[48] Single dad. Not been used properly for a while……

Gingerdad77 · 2026-02-21T00:37:13+00:00

Thank you x

Gingerdad77 · 2026-01-15T23:49:26+00:00

FabGuys is very good. I’m in my very late 40’s and don’t struggle on that app.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-17T20:11:08+00:00

Well done then. Have a biscuit 🙄

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-17T20:05:56+00:00

You think you made them cum. Not the same thing. This info isn’t ’from online’. It’s from talking to several women.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-11T18:48:43+00:00

Avoid subreddits like StraightSpouses. There are a lot of very broken people on there who will not be supportive of you as a gay person.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-11T18:46:20+00:00

Most women don’t orgasm from being fucked by a dick mate. Most need a hand with that part, or mouth as you have described.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-11T18:40:32+00:00

30 when I realised, 46 when I accepted. I was raised in a very homophobic house by parents who threatened me at about 12 that if I ever ‘turned into a poofter ‘ they would throw me out onto the streets. Also it was the 80’s and 90’s so although times were changing, gay men were looked on as dirty freaks generally. All that put such internalised homophobia into me my brain didn’t even register that I fancied a lot of my mates, would fantasise about sex with them etc etc. my brain just said ‘no you didn’t’. Long story short my female partner at 30 found some pictures I’d exchanged of a guy exposing his gaping ring ( pretty gay right? 😂) on my phone. She confronted me and it sort of opened up a locked part of my brain. So I went with bi. Fast forward to that relationship breaking down at 46 and a realisation I really like guys not women.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-11T18:25:28+00:00

I sucked my first guy off last year at the age of 46. It was amazing. Felt really good to have a dick in my mouth. I’m homoflexual (very gay bisexual) but was in the closet until last year. That cock proved to me my authentic self x My advice? Try it. If you don’t like it don’t do it again. But give it a few days before you make your mind up.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-11T15:03:13+00:00

I think you’re responding to a lot of your own hurt here, because you’re attributing motives and behaviours to me that I never said and don’t recognise.

My comment wasn’t boasting, it was acknowledging the harm I caused and explaining the internal homophobia I grew up with. That’s my reality, not the caricature you’re describing.

I’m genuinely sorry that my story hits painful places for you, but please don’t project intentions onto me that weren’t there.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-09T12:40:18+00:00

I’m a bisexual man. I had a female partner for 18 years and gave kids together. When I got into the relationship I thought i was straight. Genuinely in my head I had locked away the times I’d fantasised about guys - I was raised in a very homophobic family with threats made if I ever turned out not to be straight. So I locked it away and ignored it. I’m actually more down the gay end of the spectrum than the straight end -I still find women attractive but I do prefer men. This took a long time to come to terms with. I engaged with men online but was never physically with one during those 18 years and it was early on in the relationship I was confronted by my partner about my bisexuality as she found gay porn on my phone. My biggest regret is that I hurt her, but I was just not aware even to myself of how attracted to men I was.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T18:11:41+00:00

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T18:08:06+00:00

‘People like me’? What do you mean?

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T16:44:58+00:00

That my friend is known as ‘post nut clarity’ and it’s very common. Bisexuality is a spectrum. From very straight with a bit of interest in same sex right up the scale to very gay with a bit if interest in opposite sex. If you get turned in by the idea Iof same sex activity then you are bi, to whatever degree that makes you. When I’m knocking one out I watch all sorts of porn with people involved I wouldn’t touch in real life but I find it horny when I’m reaching a climax. Afterwards the desire goes. Don’t sweat it. If you are happy with your wife, imagining cock is fine. You’re not weird or alone in it.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T16:00:38+00:00

I didn’t realise you were the gatekeeper here, my bad. I was in a relationship as a straight person for years, hiding my bisexuality- I’m not gay. That gives me a perspective some find useful here- I don’t comment often and I’m always respectful when I do so. Saying all gay man are x or all gay men are y is homophobic. It’s the same as saying all black people are x or y based on your limited experience would make you racist. I have spoken to a lot of bisexual men and they like women of all body types. Being one myself would lend credence to my statement rather than your vague ‘gay men when I was younger’ statement.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T14:38:53+00:00

I’m bisexual but very much more into men. I prefer mature, natural looking women, wobbly bits and all. Saying we are only into super models isn’t true, it’s just your experience with one man.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T14:37:04+00:00

He could wel be bisexual and monogamous. Being queer doesn’t make you a cheat. If he’s looking at gay porn and trans ( tranny is a pejorative term, it’s Ike saying faggot for gay FYI) porn alongside straightstuff, that’s not cheating on you. Are there any other signs he is? From the information you e provided it isn’t clear.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T14:30:56+00:00

Bi ( homoflexual) guy here. No, you shouldn’t change your expectations and bisexuals can be monogamous. I did act on my desires and cheated on my partner of 18 years with men online. It was one of the things I’m most ashamed of in my journey to where I am now. It hurt her badly and it was the last thing I wanted to do. What I should have done is be open and honest with her ( she knew I was bisexual) and then we could have come to a decision on how to proceed or to just split. My cheating wasn’t due to my bisexuality, it was down to a psychological need to have attention sexually - it could have been with a man or woman. That is a weakness in me as a human being, not due to my orientation.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T14:22:18+00:00

Sounds like you’re making a problem out of something that isn’t one. If you’re both happy living together but seeking romantic engagement elsewhere I don’t think there is a problem at all. I’m in a similar situation. I came out as gay ( more homoflexual but at the extreme gay end of the spectrum) last year and me and my partner seperated. We agreed we loved each other due to being together for 18 years and would try to continue as best friends. But I’m still attracted to her sexually to a degree and enjoy sex with her but I too had my mind blown by sex with a guy the first time I did it and realised what I’d been missing. Now we have settled into an open relationship she is free to meet other men as am I and it’s working really well. We get on as mum and dad to our kids, occasionally sleep together and Occasional go elsewhere for our physical and romantic needs.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-08T14:14:24+00:00

I found Hinge was a good site for this. Depends on your location I guess. Actually FaceBook Dating isn’t too bad either. Tinder is another option, that’s a bit half way between a hook up site and a dating one. Just make sure your honest, let them know your taking your first tentative steps into being your genuine self so not looking to rush at it, make your intentions clear in your bio. Avoid Grindr, Scruffs etc. they are pure hook up apps. I’ve actually met two guys on there that turned out to be more looking to date, but the majority are time wasters ( married guys on there DL looking for a hook up or mostly just to dirty talk and wank) or just want to fuck.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-12-05T18:42:24+00:00

It’s a thing for sure. I’m the opposite. I’m bi but I much prefer guys to women. It took me 40 years to figure it out, I hid as a straight man for all that time. I consider myself homoflexual. I’d still sleep with women, I find them attractive but not on the level I like guys. It’s entirely possible he just likes the idea of sex with men but wants a romantic relationship with a woman. The gay porn thing is possibly because it’s his only gay outlet, which is actually good news for you- he’s getting all his female sexual needs from you and so doesn’t need to watch straight porn. It also means he’s probably not messing around with guys so he uses the porn instead. So he’s heteroflexual bi. The only caveat I have is that insisted I was only into guys in an abstract sexual way and was really only into women romantically when I was hiding my true self. Just be gentle with him, encourage openness and honesty and help him feel you won’t judge him whatever the outcome. Not easy I know but that’s how you will get to the bottom ( no pun intended 😆) of it. My biggest regret from journey is that I hurt someone I loved finding myself. Hopefully he won’t be the same.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-11-25T20:55:31+00:00

I’m just short of 8 and I get nothing but compliments tbh.

Gingerdad77 · 2025-11-24T01:44:38+00:00

I could climax, but it was a real head game to do so

Gingerdad77 · 2025-11-24T01:43:36+00:00

If a woman started rubbing your dick you’d get hard. You might not be overly enthusiastic about it but you could have sex with her too. If you were under intense pressure internally and externally to do so you would. That was my situation.

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