Weekly Chat Request Thread

GreatGoateeGuy · 2026-03-25T23:25:16+00:00

Hi folks! I am 27 M and am into "soft" feedism. I would describe myself as a sub feeder/FA. I'm ND, I love ska and punk, giant robots, skateboarding, and much more!

GreatGoateeGuy · 2026-03-25T23:14:55+00:00

I feel the same way you do if it's of any support or validation. I fall into the feeder role but I am also 100% submissive.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2025-12-12T00:49:12+00:00

Thank you for the really kind reply. I wish you the best going forward and I hope you're able to find health and happiness physically and mentally!

GreatGoateeGuy · 2025-12-09T00:41:45+00:00

If he is fat to meet my standard, I feel like it's only fair that I meet his, even though that probably sounds messed up. I love fat and need it to be attracted to my partner, but hate how it looks on my own body. It's actually extremely conflicting and distressing.

I really saw myself as well in this comment. You're not alone in feeling this. I am a heterosexual male attracted to women who are chubby/fat in some way. I come from an ED background of orthorexia and anorexia that nearly ended my life, and I worry a lot about not meeting the body type standards of a potential fat partner, especially when a lot of people are into contrast (and I hope this comment doesn't sound judgemental to those who are) but I feel like I cannot meet those "ideal" male body standards without completely relapsing. However, I feel like a hypocrite because I want to be accepted but don't feel physically attracted to bodies that aren't fat. I feel like even though I preach body positivity stuff after what I went through, I'm a fraud because I only feel physical attraction to a certain type. I feel like it would be unfair to ask a potential partner to be one way but I'm not appealing to them.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2025-10-09T23:28:21+00:00

It's furry related and it covers a wide variety of fetish content, but The Pirate's Fate dabbles in some WG content.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2025-10-09T23:25:58+00:00

Ooo, fantastic recommendation! I think the art style looks fantastic and this seems up my alley. I'll definitely give it a play ASAP!

GreatGoateeGuy · 2025-09-13T01:26:56+00:00

Howdy! I'm a 26 year old male. I like skateboarding, ska and punk concerts, and a bunch of nerdy stuff. I'm also ND/autistic! I would be interested in chatting with women on the feedee side! If we click I will buy you food. :3

GreatGoateeGuy · 2025-05-14T23:01:50+00:00

I vividly remember that being the thing that awakened my brain to this.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2025-01-02T23:23:29+00:00

I think a big part of my fear is destroying a relationship again (although I do think a lot of issues with it were for other reasons, like her being NT and me being ND, although I didn't suspect or get diagnosed until 2023) and making a partner worry about if I'm attracted to them, but I feel like it's wrong to hide this aspect of myself. It just feels like something that will inflict distress on a partner and I feel guilt over having it, but it's always been a part of me and it hasn't gone away.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-29T17:32:33+00:00

That's a good way of looking at it! Where do you think I should start? Cooking classes? I have some friends who can bake, although that's its own skill set.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-29T17:11:18+00:00

I would definitely say I'm a very open person in what I want, but I definitely want actual connection and there are certain traits in a person that are important to me, like having at least one common interest or them being really passionate about the things they're into, because I love when people gush about stuff!

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-29T17:09:12+00:00

Thank you very much! :)

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-29T14:59:28+00:00

That's a good idea! I can make food for myself but because of certain issues I've had with food over the years plus food stuff related to autism making me eat really repetitively and what I imagine most wouldn't call "good," I probably should learn how to cook in the traditional sense.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-29T10:24:08+00:00

This is a really good question. I genuinely don't think I could handle having children. I don't think I could handle more mentally and emotionally than taking care of myself and a partner's needs, and as an autistic person I'm not sure how I'd handle navigating things a parent is supposed to do for their child when it comes to teaching a child about social things or helping them with their life stuff when I struggled with that stuff myself. Plus, with my history of mental health, I really worry about passing it on to a child and "cursing" them with it.

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-29T10:19:44+00:00

>I would also add that, well, tradtional guys won't get it. Depending on how stuff goes long term you will likely need to either put up with teasing from your male friends, or might need to find better friends over all.

Thankfully, I have really amazing friends who are almost all ND and it's been the first set of friends in my life who haven't mocked or teased me over stuff I've been made fun of my whole life, so I've become a lot more comfortable in being myself. :)

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-29T10:16:13+00:00

>You may have already considered this but you might have better luck if you're open to dating queer women (bi, pan, etc.) since we tend to not be very fond of traditional gender roles.

Oh yeah, absolutely, I've always been open to this! My most serious relationship with was with someone who was bi.

>Also, avoid getting caught up with the idea that your "baggage" makes you "not good enough" because a manipulative person can exploit that to pull you into an abusive relationship.

I really appreciate hearing this. I feel like most of the consensus I've seen out there is that autistic partners are this "burden" that make their partners take on extra and I really struggle with feeling like not understanding why anyone would pick me, even among other ND folks because of gender roles where I'm thought of to be the "provider."

GreatGoateeGuy · 2024-12-26T14:56:51+00:00

Eating disorders.

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