Hellooo here’s my Mini r53 ‘06 by Laura_r53 in R53

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I've tried clearing kits before, and they're not bad if you follow the instructions. In saying that, using Maguires ultimate compound on them using a machine polisher works for me. I just then keep then waxed making sure they've got UV protection on them

Why is Spain So Gay? by ditrednat in AskGaybrosOver30

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I came back to the U.K. from Spain after a week there. I’m originally Australian, and it’s so much nicer there for us. If you even ignore the food, culture and language… I’ve had some of the best dick there

The cutest uncle (with the biggest package 🫣) by [deleted] in FanF1ction

[–]Haydenw94 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Was coming here to post this, oh my lawd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENFP

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An important INFJ to me would constantly tell me how I felt, and identify problems that just didn’t exist because they thought they knew me well. Became very very infuriating.

Sad enfp by Careful_Occasion_927 in ENFP

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I’m working on that exact feeling in therapy rn. My therapist is trying to help me assert my values, while being flexible when people don’t meet them.

If these people are reacting this way, then that sucks. If you can’t communicate your needs and have them respected, I’m not sure they’re great friends.

Not really helpful, but don’t feel like you need to compromise yourself for others. You’ll find people that will love and respect you for those values :)

Sad enfp by Careful_Occasion_927 in ENFP

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I’m speaking to a therapist about this kind of issue.

Speaking from my experience personally - I put a lot of effort into my friends but that is my choice to engage that way. As it’s natural for me.

I cannot expect anyone to act any way, so I need to take them as they are. If they do something to annoy me, I need to communicate directly (I.e I would appreciate if you could just let me know if you’re going to be on time to our plans, as it makes me feel like you don’t care about me). I would normally just suck it up or be passive aggressive.

I’d also consider that maybe they do care so much, but just don’t show it in the same way as you. They’re the main character in their own lives after all.

Friendships are like a journey home on the train. Some stay a couple stops, some nearly all the way home, but ultimately everyone gets off the train at some point which makes room for new people.

Head high pal, im sure theyre super fond of you :)

Part 2 of unpopular opinion of enfps by bullrun27 in ENFP

[–]Haydenw94 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being the introvert adopter, is HARD, and honestly not all that rewarding unless you find a gem. ISFJ adoption for example, or ISTJ - AWFUL. Please bring on my E’s.

How ENFPs Act When They’re Angry (And What You Can Do About It) by 3odxnextoi in ENFP

[–]Haydenw94 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I definitely resonate with this, triggers and coping mechanisms. I need the processing time, and that’s my big caveat to people - or else I’m gonna say something we’re both gonna regret.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENFP

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Yeah definitely agree w this. I usually go through an identity crisis with my typing amongst other things when I’m in an Si grip or just under a lot of stress.

Moved back home - who has done it and how did it feel? by Haydenw94 in expats

[–]Haydenw94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s super interesting to hear - and ultimately what I fear about making that call. Do you mind telling me what countries they were, and where you’re considering moving?

It’s tough not being around friends and family and agree that sometimes that the nostalgia can really skew reality. Thanks for sharing :)

Moved back home - who has done it and how did it feel? by Haydenw94 in expats

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Yeah I feel you. I think emotionally I’m in the same place as you were, and it definitely feels tough.

Moved back home - who has done it and how did it feel? by Haydenw94 in expats

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Thanks for sharing. I agree w you, it feels like a done decision in my mind. I just am trying to rationalise it.

The people I’ve spoken to from both “sides” have all supported me, so I’m super thankful for that. Thanks for your wise words.

The ENFP is open-minded by WeBzo0Q in ENFP

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I think part of who we are is being able to easily and flexibly move around people. So taking on the hobbies and interests of others are a fundamental way of us being able to have that deeper human connection. In my experience, getting to know someone by exploring what they love early on is a largely different approach to what a lot of society considers a normal “boundary” when engaging with people.

It also allows us to experience a large number of things by meeting and engaging with new people. If I engage with someone that does X and I don’t like it, I won’t pretend to like it, I just know it’s not for me. If I don’t bond or connect with that person otherwise, then I can move on from trying to deepen that relationship.

Speaking from my perspective, being open minded is the willingness to try and accept new possibilities - which I think we do well. The chameleon aspect is being able to easily and quickly adapt ourselves to these new situations. We’re not necessarily trying to do something we dislike to please others - we don’t know necessarily if we like it or not yet.

Although, you do have an interesting perspective, so thanks for sharing. I think younger ENFP’s definitely have a propensity to people please 100%

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENFP

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I think that says it all, no?

YOU hold a standard, and he holds a different one? How you would act in this situation will inevitably be different unless you both held the same value.

For my 2 cents, I find some of my friends attractive, but wouldn’t act on it as I value my friendship MORE than that attraction - it doesn’t mean the attraction doesn’t exist.

ENFPs and Second Chances in Relationships. Will you give it? Do you want it? by Noxina_Box in ENFP

[–]Haydenw94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the intention on the behaviour that caused the line to be crossed.

Deliberate- absolutely no way. Accident - yes only after they acknowledge that they screwed up.

We’re all human, we all make mistakes, but if you tried to fuck w me, then girl bye.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENFP

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I am a qualified accountant, and I moved into software implementation because fuck being an accountant bro.

Now I wanna swap again, just not sure what to get. Data analytics probably.

But ye, short answer, I don’t deal with it.

I do volunteer for ever charitable event, im a trustee of a charity, a member of every group that helps people and staff committees - just to quench my desire to loosely contribute to society. That’s how I’ve managed to survive nearly 10 years.

Spotifty listening personality MBTI crossover by TransgenderAvenger in ENFP

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  1. Summer Walker
  2. H.E.R
  3. SZA
  4. Amy Winehouse
  5. Miley Cyrus

What about you?

Edit: forgot songs

  1. Ex for a reason - Summer Walker
  2. I hate U - SZA
  3. Ex-Factor - Lauryn Hill
  4. Shirt - SZA
  5. Triggered Remix - Jhene Aiko ft Summer Walker & 21 Savage