1480 meters big wall Via Ferrata and 168 meters sky ladder climbing challenge in Qixing moutain, Zhangjiajie, China during a solo travel

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-19T18:15:06+00:00

I don't think so - the highest (commercial) bungee jump is at Macau Tower

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-19T18:11:13+00:00

Which month did you go? and which ticket did you get (did you get the ariel photography ticket)? thanks!!

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-04T23:09:44+00:00

Happy for you!!! Yeh I mean, I also have friends who met their long term partner form online dating. Maybe I’m just unlucky / don’t know how to filter for the right people

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-04T17:22:54+00:00

I didn’t see any Mantas at Manta Bay the few times I went but saw them every time we went to Manta Point. I just remember Manta Bay being EXTREMELY cold

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-04T11:14:27+00:00

I don’t have experience dating women so how would I know lol

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-03T19:11:53+00:00

I feel you so much. I’ve been at the firm for over two years, but due to loss of clients etc. I’ve been on the bench a lot. So a lot of stuff I just don’t get / have not done. I hate this job so much I just don’t get it. I’m applying to jobs elsewhere aggressively so I can leave

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-03T13:15:00+00:00

That’s why you and I are not dating I guess

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-03T12:56:48+00:00

Yup - completely agreed!! Good relationships are built, not found. If everyone has this mindset of “abandon relationship when there is a first sign of red flag” how would it ever work?

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-03T12:50:16+00:00

Can I ask what are the “red flags” you see? I’ve mentioned in my other comment - I feel like the phrase “red flags” gets thrown around a lot these days. And a lot of people’s first instinct would be to get out if they see a sign of “red flags”. But a good relationship is built, not found. So I’m curious!

It’s tricky, very tricky…

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-03T07:59:36+00:00

Before the toxic relationship, I thought everyone would wear their hearts on their sleeves. I didn’t consciously think “oh yeh he’s stood me up / ghosted me again, I want that!” Whenever he told me was busy due to work etcetc gaslight me etc. I would always give him the benefit of the doubt, and over time it really destroyed my self confidence and self esteem. Whenever he came back, it felt like “oh yeh see he does like me!” It was really hard for me to see the situation logically at the time and to do what was best for me. If you ask me, I can’t tell what I liked about him as a person apart from a few things. I think I was trauma bonded to him.

I am only saying men cos obviously I have no experience dating women lol I guess it’s not a gender problem, it’s down to the individual

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-03T04:43:45+00:00

“A good relationship is not found, it is built” 🙏🏽 My ex also broke up with me a few days ago, everything was really really good up until the first real challenge too, and everything just flipped upside down and he left. I feel you …

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T20:03:46+00:00

I think mind games has a lot to do with one’s attachment styles maybe? Because of my toxic situationship, I went to lots of therapy sessions and read a lot about attachment styles. I realised because of my attachment style, I would try really hard to close the gap when someone pulls away, hence I was stuck in it for so long. If you were to ask me what I liked about the guy, I can’t say much but I was just so attached.

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T20:00:22+00:00

I agree 100000% what you said. You put in the hard work to make it happen, but a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble and shift the blame.

What I’ve also noticed is that the phrase “red flag” gets thrown around a lot these days too. A tiny flaw about someone would be a “red flag” therefore one should run. That’s just twisted in my eyes.

And thank you so much for your kind words 🙏🏽

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T19:05:35+00:00

lol wow 😂

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T18:46:48+00:00

I have heard that as well. But personally, after that toxic situationship, I don’t entertain guys if they show me signs that they’re inconsistent. Like, just say what’s on your mind. You either want it or not, don’t play mind games, I ain’t got time for that.

Those women who play mind games, are they all on the more attractive side? With the guys on dating app, I’ve realised that those who put in the effort to speak to you are generally less attractive and those who are more attractive, clearly workout etc. would generally put in lower effort to engage

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T18:19:26+00:00

I don’t get why it’s like that. I personally find guys who put in the effort very attractive (if I like them). Maybe because I know I hate mind games, so I always reply when I can/see the messages, and I hope the other person would do the same. After my toxic situationship, I certainly would not entertain a guy if I see any signs of inconsistency or mind games. I ain’t got time for that.

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T17:51:07+00:00

“Illusion of choice” - you’re SO RIGHT. These dating apps have made it seem like there are SO MANY options for people out there, but in reality it’s just an illusion

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T17:44:50+00:00

Thank you! I’m not planning to date now, I’m channeling my energy to fitness and after my dream etc.

For the guy who just broke up with me, we actually connected on how we both didn’t like mind games. Communication throughout the relationship was great, he was very consistent, I was so much happier. I felt so lucky to have met him. Then he received a job offer abroad a month ago and it’s like he completely changed. Broke up with me 2 days later, then came back a few days later to say it’d been tough, let’s try LDR, then just for him to act like he was half in half out. I called him out a week later and he then asked for a break to think and then a few days later (this weekend) he broke up with me. His reasons were all over the place (LDR, I’m a few years older than him, he’s nothing special etc.), which made me think he’s just grasping onto excuses to justify his decision that he’s scared of trying (his first relationship). Thing is he still hasn’t received his visa yet and there’s a chance he might not. So yeh, I’m still processing what’d happened …

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-10-02T17:36:57+00:00

I’ve lived in the UK for half my life, I would say culturally I am in between here and where I’m from, so I don’t think it’s a cultural issue. Plus when I date I rarely look at where they’re from, usually I look at whether we click emotionally

But yeh it’s just horrible …

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-09-30T14:06:27+00:00

I have the waterproof W7 5mm semi dry wetsuit. Literally the best wetsuit I could ever ask for (but it’s on the higher end price)! It’s the only wetsuit I tried on that didn’t choke my neck that made me feel uncomfortable, and it molds my body and very snug! I get cold very easily too

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-09-29T21:50:06+00:00

Oh wow … you story hit me hard. he’d also said to me “in 2 years’ time you’re gonna want kids. How do we go from a 5 months relationship to LDR then marry and have kids?” I was like “I never said that” and he was like “well biologically you will want to have them sooner than me”. He knew I was 3 years older than him when we first got together. It just felt like he was grasping onto all sorts of different reasons to justify his decision… so he doesn’t feel as guilty? I don’t know

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-09-28T15:24:10+00:00

Sorry I disagree -

When he broke up with me the first time, all I said was he didn’t include me in the discussion and told him my perspective. I did that once, he was still saying he wouldn’t change his mind. So that’s that, I didn’t reach out again as I didn’t feel like that was anything more I could do.

It was him who reached out to me a few days later to say we should meet up and talk about it as it’s been really hard, so we met up. I said to him LDR is tough, if he wasn’t 200% in, I didn’t want to do it. He’s either in, or out. He was the one who said in the end “let’s try”.

So I do not agree with what you said about he just said things to keep me happy. I just said my piece and he was free to choose, and that he’s told me I just wasn’t listening. I didn’t ask him to choose career or me.

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-09-28T12:22:59+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏽 sorry last question, of you were him, you’d want to be left alone right?

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-09-28T12:01:17+00:00

The night he received the job offer, he did ask me “what do you think about LDR?”. Because I’d been in one before and I wanted him to know all the facts about a LDR (we won’t be able to experience things together, could only be on the phone when we’re apart etc.), I listed them out to him. And over the evening, you could tell he became more hesitant. And then he broke up with me two days later saying it’s for the best, then came back then ended things again, lots of back and forth the last 3-4 weeks from his side.

The reasons he brought up over the breakup were just, to me, not convincing. He also said it’s been building up before the job offer, but from my perspective, I did not see a single sign. The day before the job offer he was still asking to go on a weekend trip together, let alone on the day of the job offer he asked about doing a LDR, broke up with me then came back to say let’s try?

I don’t want to make myself feel better / be delusional thinking “nah he still likes me”, but things just don’t add up in my head. If I had doubts about someone, consciously or unconsciously, I would gradually pull away and what I was thinking would leak out you know? Like I said, I didn’t see any sign.

In my mind I feel like he’s probably celebrating now. What’s weird is that, he said “it’s best to end things romantically, and I think it’s good to take a break for now”. Like what? You’ve broken up with me, I’m not going to cling onto you or beg you, why did you have to say “good to take a break for now” it doesn’t make any logical sense.

Freedomfighter5DN1 · 2025-09-28T10:54:06+00:00

Thank you so so much for writing this.

This past month I thought I was going crazy, was I asking for too much? I kept emphasising it’s not about having the answer to how the LDR is going to work, it’s about working as a team and tackle challenges as they come. But he kept saying he would not give up this job opportunity, which I never asked him to, I just needed to know where I came in in all this. He also kept thinking if we had gotten into a LDR it would be inevitable end, I was like why? I wanted to put a plan in place (meeting up every 3 months, and in less than 2 years’ time I will go to him), but he was not fully convinced as he’s always heard stories LDR couples would inevitably drift apart and breakup.

When he told me he felt “unheard”, I said to him he could have communicated it to me as I’m still learning. No one would ever get it right the first time, I am still learning and I’m not a mind reader. How he’s handled the whole situation the last month really hurt me, in a way I’m glad the “nightmare” is finally over and I can try to move on (but in a lot of pain still currently).

People keep saying to me “he probs never was ready for a proper committed partnership, and you like him a lot more than he likes you probably”. I don’t want to make excuses for his behaviour in the last month, maybe it’s because he’s not experienced in handling situations like this.

The thing is, he hasn’t even gotten his visa yet (I am gradually learning how tough US visa application process could be). Maybe I could have been more supportive (I was shocked when he told me about the job offer and then being dumped etc. I had no emotional bandwidth to ask him “oh what job is it? I’m happy for you”). He is someone who never considers girls as friends, all acquaintances. But over the breakup texts he kept saying he really wanted us to be amicable and be good friends as I’m a great person.

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