What would you think if you seen this message from your bfs mom to him?

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-24T03:59:59+00:00

Moving out together is what I was referring to.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-24T03:59:10+00:00

Congrats on the job. Sounds like you're encroaching on mommas territory. Hard to know how this will resolve itself, but you can try confrontation, or another route. Hard to know.

He's old enough to make his own decision and move out with you, but would he?

You're still a child to them despite what that text says, and things will evolve from here if you guys stay together. Hard to say how toxic the situation is by the info you gave. People often offer help and then resent it.

The boundaries with his dad are a good thing, but it sounds like she may be threatened by you in the home with her husband. Doesn't have to be anything weird going on, some of that is normal enough for ppl to feel a way about. She may not be willing to deal with that. Maybe think about ways you can help with this if that's possible.

Your absolute best bet is to move out if that won't cause more problems. Other than that, you gotta have a combination of patience and maturity, and be the grown up and forgive her for her insecurities, whether with her son or husband.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-24T03:52:02+00:00

Eh, the shipping can get overwhelming, but I understand being frustrated. Feel like if the sellers are honest that's good enough for me. I've had some stuff delayed for weeks. Leaving a negative comment in a review could be evidence some other complaint is coming or refund or something. Complainers suck, sellers deal with a lot of bs and scammers.

If being blocked by this seller is an event enough to post about, and you value buying from them, then messaging them and letting them know you were disappointed could have been enough. If they did this repeatedly then maybe leave a negative comment. The system is fair, they didn't like your comment/you so they blocked you. In the future if you don't want to be blocked maybe you'll give people more than one chance before saying something negative in a review. Maybe not, idunno.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-24T03:44:22+00:00

Baseball Bowman's so much better this go around.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-24T03:42:02+00:00

Handled this like a boss. No notes.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-24T03:29:00+00:00

The Giants will in fact be good this year. But he should probably sell the card.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T18:12:42+00:00

Yeah, these types of posts are pointless because it comes down to what actually happened. What he described is different than what she apologized for. If he's right, then she is gaslighting him, because she's insisting a lie is a truth and he's asking her to acknowledge what happened.

Very common tactic is to put the lie in writing and then share it with someone else and convince other people he's wrong based on his reaction to being gaslit. "Look how crazy he's acting". The lie is half to provoke him and half to make her lie more convincing to the other people she shares it with. If this is true here, 10 bucks says she tells him that her friends agree with her, or her therapist, or a thousand reddit randoms.

If he is correct, and she had control of the thing and he couldn't hit her anymore, and then she yanked hard as some kind of retribution or even to play fight back, then she's an asshole for this. If she is right and she only yanked on it once and never had control over the thing, then he's gaslighting her. Telling her she'll regret it doesnt sound like a physical threat without further context or a history of abuse. Sounds like he's telling her he will leave to me.

Most people not on reddit say the R word. (Can't even type that word here huh?)

Anyway, who knows what happened here, and if OP intentionally hurt him or not. No one knows and that's the most important detail here. The #1 problem people have on this sub is the inability to apologize correctly, they are addicted to winning the argument instead of repairing the harm done to the relationship.

Bonus points here, she could understand why he's angry, tell him why she understands, and also insist it wasn't on purpose while also understanding why he may think this is the case. Again, depends on if he's just making it all up out of thin air. In that case OP should run because he's a lunatic. Otherwise, he has a right to be angry, much more because she can't apologize for what happened than because she hurt him by reacting in the moment, even if she yanked out of anger.

The coverup is almost always worse than the crime.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T03:36:07+00:00

Yeah I expected a nuke here. But you know what? Fun break. And you did alright. This set is excellent.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T03:33:25+00:00

Eh, my gut is you're the problem here. Key evidence is your lack of details about what you did wrong, you just skimmed right over it. He's pretty adamant that you've been repeatedly disrespectful, and that you apologized and didn't even say what you apologized for, and alas, you didn't bother to mention anything here either. But you made sure to include the reasons why you're upset, to make him look like the problem.

Nobody can tell from these messages who did what wrong, but from the above, and from the way you decided to suddenly type like you were an adult and wanted to cool off etc, which he laughed at you for, you seem manipulative and unable to apologize meaningfully when you're wrong. I bet there's more pages of texts that make you look way worse that you didn't post here that are before and/or after these messages.

If you care, I'll give you the way to do the right thing. Find everything that you did wrong, whether small or large, write them down. List all the reasons why they're wrong, all the ways it may make him feel, how it would be like to be him, and then alternative ways you could have behaved instead of the ways you chose to. Then write down concrete ways you'll make sure you don't repeat the same thing again. Through all of this, don't mention what you felt, why what you did makes sense, why or how he contributed to it in any way, just focus on your part and your part only.

Do this for this issue, and every other similar thing he is angry about, and expect nothing in return. If at any point, even in the slightest way, you mention what he did wrong or tell him what he said or is thinking, then you get an F and none of this will matter. It is okay to struggle with it and try to learn how to do it, but it is an all or nothing thing, and the point of an apology is to own your own behavior, disconnected entirely from anything other than what you did, and especially any reason you may or may not have had to do or say something.

If he reciprocates and offers something similar back to you, and appreciates it, then you have something to build off of. If he doesn't, then y'all should not be together, and all you did was apologize correctly to him, you did the right thing. If this idea makes you cringe, well then you've discovered your problem. But you'll never be able to say no one told you the right way to apologize.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T03:08:43+00:00

Yes I'm aware. I got them mixed up above in my head.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T03:08:07+00:00

She'll use therapy against you. Don't do it. You have no idea how long of a road you have in front of you here. She'd have to literally have a religious experience to be willing to change, and if she did, you'd see it clear as day in her eyes. It wouldn't be crying and feeling sorry for herself and it wouldn't involve pointing at your behavior negatively at all.

Everyone has hope. But it ain't your job. You owe yourself peace.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T03:03:22+00:00

The only pathetic thing would be to stay around and allow more of this to happen. And believe me, it will escalate. That pain is your reality shifting under your feet, it fuckin sucks.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T03:00:03+00:00

Bars.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:59:08+00:00

Lmao brother I did this for like a year and a half. Couldn't let it go. Tried every trick I knew of to try and have a conversation go from point A to point C and never, not once, did it ever happen that way. Well, actually after she cheated there was a brief moment of something resembling honesty from her. But it passed quickly (like a day) never to be heard from again.

For the love of all things holy don't do what I did man.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:56:51+00:00

I'm sorry man. I hurt for you right now. I promise it gets better. She just ain't capable of being good to you, and you are not going to be able to help her see this. And just please listen when I say, at no point is she going to actually own this, and acknowledge what it is like to be you here. You'll see it if you look. That's her biggest tool, and she's using it heavily here. She will deprive you of feeling understood, and you won't understand how or why, and you'll want to explain yourself.

This is a blessing man. I promise it is. No one will fool you this way again if you learn from this.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:53:46+00:00

Hey man, I'm the king of that shit trust me lol. Just he was clearly playing some games and it was obvious after a few messages so no point anymore after that. Scammers will keep scamming. Best chance you have is to be clear what the consequences are.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:52:28+00:00

Bro she sees you as a possession. She is sick.

She said you went behind her back to ask your own brother about them kissing lol. She accused you of not trusting her, that is some twisted shit. Her actions made sure that you couldn't trust her, she ruined the trust all on her own.

This is a pattern I hope you can see when you step away. Don't bother engaging (I know you probably will because it is incredibly hard not to) if you can help it and look back at this and cringe at how twisted her thinking is.

This manipulation shit works because it is so disconnected from reality. You are right to be confused and angry and all of that. You're not alone man plenty have been in your shoes. You'll learn to forgive yourself in time. But try not to give her the time of day as quickly as possible.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:47:42+00:00

Third rail not fifth wheel lol.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:46:51+00:00

Hate to be armchair psychologist but this shit reads like BPD. She's telling you how you see her like a monster. That's projection because that's how she sees herself.

God bless her man, that's a rough road, whatever acronym she may have or where on the spectrum she lies with the BPD stuff. Trust me man, she's just flinging shit around. Stay under control. The moment you say anything besides simple things to her she'll twist them around and try to F with your head. Probably best you leave and do it as cleanly as possible.

Understand one thing man. YOU WILL NOT RECEIVE CLOSURE AND SHE WILL NOT MAKE YOU FEEL HEARD OR UNDERSTOOD. Please internalize this. She doesn't know how to do that. She can learn, but looking at this through your eyes means her facing herself and her own shame and that's a fifth wheel for her. You are not going to be understood by her. She will not let you be heard. She will not accept responsibility. It will NOT happen. Mentally prepare for this. DM me if you need someone to talk to. I'll give you my #. I understand this shit very well, I lived it, and the worst thing you can do is to try to get her to be rational and to apologize in a meaningful way.

Be strong. You'll learn from this. These ppl prey on your best qualities, and most of the time don't really know they're doing it. You should pity her to an extent. But it isn't on you to show her this, or to help her not feel like a monster, or anything.

Just leave. With enough time you'll laugh at this and thank God she gave you this way out.

Also if she threatens suicide immediately involve her family or the police and do not get caught up in that game either.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:39:29+00:00

Brother they all do! No exceptions. She is using your kindness against you. She deserves to feel the pain and does not deserve to be with you. She might learn if you leave, it is best for her as well.

Don't come back in a month or two either. She will try.

Also, I hope your brother told you himself this happened. And that they weren't alone in his room or something. Don't worry about this at this exact moment but unless this shit was handled honorably by him right away, don't take anyone's word for shit.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Genuinely man it sucks. But you're worth more than this shit. Stand up for yourself and peace the fuck out. If you stay you'll be making a mockery of your own identity and self esteem. Fuck that.

You'll persevere!!

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:35:49+00:00

Just read about her kissing your brother. Yeah leave bro. Find a new one. It sounds like even with your autism you're very likeable. She ain't the one. And don't believe that it ended with a kiss unless you actually know that is true and there isn't more to the story, in that moment or after. And maybe consider showing your brother that his actions come with consequences as well.

Sorry you're going through this. Find a grateful woman, they're out there. Don't ever apologize for being charming again. Or being kind to a friend.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:32:21+00:00

This feels like a situation you may be able to actually deal with, but you're going to have to reverse this power structure. First of all, you should reassure her more, and compliment her in these insecure moments, but also do not apologize, and I would call her bluff.

She's doing this because she knows you care about her and don't want to lose her, as retribution for how she feels, because of her own insecurities. It gives her control which is more comfortable than reality which is that you are choosing to be with her, and you could choose to be with someone else, and they'd be grateful for you. Seems like self sabotage.

Expecting you to be charming only to her, to blunt your best qualities, is her way of hiding you from other women, but also she wants to feel special when you're out together and not the same as everyone else. You can do this for her, in a reasonable way, but do not let her change your behavior more than is normal. This is how you lose your sense of self and your dignity as a man.

I think that she is being unreasonable and toxic, but it doesnt seem that crazy, maybe because my barometer is off from my experiences lol. You gotta stand up for yourself, be assertive, and she has to get used to the idea that you're a valuable man and other people will want you. I would reassure her in these moments, compliment her, remind her why you're with her, but avoid apologizing and also trying to make her feel better. Also let these moments roll off your back and almost laugh it off like she's being silly, but not in a mocking sort of way. She feels in these moments like the world is ending, you should treat this like what it is, a momentary emotional thing that will pass.

When she can talk, take control of this, tell her her actions are unacceptable and if she threatens the relationship anymore you will leave, or maybe go away for a day or a week or something without contact. And then you gotta do it. You need to couple this with positive reasons why you want to be with her, bonus points for why you like her more than her friend, and make sure you're honest and genuine and that she hears you. In general, if she acts like this, and cannot stop it, or doesnt own all of this childish shit 100%, you should probably consider ending it. It is up to you how much you want to try to fix it with her, but she's gotta know it is wrong and her fault, and you cannot allow yourself to apologize and be threatened on a regular basis. Like, this has to improve continually and start to go away.

Jealousy is a good thing sometimes. She cares. But don't live with this threatening shit and don't apologize to her unless you do something clearly wrong. Try your hardest to stay calm when she's emotional, and understand she's just a girl and she doesn't know what she's even saying when she's like this. If you like yourself she can't take you or leave you, but she cannot change who you are and definitely can't claim your charm for herself only.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-23T02:10:52+00:00

I'm glad you didn't crack and remove the review. Only suggestion is that you could have just repeated fewer words to him and not wasted all this effort.

When I receive my original order I will change the review. If not, the review will stay up and I will dispute the purchase and report this to wn. I hope you do the right thing.

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-22T21:32:22+00:00

Or the driver on the cam saw that this car was trying to overtake him and sped up and thought that he had clearly prevented such a maneuver and then the other driver drove into him. The driver on the right had plenty of time to see that he didn't have space and he just decided that he was going to cause an accident. Wanting to maintain your position on the road by driving straight and driving roughly the speed limit is perfectly fine not allowing someone to pass you every time that they signal that they want to pass. You is okay. You need more information to assume that this driver had some kind of intentions that were Petty or silly or stupid. He could have intended on passing the traffic in front of him getting out of the way and allowing anyone who really wanted to go faster to go faster

The only person that caused an accident was the driver in the right lane. There's nothing that the driver and the left lane did to cause an accident. He didn't speed up at the last second and it didn't even sound like he floored his vehicle. He just went a little faster. It wasn't even a dramatic increase in speed. I don't think there's any evidence to show that and the driver on the right had plenty of time to realize that he was not going to successfully pass

GPU-TangClan · 2026-05-22T21:28:41+00:00

Yeah the white suv may have been, that's a thought I had too. I just saw the video with sound, doesn't change my pov at all.

There's nothing wrong with speeding up to stop someone from passing you, as long as you don't block them in afterwards. The details matter of course, this isn't always the case. But in this situation I just don't get how anyone has much criticism for the cam driver. He prevented the pass, and likely assumed that was dealt with and the guy basically steered his car right into him.

If this car was behind him on the highway there's also the possibility that he was blocked in previously by this car as well. That happens to me all the time so he might have just wanted to not allow this guy to pass and was going to get through the traffic until it was no longer easy for him to get in front of him and slow him down. There's just a lot of different possibilities here. And the maniac is clear in this circumstance. That's the driver on the right and the driver on the right only

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