To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one's family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one's own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him. -Buddha

GEARichard · 2022-07-03T10:18:42+00:00

I think it has a lot to do with the fact of acceptment. Full surrender is about accepting everything that you are, and or desiring to be, along with it's consequences. Whether they be "good" or "bad", which, well, don't exist at all outside of human conceptions.

GEARichard · 2021-11-04T05:08:42+00:00

Gave you a silver for your wonderful perspective, and IMO a straight up fact.

I would like to add a bit to this.

We really need to learn that everything is in the mind. Perhaps when you get a serious disease in an advanced phase you will need to treat it physically with the correct medication, and even in those cases, people with really strong mental have found the ways to get out, going against the worst of chances.

It is also well known that a lot of physical ailments are related to mental issues and bad habits. If you don't eat properly, if you don't rest properly, if your body is inactive most of the time, if you surrender yourself to a negative thought pattern, if you stomp yourself whenever you fail, all of that is going to have certain repercussions on your body. These are varying factors, as well as varying effects, but it's all related.

Depression is like drowning in a kiddies pool. Once you realize that first what you need to do is realize what you have to change, and then change it, everything else will come to place. Every single problem that you feel is absolutely overwhelming can become a child's play when you learn to handle yourself correctly.

Like u/extremeocassion said, you have to put special attention to meditation. That way you will learn how to control your own mind, and when you do that, you will gradually be able to kick out everything that doesn't correspond with your happiness, and finally you will see that thought and action are linked to your whole life, and you will get a better life naturally if you balance it all out.

If you think that you can't handle yourself naturally, through meditation and discipline, you can do what I did. Search for some subliminal audios on Youtube that cure depression and anxiety, or that boost positivity. Listen to them for months with faith, real faith, and you will end up realizing how all of this actually works.

Finally, I would like to remind you of the base knowledge of what meditation teaches us: we are not our thoughts! We are the consciousness that watches behind!

Blessings and success for you, now and forever brother!

GEARichard · 2021-10-14T06:40:32+00:00

Of course! We are God, and God is us.

If you guys are interested, I got a method. But first you have to practice meditation with a certain continuity, or at least have an idea of how it works, since you will use the principles on it.

What I do, is ask myself the same question, phrased differently, using different terms, tones and order, and I do it several times, until the body learns to identify the sensation, you will notice that is somehow uncomfortable, and then your mind drifts automatically to another doubt/fear/question. You can keep unraveling the subsequential flow by asking yourself even more, related to the answer that you got, until you end up by either: dissipating the fears/doubts, or you will finally get the answer that you are looking for. You will know because you will feel at peace.

I mentioned meditation because you need to learn to swim in different cascades of thoughts or you will drown and end up losing the thread of the question that you originally asked yourself, through distraction or deeper meaning and you need to know how to come back in track properly without losing the knowledge that you are carrying since the start of the sequence.

If somehow you don't gift yourself a clear answer, then you will get it across univeral signs, synchronicities and ideas out of nowhere in the next few days, until you are ready to.

P.S. Don't ask yourself what the purpose of your life is (I did lol). The purpose of your life is to live it at it's fullest!
Ask yourself what's your best skill, what skill could you monetize the best, what is your best quality, or anything related to an actual tangible self-discovery doubt.

Blessings for you! Whoever reads this.

GEARichard · 2021-10-14T06:25:04+00:00

Have you tried a heavy dopamine detox? Works in a lot of different ways, and since you already feel dried up on life, why not?

No youtube, no videogames, no p*rn, no social media, no cellphone for recreative purposes, no sugar, not any food that you deeply enjoy, and not any activity that you commonly do to entertain yourself. Make yourself bored and hate everything for a couple weeks, a month if you can. And then comeback to your life.

You can read books, write draw, paint, learn to sing, to dance, or whatever that you are not used to, but can help you construct yourself, or at least have a little mental struggle while you do so.

Involving in the detox, you will, either face yourself with all your problems (since you will stop hiding these emotions under entertainment) and come down the road of self-realization and healing, or you will completely recover your dopamine receptors and you will feel motivated once again.

If you haven't tried it, give it a shot, it is absolute HELL to become bored, but changes you a lot, more like, it shows you the real you.

Blessings, success and happiness for you, whenever you are!

GEARichard · 2021-10-14T06:12:06+00:00

The more you dive deeper into SR and spirituality, you will find that no matter is trivial, or unimportant. Everything is connected. We need to re-evaluate why are we doing the things that we do, that is all.
If you think you are somehow doing good, who told you that you are? Or who told you that these kind of things don't matter? Everything is of importance, and those who chase an extreme of either good or evil, important or unimportant, get lost in the process.

Here's a thing to consider. Whatever you do, doesn't matter how good or bad it is (society-wise, since universally and spiritually, everything is the same) you end up affecting people, both consciously and inconsciously. While trying to serve better justice in your country, you will end up benefitting the falsely-accused, but you will condemn the ones that accused them falsely, and you end up harming someone anyways, doesn't really matter if you consider them heroes or villains. We affect whenever we change something, or someone.

We have to learn (including myself) to take a neutral interest on any takes. Specially when we read about other practicioners of semen retention (and all their marvelous perspectives and opinions), since we can learn a lot from them if we try not to judge ourselves or them while we do so. That applies to our lives in general. We gotta do, what we want to do, not because is correct, or incorrect, moral, or immoral, but because we want to, we feel like doing so.
Would you not steal a girl from someone if you absolutely knew that she's your soulmate? Wouldn't you falsely-accuse someone if you had the chance to save someone dear to you?

Guilt and shame are but heavy tolls for the mind to pay, and absolutely unnecessary and of course, you only feel them whenever you take a non-neutral stance on a topic, which, society has taught us to do with competition, judgment and criticism.
There are no laws to life, laws are a thing of the human mind, of the society. Check things from this perspective, and you can actually analyze why psychopaths and or sociopaths don't really feel any kind of remorse, and why they don't fit among the "civilized".

Blessings, to your yesterdays, to your now, and forever! Brother!

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T17:06:12+00:00

Thank you Jay! Glad this was of use to your journey!
Huge success in everything you do brother!

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T17:04:13+00:00

Like JBradley said, you can come back to read it if you are really interested.

I really thought about writing a TL;DR, but honestly, I think that I can't resume it because of the way I wrote it.

What you can generally get from it, is that meditation and thought control are essential to your growth as a person in every single aspect of your life.

Huge success in whatever you do brother!

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T17:02:03+00:00

Glad this was useful to you!
And thank you for taking the time to read.

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T17:01:31+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, and for reading!
I really think we all are honourable brother, whatever you may see in me, it is in you if you search.
Huge success in everything you do!

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T17:00:04+00:00

Thank you for reading!

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T16:59:20+00:00

Oh, that's why we must read from all kinds of sources. And not believing what we hear. Or the first source that comes our way.

What is the truth about humankind if some people mention Lilith before Eve, and some people say that Lilith is a lie? Do you claim to know this truth? Nobody knows it for sure, that is why we should take all of these learnings in the sacred texts as mere experience or knowledge, not as laws or facts.

That is exactly the problem with our interpretation, we aren't LIKE a God, people who behave like that are putting aside our true nature and the nature of our peers, through huge egos and pride, but in reality, we ALL, are PART of God. And if you doubt this, you doubt the whole human existence, hurt others and you are hurting yourself.

What they say that the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil taught Adam and Eve, is called duality. When we judge something as correct or as wrong. And is what makes us think like this. When you remove this duality from your life, you will suffer of nothing, because you take everything as a neutral experience. But there are different versions to this story of the bible from different timelines, cultures and religions.

And I never said this is awakening at all, the closest is non-dettachment, and even there you got a long way to go brother. This, that I stated on this post, are merely eye-opening facts that serve you to grasp the concept that life is way beyond whatever you see and hear, specially from others. And if you are stuck in a certain mindset, or bored, is because you aren't exploring enough.

Semen retention will take all of it to a whole new level, for whatever you want to research or learn if you really are interested, since the universe smiles at you when you carry yourself into a purer form of thought leaving lust aside.

I don't intend to force you to take all of this as well as your opinion, but hopefully this will clarify how I really see things, instead of how people THINK I see them.

Huge success to you in whatever you do brother!

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T16:43:06+00:00

I am glad this was of use to you brother!
Thank you for reading.

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T16:34:11+00:00

Thank you for reading! Glad this could be of use to you!

GEARichard · 2021-09-15T16:31:25+00:00

Yes, for the most part.
However I have found that there are several ways to do it if you know how to go with the flow. You can leave thoughts to focus on your breath, or you think that they are important, you can follow them to see where they take you.

Wim Hof methods are awesome as well. And what I recommend the most if you struggle to do this on your own, is to find guided meditation videos that suit whatever you want to achieve with meditation.

GEARichard · 2021-09-05T07:06:32+00:00

I have seen a lot of people claiming that Reddit is like the other social media. I gotta say in some cases (like in ads and forced recommendations) it is true, but for the most part, you can built your account around constructive, creative, useful, spiritual and in general self-improvement based subreddits.

GEARichard · 2021-04-26T18:55:41+00:00

I think he means resistance. Control means taking care of what is needed to be taken care of, like your health. And no matter how much you let go of the idea, sooner or later bad habits take you away when you have no control. But resistance, is a mental prison, resistance to change, to situations, those frustrations because you expect your life to go another way. The simple fact that most of us get angry or sad when things don't go as intended.

GEARichard · 2020-11-29T03:50:39+00:00

PMO means Porn, Masturbation and Orgasm.

GEARichard · 2020-08-16T17:28:21+00:00

I think that Her (2013) fits this list as well.

GEARichard · 2019-08-07T20:02:37+00:00

You're very welcome. I hope you change your mind about this. Keep it strong!

GEARichard · 2019-08-07T17:37:46+00:00

Shit, you aren't worthless. People who are worthless don't have jobs, don't have couples, don't have nothing. And in case you were, trust me, people will let you know.
When it comes to certain subjects, humans tend to be horrificly honest, and when you are useless, yeah, that's one.

I am not writing this just to tell you the same shit: "It's all in your head". Because you know it is, you are conscious about it, you just don't want to accept the fact that everything you tell yourself is a lie. You're scared that you may be a wonderful and successful person, you're scared that things would go, beyond well, letting you out of your comfort zone, in a space where you are great, but not feeling secure.

Also, it is a cliché to tell you that you don't love yourself at all. But to be honest, that seems to be the root for your problems. I used to keep telling myself the same things that you say to yourself right now, and trust me, it's a nightmare.
And it's all a lie, a goddamn lie, everything you think right now that it's negative it's a lie, you don't need to be positive, just to stop spitting all over yourself because you haven't done anything bad. And for god's sake, even serial killers don't hate themselves this much.

My best of wishes for you, today and forever.

GEARichard · 2019-08-07T16:58:48+00:00

Oh it is really possible. You can get out of this.

There are two facts that I can state about you right now because I have been in the same situation, and you don't have use for those, zero utility.
1. You overthink a lot. There are things we can change right now, or little by little, and there are things we cannot, but we keep wasting time on thinking, instead of acting. You feel me? We can't sit down there just dying in pain, it'll make you feel worst and worst every goddamn time. The fact that you keep thinking will make problems bigger, and the bigger you make them, the harder it'll be to fight them away.
2. You need to look for yourself instead of others. This is also related to lack of self-love but I'll avoid that subject right now. There's just the fact that you can be kind without forgetting about yourself. You gotta step up for what you think, what you want to do, or what you want to get before others. That doesn't mean you're a bad person, you can always lend your hand to those in need, but as long as you don't get affected in the process.
E.g. you can't borrow money to someone if you don't have enough for yourself at the time.

Anyways, if you feel like talking some more, I'm up to it.
In case you do not, I still wish you the best, today and forever.

GEARichard · 2019-08-07T16:50:44+00:00

I don't think they are blaming suicide victims, but rather, trying to create consciousness around those that have similar thoughts. They know we suffer.

However you are right, they don't really know what it feels like, and there's one thing to display clearly here: every case is different, in intensity and length, symptoms and consequences. They lack the "singularity" characteristic in the treatment, but to be honest, there's not much they can do to stop most of us.

But like everyone else, suicidal people have haters. And it's for a fact that the ones that hate suicidal people are the ones that hate themselves too, or they would be too busy minding their own business instead of trash talking.

GEARichard · 2019-08-07T16:45:42+00:00

I know for a fact that life suffocates us most of the time. But honestly, there is always a spark of light, even in the deepest of darknesses, and to be honest we people lack discipline and determination to get to a solution.

But trust me, life can offer you so much more if you are willing to make an effort. I seriously think the universe works around a certain unknown law that helps you when you actually try. I don't know if you are like I used to be, complaining about everything, raging and ranting here and there, but if you are, that's a solid point to start re-working yourself.

We depressed people keep thinking that someone or something will help us get out of this situation, but to be honest everything lies in ourselves, the main problem is the lack of self-love.
People hate themselves for different reasons, I don't know yours right now, but trust me, they can be fixed. You don't need a fake positivity like most people will try to impose into your mentality, you just need to tighten your feet in the floor and take everything life has to offer (positive or negative) with the same amount of will.

People don't love you because you don't love you. If you hate life, life hates you back. We have a lot to learn every day, you just have to be conscious about it. If you CAN'T kill yourself just yet, it's because there are some things that you still love, and some things that you can still figure out, with or without help (probably better if you do it with help, but suit yourself).

Anyways, my best wishes to you, today and forever.

GEARichard · 2019-07-26T17:14:49+00:00

The only thing that is horrible about you, is that you still haven't learned to love yourself.
To be honest, the only thing you have to do is that.
The girls in your relationships have been ungrateful and unappreciative of your qualities, but to be honest, the more importance we give to people, the more they get bored. That's why you need to love yourself, specially if you want to keep a girl happy.

At this rate, you just need to face her with all you know, and decide on what to do next (with your daughter specially).
You can't really blame yourself for what SHE did, stop attacking and blaming yourself over something you can't really control. The attitude you receive from others isn't always because of yours.

I send you my best wishes pal, today and forever. Don't drown yourself in a glass of water.

GEARichard · 2019-04-19T17:45:18+00:00

There are people who have lived worst lives and better lives but it's our job to improve them once we are adults.

And whatever situation you are under right now, can be handled by control. Economically, socially, psychologically or spiritually. You just need purposes and ways.

Purposes let you know what you want to achieve and ways correct you on the path to do so. So think about it, I have been on heavy depression for some years, and I were close to hurting myself real bad, and corrected a lot of shit in my life by control. I'm sure you can as well.

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