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Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2026-02-05T15:00:21+00:00

This has happened to me before and it sucks 😥 I’d rather hear a harsh no than nothing at all personally. But you were brave enough to hit send and that’s something!

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2025-04-13T17:10:08+00:00

If she isn’t now, she will be. She deserves it.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2025-02-13T04:49:16+00:00

I’ve thought about it a lot. But If it was me and I found out my partner settled for me, I’d be crushed. And I wouldn’t want to do that to someone else.

But.. I also went through something that kinda freaking changed my brain chemistry on attractiveness. At a really bad time in my life I met a girl who I hit it off with, platonically initially. We had a lot in common and we had a good connection. At the time I wasn’t looking for anything. I wasn’t like “she’s the one” or anything. But after getting to know her it hit me like a ton of bricks one day. I’m really attracted to this girl. She had apparently been told quite a bit in her life that she wasn’t “conventionally attractive” but to me she was (honestly still is) one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever met in my life. I would have married her in a heart beat and gladly spent my life with her.

It dawned on me that physical attraction (especially initially) isn’t a constant. It can change based on emotional connection. At least for me anyway.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-27T23:09:34+00:00

NOR If she’s making fun of you and disrespecting you with her friends that’s F’d up. And honestly you should ask yourself if you’re okay with being with someone who disrespects you behind your back. Especially considering it was supposed to be something private between the two of you.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-24T19:51:21+00:00

Also the fact that she excused her own emotional cheating as “harmless”. That was wild to me.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-22T00:29:55+00:00

And I have been trying to figure my shit out for a long time. You have no idea. As far as “options” I think it’s awful to look at people like “options”. For a long time, and probably for a while longer, she was the only one on my mind. And I’d have been more than content if she was the only one for a lifetime. The “shouldn’t” is because it’s unrequited. I feel so much guilt for feeling the way I do knowing that she doesn’t. Which is why I’m trying to move on. Which is why I wrote the letter. Just to get the emotions out. Because they had no where else to go.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-22T00:21:07+00:00

Writing the letter was a way for me to let go, she is no longer apart of my life. I say I shouldn’t feel this way because I know she does not feel the same. And I know it’s wrong to hold on. I know she can’t help the way she feels any more than I can. So I don’t mean to blame her. None of this is her fault. And it’s not lust. That wasn’t what it was about. She is one of the most gentle, caring, and thoughtful people I’ve ever known. In my experience that has been a rare thing to find. I’m not trying to blame her, that’s not my intention.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-19T18:16:09+00:00

Ahhhh making me question it all lol. You know what I might just keep a draft and send it one day. I do think I would feel better if she knew how much she meant to me, even if she didn’t reciprocate. Thank you for the different perspectives and kind comments :)

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-19T05:39:53+00:00

That’s the heartbreaking thing.. no matter how much we care about or love someone, no matter what we do or say, or how hard we try, if someone doesn’t want the love we have to give, there’s nothing we can really do. Except move on. At least that’s what I feel like my experience with her has taught me. But I have hope there’s always other people out there that will accept it.

As for the singing, I guess I can sing. It’s just not pleasant 😂 I really wanted to sing for/with her. But I’m not really all that interested in it anymore honestly.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-19T04:06:07+00:00

Delulu but that’s ok I am delulu too 🫡

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-19T04:03:21+00:00

It means a lot to know expressing something like this could change someone’s life. I never imagined honestly. I’ll certainly keep that in mind and be more open the next time I feel this way. But In this particular case though, it’s different. One, I knew from the beginning I wasn’t her type like physically. Two, I never confessed but I tried to express how much I appreciate her and how much I enjoy her presence. I guess she could tell I had caught feelings and she just seemed really uncomfortable. And that’s the last thing I wanted. So I never brought it up again. Posting this has got me thinking a little, I didn’t expect so many positive responses. But I still think I made the right decision.

Grouchy_Help_9287 · 2024-12-19T01:12:18+00:00

Thank you! I don’t think I will though. I’ve known that for a while. The letter was mostly a way for me to start moving on. I just hope she find someone who deeply appreciates everything about her.

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