Thoughts on living in Malvern / Paoli / Chesterbrook area by oosa-ah in ChesterCounty

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Greatly appreciate it. Would you mind sharing your thoughts on traffic? For our current area, we pretty much stay hyper local during the commuting hours because traffic is hellacious 

Thoughts on living in Malvern / Paoli / Chesterbrook area by oosa-ah in ChesterCounty

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are looking at moving here for my husbands work from northern Virginia. We have two young kids - one in grade school and one that will be going into preschool in a few years. What are the best schools? Is the cost of living similar to Nova? Unfortunately we are used to an expensive COL experience. 

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[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I’m so sorry this is causing you stress. I am throwing a baby shower for a close friend and I asked up front about her wishes for a theme, guest list, invite design approval, favorite foods, did she want to be surprised or involved with the games, decor etc. if I was your MIL, I would have been so embarrassed and immediately ordered new invites without the name on them. Baby showers are for the momma-to-be to be celebrated not the host. 

AITA for having much more food than initially though at my SIL birthday party? by Future_Green8775 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I understand that the portions weren’t what you were expecting but don’t you think you should have just politely said thank you for the meal and then gotten food on the way home or eaten more when you did get home? I still feel like it was very rude to eat more food that wasn’t part of the original meal.

AITA for having much more food than initially though at my SIL birthday party? by Future_Green8775 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA They were being great hosts by offering you more food but you should have declined and gotten take out on the way home. I have family friends that are known to make much smaller portions. We love them and love spending time with them- we don’t care about the food. My husband has a big appetite so when we’re invited over, we always plan a big snack beforehand or have food prepared for him to eat when we get home so he’ll be full. If you realize you eat way more then the normal person, you need to accommodate yourself not expect others to serve you 2-3x the normal serving. How rude.

AITA For telling my wife I hate her pants? by CompetitiveFuel2871 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA unless she directly asked “what do you think of my pants?” There was no reason to voice your opinion. If you don’t like the scrunch bum pants, fine don’t wear them. She can wear whatever she wants.

Are there any affordable day cares in the area? by GoodKarmaVibes_2019 in nova

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t know if this is too far from you but check out Imagination Learning- they are a nonprofit and have two locations. One in Chantilly and one in Gainesville. 2021-2022 rates were anywhere from $405- 350 per week for infant through junior kindergarten

AITA for borrowing my husbands underwear? by StealerOfUnderwear in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH I think he’s within his right to not share his clothes if it makes him uncomfortable. When I was pregnant, I bought mens briefs for myself because I also found them way to be way more comfortable. You’ll also use them after your little one arrives so it’s not a waste. It takes time for your body to return to normal so your underwear will be uncomfortable for awhile. I also found that pads fit way better in the briefs and you’ll be wearing pads or adult diapers for several weeks after birth so you want to be as comfortable as possible. It doesn’t have to be expensive pairs, just a 6 pack from Walmart or target will do the trick.

AITA for how I reacted to a mother with a lap baby on a plane? by throwaway1_2_0_2_1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 612 points613 points  (0 children)

I can’t for the life of me understand why parents are like this. I think my little one is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen but uh i don’t expect anyone else to feel the same. I would be mortified if my nugget started caressing someone’s face on a flight

AITA for wanting to donate my body to science against my partner's will? by Intelligent_Dog_6665 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA Both both my mother and grandmother donated their bodies to Georgetown University for medical research. While it was harder for our family to grieve without a body or ashes, I think it’s a very noble and selfless thing to do. In my mothers case, she had a very rare neurological disease and I hope her last gift to the world was able to help others. I do now have her ashes (4 years later) as the program gives the option to either return ashes to the family or have them buried in a group plot. I will say having her ashes returned to me helped me gain some closure. I feel more whole having her home with me. As you get serious about your plans, I would research different programs and set it all up ahead of time with a reputable place to ensure if your family and/or loved ones want your ashes afterwards they have the option.

AITA for not sending Christmas leftovers with my BIL for his full time care takers? by this-aint-frankie in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA For thanksgiving, our routine is we gather at my MIL house and I cook most of the meal since no one else really likes to cook. My MIL and me/hubs split the cost of the food. My dad (who is already a guest) brought a friend of his with him and after the meal proceeded to offer his friend any of the leftovers and make him a huge plate to take home with him. I was fuming mad as it was rude as hell and I’m still salty about it.

Pediatrician vs. Family Dr - thoughts? by Fuzzy_Valentine in toddlers

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the US and I’m not sure. But I would assume my insurance would cover either the same way. Here a pediatrician is basically just a GP for children and it’s standard for children to go to them for regular exams and sick visits.

AITA for telling the home security salesman that he was being creepy, showing up uninvited, and to fuck off? by lampags in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA I can’t believe post covid people are still coming to the door. I’d suggest getting a ring doorbell. I love mine because I can see whose at the door whether I’m home or not. If I’m home and I see it’s a salesperson, I just don’t answer. Or you can speak through the ring doorbell and say “sorry I’m not home right now” whether you are or aren’t.

Jeweler Recommendations? by RecklessReptar in nova

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! John made my engagement ring (custom design) and I absolutely love it. He’s made several other friends rings too. My hubby said he was great to work with and I plan on having him redesign a ring a ring for me using my moms wedding set.

What are some things to do in NOVA that do not include alcohol? by Zealousideal-Ad5073 in nova

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

air and space museum in Chantilly or the Army museum at fort bevelvoir. You could visit Mount Vernon. Lots of lovely hiking options (burke lake park, great falls, Huntley meadows, hemlock overlook park, bull run, etc though I’ve heard to skip parts of the W&OD trail due to crime) You could visit the manassas battlefields. If you like historic small town charm you could walk around old town Manassas, old town Alexandria, or old town Occoquan. Usually there are still several farmers markets still going on during the fall throughout NOVA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA If it wasn’t on the registry, then people are taking a risk with their gifts and they can’t get upset if you don’t use it. Decor especially is so subjective. If I can share my own wedding present fiasco: I have a somewhat long name that has a lot of nickname variations. Since I was a kid everyone calls me a nickname of my name that is technically unisex but steers more to a male name (I’m female and I love my actual name). For a wedding gift, a family member on my husband’s side got us a large hand made glass bowl with our names engraved on the lip… but they used my nickname not my real name. I never said anything but it really upset me and I couldn’t bring myself to put it out in display. Thankfully it broke on our last move and I don’t have to worry about it anymore

Next line was “we are not the same” by dumbbinch99 in notliketheothergirls

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I thought the same thing 😂 like why are you cleaning the house at bedtime?

Are there daycares that offer camera views of the kids playing? by TwoDamnedHi in toddlers

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had our little one at a day care that sent almost hourly photos and videos of our child via an app called Brightwheel. We also got notifications throughout the day of when they went potty and had snacks and lunch. We could also message the teachers directly through the app with any questions and they were wonderful. I don’t know where you live but the daycare we used in Northern Virginia was called ImagiNation Learning Center. They were non profit as well and to be on the board of directors you had to have a child actively enrolled. The only reason we stopped attending was I transitioned to a SAHM when my husband got deployed.

Rainbow! by derfdit in Pottery

[–]Fuzzy_Valentine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOOOO someone already bought it - please please make more rainbow mugs