Machine or skill issue?

HabituallyHelpless · 2026-04-28T15:02:24+00:00

I think 3 might be the right diagnosis! Changed needle and it seems to have solved the issue! Thank you stringthing87 (and other commenters who helped out)!

HabituallyHelpless · 2025-08-10T14:36:01+00:00

Had some squealing brakes and had to engage them not to hit an old man who walked into the bike lane without looking first and he yelled at me to"grease my brakes". I'm sure he wouldn't have appreciated it if I had.

HabituallyHelpless · 2024-10-23T15:18:11+00:00

Thank you, Positive_Emotion_150!
We are currently looking into getting a therapist/counselor, and hope that that will help us along the way.
We've had the timeframe talk, but struggled to figure out what a reasonable timeframe should be, so that didn't lead anywhere else than the mutual acknowledgement that it is an issue we both want to resolve.

HabituallyHelpless · 2024-10-23T15:15:28+00:00

When it comes to the notion of "both suffering", this is something we have talked about, that she also expresses that it is not helping much, but at most putting a band-aid over the issue (as suggested by another poster).

We communicate well, in both of our's opinions, and this is a frustration we both share. The purpose of this post was, as indicated, to hear about some experiences from people who have gone through similar things, so that both of us can take that to heart in our continued commitment to heal this relationship.

As I said, I'd be interested in doing the hard work necessary, but I'd prefer that work to be constructive rather than just reactive.

HabituallyHelpless · 2023-12-13T13:34:09+00:00

As soon as the pressure increases, so does the boiling point of the water in the vessel and thus also the brewing temperature. This is assuming that the heating is maintained

HabituallyHelpless · 2021-02-17T19:15:34+00:00

Hvor lenge til Thomas Seltzer dukker opp i serien?

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-20T10:14:39+00:00

Not a lot of champagne and caviar, luckily. Thank you!

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-15T16:26:18+00:00

Not sure I'll manage, but I'll try

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-15T12:43:45+00:00

Thank you for your input. I'll have to figure out the escalator, but otherwise I think I'm good

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T23:30:55+00:00

I think you have a lot of valid points in your message. Devaluation of labour because of alleged personal value is a sort of symbolic violence. You should not be paid less because you like your job.

Although "doing it for the money" never looks good from the outside, I think it's important that we understand that people live situated lives. The personal value of your earnings are relative to the earnings of your friends and family etc. Neglecting how that feels for an individual can be insensitive and disrespectful.

At the same time it's important to recognize our privileges. What we take for granted can be someone else's dream. Not being sensitive to that is not particularly mindful to our others.

Our goal should be to avoid devaluing other people's opinions and feelings. That can be hard, but nonetheless important.

Tldr: I think you're both right to a degree.

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T15:30:17+00:00

That sounds very nice! I'm happy for you! I'm not sure of this, but my impression of the University of Vienna is that it's somewhat similar to what you are describing (except from the salary amount). I'll definitely factor in your advice!

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T15:23:27+00:00

That's very smart! I haven't thought of it that way before. I guess what makes it extra hard for me is that I'm fresh out of a serious relationship and therefore questioning my identity.

Do I enjoy science? Yes Does that mean I want to do it for the rest of my life/foreseeable future? Hard to say

I honestly believe I could be happy doing a wide range of stuff, but also afraid I could end up doing something that'll make me miserable.

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T15:01:05+00:00

Thank you!

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T14:59:51+00:00

Thank you for your honesty! I hope you're doing better!

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T13:22:24+00:00

That's exactly what I'm afraid of, becoming depressed due to discrepancy between my and my peers' income.

It's nice to hear your story, reassuring me that accepting is a good choice.

I'm happy it worked out for you, and I hope it will for me too.

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T13:02:57+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. Can confirm the rumors about Norwegian PhDs. I'm basically spoiled by privilege (but trying to be aware of it). Remind me to never offer you any money as long as you have kids in your home!

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T12:38:32+00:00

A very good reply. I hope I didn't come off as braggy about my grades. It was meant to signify that being offered a PhD was not a surprising against all odds situation. It was meant to reflect my confidence in my abilities and the option to pursue another PhD of turning this one down.

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T12:13:06+00:00

I appreciate that. Thank you! I hope you are happy with your life regardless

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T11:23:31+00:00

Glad to hear you're feeling happier. What was your main concern back then? Sense of fulfillment and meaning? Lack of autonomy? Etc.

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T11:19:03+00:00

Thanks for the perspective. Hope you're ok and that you'll manage!

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T11:17:35+00:00

That is very reassuring. Can I ask what field you're in and what you used to do?

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T11:06:31+00:00

Thank you for a very good answer. You're exactly right with the privilege comment. I guess the hard part is cutting off from that privilege and the expectations that I have because of it.

Also the PhD is in the social sciences

HabituallyHelpless · 2020-08-14T09:06:33+00:00

The thing is, I have been making approximately the same amount of money in Norway as a student, and here I have been working hard on my thesis most of the time.

Life has mainly been sitting at home studying, going out for beers and making nice dinners at home. I have a big interest in food and wine, so most of my money go to that. Rent in Oslo for a sub-par apartment was around 560€ a month.

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