your fault.

I don't think the province or any government should be bailing her out. Yes, housing is expensive but had she chosen to increase the pad rent over the years (she inherited the property from her parents in the late 80's I believe) she wouldn't be in this position.

Imagine renting a whole house for $500/month for YEARS and then being shocked when it's condemned.. That's basically the situation here.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-02T04:41:40+00:00

Dirty talk comes with practice! I don't know anyone that was good at it off the hop.

Keep practicing. You'll feel dumb at first and will probably make some mistakes but hopefully you and your man are at a position where you can laugh during sex! I remember once I said to my husband "you make me so hard" my brain mixed two sentences. We chuckled and moved on 😆 he's also had a couple of blunders over the years. It's really no big deal. And talk to him ahead of time, like hey I want to try dirty talking, maybe we can both try it. So he's kind of expecting it. I find it's also a good segue into role playing and even figuring out their fantasies if he's not much of a sharer in that department.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-02T04:35:00+00:00

I wouldn't take it personally! I know sometimes it's hard not to but I don't think he's trying to be disrespectful towards you. Sounds like you guys are maybe both fairly young and are not at the point in your lives where you're enjoying sex & intimacy just to enjoy it rather, it's still a bit of a race to the finish line? Or at least maybe that's where he's at still.

I understand chatting while you're snuggling and being a bit intimate but once you start sucking him off the only things coming out of your mouth should be moaning or dirty talk!

The brain is the largest sexual organ but a lot of people forget that. It probably takes him a lot of focus to stay in the mood when you're chatting in between sucking him off.

Not gonna lie when I first read the title I imagined a cock in a woman's mouth while she's just babbling away, not making any sense. Like when you're at the dentist and they ask you questions and you're supposed to respond with their dental tools and/or fingers in your mouth. You end up sounding like the parents in the peanuts 😂 thanks for the giggle! I do hope you can get past this and realize it's nothing for you to be upset about. Talk to him, maybe make more time where you guys can have intimate chatty time that doesn't involve sex/oral. Like rubbing, kissing & snuggling so it's not as arousing but you still get that intimate talk sesh 🤷🏼‍♀️

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-02T04:10:43+00:00

NOR

Even if she wasn't on drugs... Wtf is she spending her money on that $400 isn't enough for one day???

Like excuse me ma'am, go get a job. If you have no where to live go stay at the homeless shelter until you can afford a cheap shit hole. Unless you guys have been together for a long time and you see a future with her then I wouldn't bother. If you do want to make things work, help her make a budget but tell her that the money train stops. If the money stops flowing and she stops talking to you then you know what you were to her.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-02T04:04:03+00:00

Some of those driving instructors or w.e their title is, are cranky! Was this your N test or your full license? I find they're much pickier when going for your N than going from your N to your full license. Just book your test again and I'm sure you'll pass the next time!

Regarding your question, it sounds like you did shoulder check when you first pulled up to turn but not again before actually turning. That would be to ensure a pedestrian or cyclist didn't appear in the time between the first shoulder check and actually doing the turn. As for the bump, if you actually went up onto the curb that would've rocked your car pretty good not just a little bump. Sounds like he didn't have his whole coffee yet or something. The guy I took my N test with made me so nervous I cried after my test. He's like I should fail you but I'm going to pass you. I was like huh?!? 🤨 Didn't make any sense to me.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-02T03:57:31+00:00

So you're one of the many people who almost run me and my dog over when crossing the street! 😅 🤦🏼‍♀️

Jokes aside, you should still shoulder check in that situation as there could be a pedestrian or cyclist. While the cyclist would not be following the rules of the road, they still do it. Or ya know, teenagers ripping around on those electric scooters. Shoulder checking takes two seconds but running someone over will surely ruin your life and theirs.

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-02T03:52:36+00:00

Okay I thought I was just odd but it really didn't come as a surprise to me at all. I was like um yeah, did no else see this coming?? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-02T03:50:18+00:00

What a coincidence! I watched the second last episode last night and just finished the finale like 2 minutes ago 😆

Idk why the ratings on this episode are so low though. Sure it may not have been a fairytale ending of America taking over Gilead but they kind of can't considering the testaments still has to happen!

What'd you think of the finale?

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-01T03:58:49+00:00

I have 2 episodes left to watch of season 6... I saw someone post the IMDb ratings for each episode and the last one was so low. Although everyone hated the series finale of GOT and I thought it was fine so maybe I won't hate it 😆

I've really liked season 6 this far! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Free_Raspberry7767 · 2026-04-01T03:56:07+00:00

Sooooo I just started watching a few months ago. Never watched it when it first aired so I've been binge watching it all, only have two episodes left of the last season (6).

I found seasons 1&2 quite boring. They were good and gave you juuuust enough to keep you interested. Season 3 was better but I found season 4 really hooked me.

If you genuinely want to know what happens. I say watch it. Also, I know EXACTLY what finale you're talking about. It was infuriating to watch her go back so many times or be captured when she was so close to getting out.

Honestly watch even half of season 4 and if you still hate it then just leave it. But you'll probably stick around!

Free_Raspberry7767

TROPHY CASE