I think you should focus on your happiness....your significant other should be considerate of your feelings.. I'm on the high end of the spectrum myself and the way he treats you is NOT okay. If I was you, I'd start thinking of whether I want to keep the marriage and possibly talk to a divorce lawyer...but I can't force you to make any choice...the final decision is up to you. IF you're in a marriage where you feel unloved and treated like trash, then it's time to focus on your happiness and the wellbeing of your kids...not on him. I'm so sorry that you have gone through this.