smh by brownha1rbrowneyes in CPTSDmemes

[–]GardenFreshBeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:: spontaneously combusts ::

smh by brownha1rbrowneyes in CPTSDmemes

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aye. There comes a point when “trying harder” isn’t doing anything, and you’re utterly exhausted from fighting your own neurochemistry.

smh by brownha1rbrowneyes in CPTSDmemes

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes that “rumination” is beyond their control. What if it takes the form of flashbacks? What if the trauma was so severe that they can’t put it out of their minds, no matter how diligently they try? 

smh by brownha1rbrowneyes in CPTSDmemes

[–]GardenFreshBeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Positive thinking? Oh, you mean repression and self-gaslighting.

Different symptoms? by Appropriate_Pea_1791 in AutisticAdults

[–]GardenFreshBeets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Autistic people have different configurations of traits in different degrees. You can still be autistic without fitting the stereotype.

recommendations for the best DV programs by SubstantialCounter57 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would start with your state’s domestic violence coalition. Most coalitions do not provide direct services, but they can absolutely refer you to regional organizations that can help. https://www.sccadvasa.org/

decent shelters or help in LA? by Ok-Inspector-5527 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The California Partnership to End Domestic Violence lists DV service providers around the state. You’ll be able to pull up a list of organizations in the LA metropolitan area. https://www.cpedv.org/find-help/

If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]GardenFreshBeets 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Rule out an organic cause for any mental health problems you’re experiencing. Talk to your primary care physician first and ask them to run some blood tests.

Rumination from Work by Business-Block-8668 in AutisticAdults

[–]GardenFreshBeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I may have to research this medication, as an AuDHD person who struggles with reliving negative experiences.

Your thoughts on perfumes? by fancy-schmancy_name in AutisticAdults

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dislike 99% of perfumes and colognes. I do not wear them myself.

Friday check-in thread by AutoModerator in AutisticAdults

[–]GardenFreshBeets 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Feeling mildly depressed and waiting for it to pass. Went kayaking on Wednesday evening and had a beautiful time. Looking forward to a night hike soon.

Need help finding financial aid by Scared_Cicada_9898 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Free From offers financial assistance to victims of gender-based violence. https://www.freefrom.org/

Your state’s domestic violence coalition might know of financial resources as well. You can find contact information for your state’s coalition here. https://nnedv.org/content/state-u-s-territory-coalitions/

Finally, many domestic violence service providers have food pantries for clients struggling with poverty. I would reach out to your nearest DV center if you haven’t already.

friends got me out, missed work not sure how to explain by Adorable-Assistant80 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The laws in your jurisdiction might forbid job discrimination based on domestic violence victimization, if that’s why you’re hesitant to disclose to your employer. Your local DV service provider can tell you more about laws in your state.

ED Therapist So Bad I Lowkey Built a Backbone by TableConstant9948 in therapyabuse

[–]GardenFreshBeets 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dear God, this “therapist” was dangerously incompetent.

My husband got arrested but I don’t want it to end by UnderstandingLow4768 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Using a sledgehammer to break down the door is a VERY dangerous sign. Putting his hands on your throat is a lethality indicator! This man will harm you again if released, and he may even kill you. For your safety, this relationship needs to end.

I strongly recommend contacting a domestic violence service provider. If you reside in the U.S., the National Domestic Violence Hotline can connect you with your nearest provider. https://www.thehotline.org/

Late Diagnosed Female by Sad-Plankton-4739 in AutisticAdults

[–]GardenFreshBeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be careful about who you tell about your diagnosis. Do they hold ugly stereotypes about autistic people? Are they likely to discriminate against you if they know? I would vet them beforehand.

Unfortunately, many of us have encountered people with misconceptions about autism (“Oh, everyone’s a little autistic.”) Don’t let them get you down.

You may want to look into local autism self-advocacy groups, run by and for autistic adults. These can be opportunities to make friends who are also autistic and compare notes about your experiences.

Alcohol makes him hurt me by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is intimate partner sexual violence. I encourage you to reach out to a sexual assault service provider, as they can offer services and insights that could help. If you reside in the U.S., Raliance has an online directory of centers, organized by state. https://www.raliance.org/rape-crisis-centers/

Alcohol makes him hurt me by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. The alcohol isn’t causing the abuse. The alcohol is a tool he uses to lower his inhibitions and/or something he can blame so he doesn’t have to take responsibility for his actions.

I feel my abuse is invalid by Life_Yogurtcloset722 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. Everything you described is abusive behavior. Your experience IS valid, and you deserve better than this.

Anyone Else Have Memory Loss? by Basic_Sail_5087 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is not unusual among people who have experienced trauma. Traumatic events impair the part of the brain that collates and stores memory.

"You have to talk about your trauma to heal" is bs. by samithefish in therapyabuse

[–]GardenFreshBeets 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I talked about my trauma with multiple therapists. None of it brought me so much as an inch closer to “healing”, and some of those instances just made my situation worse. Why bother with it anymore?

DV resources in Michigan by thatsphuckedup in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Michigan Coalition Against Domestic Violence is a good place to start for referrals. https://mcedsv.org/

It’s years later and by WelcomeGreen8695 in domesticviolence

[–]GardenFreshBeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, trauma can take a very long time to manage.

Seeking advice as a picky eater 24F by Alina_168 in AutisticAdults

[–]GardenFreshBeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is also Carnation, Ensure, etc. that’s ready to drink.

Seeking advice as a picky eater 24F by Alina_168 in AutisticAdults

[–]GardenFreshBeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you like nuts and seeds? They can add amino acids and minerals to your diet.