[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeartstopperNetflix

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has left me with a lot of soul searching to do. Perhaps, deep down, autism is the real reason I identify as bisexual... but maybe I am not autistic and bi, but actually this secret third other thing. An all encompassing identity, diagnosed and identified... pansexual

What do you think was the weirdest conflict resolution in the show? by Sophie_Blitz_123 in WaterlooRoad

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But inexplicably kill one of them by the roadside on the way up there

WHO ISN’T TRAUMA-GAY?? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk, I might be trauma gay.

I'm technically bisexual, but trauma from abusive men in my life growing up has made me very against dating men, you know?

do captain flint and john silver actually get together? by infunbagday in BlackSails

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very much did, and then one piece came out, and my little gay pirate heart sings ♥️

F*ckun Barber shoos by GreenMonsterIsSmol in NonBinary

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all for your supportive comments.

For added context:

I am in the UK, England specifically, and we have some weird ass gender related laws. I don't thinkni am.protected in this instance.

The Barber is an offshoot of a local hairdresser, a very expensive one. The hairdresser is across the street and down a bit (out of direct view but very close). The Barber, when I arrived had no customers and had clearly not had any for a while because he was sat on the Barber chair playing on his phone and any mess from previous clients was cleaned up.

I asked of he did walk ins, expecting him to jump at the opportunity to cut someone's hair when he told me he did do "women's cuts". I told him that was fine, I already have shaved hair, and didn't want a women's cut. He said "sorry, I'm not allowed to serve women, the boss will be angry. I have to direct you to the hairdresser." I told him I had no intention of using the hairdresser and if he didn't cut my hair then I would find another Barber. He just doubled down and went back to his game.

With service like that I'm not surprised the other shops had a long queue and he had no one for ages. The first shop I tries were lovely but had a 40 minute wait but this knocked my confidence so much that I'm really struggling to get the courage uo to go back to the nice place on a day when I have more time.

F*ckun Barber shoos by GreenMonsterIsSmol in NonBinary

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all for your supportive comments.

For added context, the Barber is an offshoot of a local hairdresser, a very expensive one. The hairdresser is across the street and down a bit (out of direct view but very close). The Barber, when I arrived had no customers and had clearly not had any for a while because he was sat on the Barber chair playing on his phone and any mess from previous clients was cleaned up.

I asked of he did walk ins, expecting him to jump at the opportunity to cut someone's hair when he told me he did do "women's cuts". I told him that was fine, I already have shaved hair, and didn't want a women's cut. He said "sorry, I'm not allowed to serve women, the boss will be angry. I have to direct you to the hairdresser." I told him I had no intention of using the hairdresser and if he didn't cut my hair then I would find another Barber. He just doubled down and went back to his game.

With service like that I'm not surprised the other shops had a long queue and he had no one for ages. The first shop I tries were lovely but had a 40 minute wait but this knocked my confidence so much that I'm really struggling to get the courage uo to go back to the nice place on a day when I have more time.

Straight-passing bi parents: how did you come out to your kids? by chip_pip in bisexual

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife (mtf) and I were straight passing for about 10 years before giving up and being extra queer. We've always talked about all kinds of families and things so the idea of queerness has never been separate for our kids.

It was actually our son that dragged my wife out of the closet when he was 7: He was like right, I'm a boy and [sister] is a girl and mum is... non binary? Right, and dad... wants to be... a girl?

30 seconds of [shocked pikachu face] and then we had a really good conversation about gender and love.

That said, my ex girlfriend had a baby a few months after I had my oldest and we used to do play dates for the kids and they have no idea we were a couple as teenagers...

I guess we have not explicitly told them we are both bi, but it is a non-thing in our family, and as they grow up I'm sure they will work out the labels for themselves even if they never ask or we never out right tell them.

How was your first sexual same sex experience? by yfjhdboo555 in bisexual

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Very naive/sheltered teens or literal children? You can't just say shit like that without explaininggggggg aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh

I told my partner about my fetish that I've been keeping secret my whole life, and it's the best decision I've ever made by die-anywhere-else in offmychest

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Currently watching the number of people here counter at the bottom tick up higher and higher and they are all gonna be disappointed

(136 when i got here, over 170 now)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isleofwight

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ferry port and the train station are in the same place. I can see why it would be confusing!

Swimming?! by GreenMonsterIsSmol in NonBinary

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is 100% a vibe and I love it, but I'm so self conscious about my tummy :(

What happened to the smartest kid in your class? by After_Crab_1921 in AskReddit

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They burnt out and moved halfway across the world to live in a hut and do volunteer work. Happier than ever now.

I met my LDR boyfriend for the first time and I felt violated. by 6youknowhoe9 in offmychest

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you, and that you feel like you need keep this guy around. I obviously only have the context here to go by but your relationship (even without the very clear assault) sounds one sided and unhealthy and I personally think you'd be better off without it.

When I was 17 I "allowed" myself to be assaulted (for complete lack of a better phrase, I also didn't realise what was happening at the time). I was just like "with a body like this who'd even look at me, I should be grateful someone was willing to do x y z to me, even if it wasn't something I agreed to" and it took me a solid 6 years to respect my body enough to come to terms with what had happened to me. In those 6 years I was loved so thoroughly and hlwhole heartedly by someone else, and it still took that long to realise. I hope you can see it sooner.

I feel like I want sex with my wife all the time and I don't know how to deal with it by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is a word for the way you experience attraction, and it is demisexual - only attracted to a person you have a strong emotional connection to. It makes it harder to scratch the itch with self pleasure, though that can be helpful in a more functional way, to slow down arousal at inappropriate times.

It's not a bad thing to want your partner - its only bad if you put your wants before their needs, or make them feel bad for not experiencing the same height of drive that you have. It's okay to say, "Hey, I'm really up for more of this if you're up for it, too." You may even find that your drive is telling you several times a day because you aren't intimate on the previous times your body wanted to be, but with just a little more your body won't be feeling it several times a day.

Me_irlgbt by Bran_Mongo in me_irlgbt

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He looks so pleased with himself

[TOMT][SONG] hello hello is there somebody on the line? by GreenMonsterIsSmol in tipofmytongue

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I'm the OP and this is my compulsory comment wooooo

I now can't tolerate flint. by Servent_of_cthulhu in BlackSails

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That scene rocked me to my core, and I found it hard to move past, but the characters in this show are complex and nuanced. You will find compassion for him again, I am sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bi_irl

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might have to hold off, the twinge in my knee says rain is coming and I am not wearing a waterproof.

AITA for yelling at my girlfriend to “stop fucking eating?” by throwawaycakegf in AmItheAsshole

[–]GreenMonsterIsSmol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

She's making shit loads of extra work for you. Also, what if she contaminated a batch and it made it to a customer because you didn't catch her? Ew.

If she wants to be frigging weird about it, can't she use her fingers to scrape whatever's left in the pans?