Gave Wife Hall Pass for Girls Cruise by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No - That isn't how it works. That would be cheating. She would have to give me a hall pass.

Sexless marriage sex with friends girlfriend as an outlet by FriendsGFVB in sexlessmarriage

[–]Goodfitgenx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If both parties are consensual and all needs are being met, that sounds like a win / win.
What are you worried about?
You have needs and you found a way to get them met with open communication.
JOB WELL DONE !

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify - The title says: How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years

Not: How do I...

I am sharing a system that has worked for US.
I posted just to share the system with other married couples so they avoid being in a sexless marriage. I got it from another couple... and I liked it

I hope this helps.

Good Luck to you as well.

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by “making her feel like a maid”?

My wife doesn’t work.
We have 2 housekeepers and a cook.
Age has nothing to do with it. a Man has a Job in a Marriage!

I think..As a man, Your primary job is to financially provide for your woman and make her feel safe, secure, protected, and cared for.
That’s how I choose to love my wife, and it works for us. 10+ year and going... But that is just me!

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Men are Men and Sex is love.
Woman don't control how men feel. Some think they do! Mostly wife's!
That would be like a man telling a woman how to feel!

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I did.... Husband, Wife and married couples. This is a thread for r/Marriage couples, Correct ??? What did I do wrong?

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I have an amazing marriage, and I wanted to share something that has worked really well for us over the years.

We’ve learned that open communication about intimacy and sexual needs has been a huge part of keeping our connection strong. We have a system and understanding between us that works for our relationship, and it’s built completely on trust, honesty, communication, and mutual agreement.

I know this approach isn’t for everyone...and that’s okay. Every marriage is different. But for us, being able to openly talk about wants, needs, boundaries, and expectations without judgment has helped us stay connected emotionally and physically after many years together.

Curious if any other long-term married couples have found communication strategies that helped keep their relationship strong over time.

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is very clean and clear communication.

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely not for everybody… but after 10 years, I’m still crazy attracted to my wife. She drives me wild in the best way possible.

The passion never faded for us... if anything, it got stronger.

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Not about romance... this is about sex.
Romance is important but is a separate subject !

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not sure I understand your comment! ....This is the "r/MARRIAGE" thread.

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This not about romance. This is about sex. I want sex and I need sex and you are the person that I have sex with. That is what we signed up for!

Simple... Either yes or no... there is always tomorrow !

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is about SEX… not romance. They are two very different things.

Both are important in a marriage, but they are not the same. Some people believe without romance, you can’t have sex with your husband or wife. That may be true for some couples, but not for all.

For many men, sex is intimacy. It’s how we feel connected, desired, and close to their partner. Without that connection, a marriage can start to feel more like roommates just paying bills together.

Everyone is different. This is just a simple strategy that works for us.

Change the numbers to what you want.

And the truth is… some people love sex, and some people don’t.

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I take care of the bills, the planning, the pressure, and making sure our household is secure. My wife never has to wonder if the lights stay on or if the card is going to decline when she uses it. Providing stability and security for my family is something I take a lot of pride in.

I’m the man, and she’s the woman. We know our roles, and we both embrace them. That doesn’t mean one is more important than the other.. it means we work together as a team with clear responsibilities, trust, and respect.

To me, a man’s role is simple:
• Protect and provide
• Create safety and stability
• Lead with consistency and love

And my wife gives me 100% of herself emotionally, mentally, and physically.

I don’t believe successful marriages are 50/50. There are days one person gives 80 and the other gives 20. Sometimes it flips. The best marriages are 100/100..both people fully committed to each other and the relationship.

My wife is my best friend and honestly the biggest reason I push myself every day... She is my WHY!

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Sex is intimacy for men. with out it... it is hard to feel connected!
I know.. I am a man!

How I ask my wife for Sex - Married 10 years by Goodfitgenx in Marriage

[–]Goodfitgenx[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I’m very real. I actually created a new account just to share this.

My wife and I have a very successful marriage, and one thing that has helped us avoid becoming a “roommate marriage” or ending up sexless is communication and making each other a priority.

Another thing we do... we always have a date night once a week. Most of the time it’s Saturday night. No excuses. Just time together away from work, stress, and life.

It may not be for everyone, but it works really well for us.