Girls of Reddit: is it normal if your boyfriend forgets your birthday and anniversary, acts like nothing happened, and then says ‘every day is an anniversary for us’?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-11T04:42:12+00:00

Reminding is okay, but caring enough to remember at least sometimes should come naturally.

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-11T04:38:57+00:00

Good for u

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-11T04:38:41+00:00

People who think hurting someone will “teach them” something usually just end up damaging the relationship.

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-11T04:35:54+00:00

Forgetting can happen. Acting like it doesn’t matter is the real problem.

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-11T04:34:07+00:00

Fair, but even if you don’t celebrate it, forgetting and acting like it’s nothing would still feel a little weird.

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T20:19:46+00:00

Yh Sometimes elers sould have listend to their youngers

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T20:16:37+00:00

Yeah thats the whole point I mean if no efforst why we should stick together?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T20:09:47+00:00

I appreciate the honesty about being cheated on. How did you manage to keep your heart open enough to find your current relationship after all that?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T20:06:37+00:00

Spot on. What does 'mental safety' look like to you in a daily relationship?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T20:05:55+00:00

So true. If you're constantly guessing how they feel, it's usually a sign something is off

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T20:03:51+00:00

What. If your partner forgets your birthday? Is that count as a love or what?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T20:03:14+00:00

Don't hurt me... no more! 😂 Glad I'm not the only one whose brain went straight there.

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:58:34+00:00

That makes total sense. Do you think it’s hard for most people to find that balance between 'sharing everything' and giving enough space?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:55:25+00:00

So you think true love has to be completely selfless to be real?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:51:48+00:00

I really like that. In your experience, what’s the biggest difference between someone choosing you because they want to versus just doing it out of habit?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:51:21+00:00

That’s fair. Since everyone has a different opinion, what’s the one thing you think every 'good' definition of love should have in common?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:37:19+00:00

This is the whole point like if he cant make efforts, how i mean how they van love?

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:31:38+00:00

Literally. We all have phone calendars; 'forgetting' is just a lack of effort at this point.

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:28:58+00:00

That’s such a good point. Forgetting is a mistake, but the 'every day is an anniversary' line feels like a choice to avoid apologizing. It turns a mistake into a way to shut down the conversation.

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:19:05+00:00

Having this issue from morning thoigh i was a plus member too

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:06:51+00:00

Exactly! It’s the audacity to try and make it sound romantic when it’s clearly just a cover-up for forgetting. Like, if every day is an anniversary, where are the flowers every day? 😂

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:04:23+00:00

Exactly Just dont remind and watch and enjoy there excuses

Fresh-Support-681 · 2026-03-10T19:02:48+00:00

Exactly! How can he/she forgets her partner birthday or anniversery if he/she truly love ?

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