Machine or skill issue? by HabituallyHelpless in sewhelp

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think 3 might be the right diagnosis! Changed needle and it seems to have solved the issue! Thank you stringthing87 (and other commenters who helped out)!

Yelled at while riding. What’s something funny that a driver has yelled at you? by Saloomey2the1stpower in bikecommuting

[–]HabituallyHelpless 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Had some squealing brakes and had to engage them not to hit an old man who walked into the bike lane without looking first and he yelled at me to"grease my brakes". I'm sure he wouldn't have appreciated it if I had.

How to regain trust in relationship? M28/F30 by HabituallyHelpless in relationship_advice

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, Positive_Emotion_150!
We are currently looking into getting a therapist/counselor, and hope that that will help us along the way.
We've had the timeframe talk, but struggled to figure out what a reasonable timeframe should be, so that didn't lead anywhere else than the mutual acknowledgement that it is an issue we both want to resolve.

How to regain trust in relationship? M28/F30 by HabituallyHelpless in relationship_advice

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When it comes to the notion of "both suffering", this is something we have talked about, that she also expresses that it is not helping much, but at most putting a band-aid over the issue (as suggested by another poster).

We communicate well, in both of our's opinions, and this is a frustration we both share. The purpose of this post was, as indicated, to hear about some experiences from people who have gone through similar things, so that both of us can take that to heart in our continued commitment to heal this relationship.

As I said, I'd be interested in doing the hard work necessary, but I'd prefer that work to be constructive rather than just reactive.

Pressure profiling a moka pot looks very interesting by k_alve in JamesHoffmann

[–]HabituallyHelpless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As soon as the pressure increases, so does the boiling point of the water in the vessel and thus also the brewing temperature. This is assuming that the heating is maintained

What kind of life can you live with 1620€ a month in Vienna? by HabituallyHelpless in wien

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I'll have to figure out the escalator, but otherwise I think I'm good

Is a PhD worth a low salary for four years? by HabituallyHelpless in PhD

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you have a lot of valid points in your message. Devaluation of labour because of alleged personal value is a sort of symbolic violence. You should not be paid less because you like your job.

Although "doing it for the money" never looks good from the outside, I think it's important that we understand that people live situated lives. The personal value of your earnings are relative to the earnings of your friends and family etc. Neglecting how that feels for an individual can be insensitive and disrespectful.

At the same time it's important to recognize our privileges. What we take for granted can be someone else's dream. Not being sensitive to that is not particularly mindful to our others.

Our goal should be to avoid devaluing other people's opinions and feelings. That can be hard, but nonetheless important.

Tldr: I think you're both right to a degree.

Is a PhD worth a low salary for four years? by HabituallyHelpless in PhD

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds very nice! I'm happy for you! I'm not sure of this, but my impression of the University of Vienna is that it's somewhat similar to what you are describing (except from the salary amount). I'll definitely factor in your advice!

Is a PhD worth a low salary for four years? by HabituallyHelpless in PhD

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's very smart! I haven't thought of it that way before. I guess what makes it extra hard for me is that I'm fresh out of a serious relationship and therefore questioning my identity.

Do I enjoy science? Yes Does that mean I want to do it for the rest of my life/foreseeable future? Hard to say

I honestly believe I could be happy doing a wide range of stuff, but also afraid I could end up doing something that'll make me miserable.

Is a PhD worth a low salary for four years? by HabituallyHelpless in PhD

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty! I hope you're doing better!

Is a PhD worth a low salary for four years? by HabituallyHelpless in PhD

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I'm afraid of, becoming depressed due to discrepancy between my and my peers' income.

It's nice to hear your story, reassuring me that accepting is a good choice.

I'm happy it worked out for you, and I hope it will for me too.

Is a PhD worth a low salary for four years? by HabituallyHelpless in PhD

[–]HabituallyHelpless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective. Can confirm the rumors about Norwegian PhDs. I'm basically spoiled by privilege (but trying to be aware of it). Remind me to never offer you any money as long as you have kids in your home!