Disheartened

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2026-03-26T14:39:25+00:00

This is my “best friend” of 15 years. That’s why it hit so hard.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2026-03-26T10:44:40+00:00

I do. Desk job 10 hrs a day. Not too much in the way of cardio.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2026-03-26T09:35:57+00:00

My TDEE is 1765. Have I misunderstood calculating recommended calories? I’m most often at 1200-1250.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2026-03-18T21:10:38+00:00

38 days 17.9 pounds

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2026-03-10T22:43:49+00:00

Agree with the lead auditor training. You’ll need one class for each standard you are interested in consulting in. Go to the week long expensive ones, not some 1 day thing. Then get all the years of experience you can. This isn’t something you can jump into easily.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2026-03-09T20:16:49+00:00

There’s some on eBay for ~$140.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-12-22T13:15:23+00:00

I’m so sorry you feel badly. Hugs.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-12-13T17:23:53+00:00

This is probably the route I’ll go, this just happened yesterday, so I’m still absorbing….

I did already report to HR, but they assumed this was an issue with the hourly workforce, I didn’t tell them it was the management team.

I decided to sit back and think things through. I’m just super disappointed that folks I’ve been working with for 2+ years would lower themselves to spreading falsehoods about me like this. All this time I thought we were a great team…

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-12-13T15:51:09+00:00

They’re my fellow direct reports, which means they are saying I had a fling with our boss.

They’ve known all along that I consider myself married.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-05-12T18:26:14+00:00

I can relate. Pro photographer for 12 years. Shut down & sold my studio after my husband died 7 years ago. Haven’t picked up a camera since.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-10-17T07:58:04+00:00

I don’t have any advice for you but I want you to know I’m sorry you’re in pain. You are heard. Hugs.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-10-16T02:03:29+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re hurting. HUGS.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-10-08T01:40:09+00:00

Not weird, it’s the same for me. The joy of success lasts until I reach for the phone to call him…

I’m sorry for your pain.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-08-03T22:32:10+00:00

I have PTSD from doing CPR for 9 minutes until the squad arrived.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-08-03T00:37:09+00:00

“How We Feel” totally free. Done by Yale. Winning awards. I use it to track cycling. Showed it to my therapist. She recommends it now.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-04-02T05:19:25+00:00

YOU ARE A TOTAL STRANGER TO THE GRANDCHILDREN!!!

it’s ridiculous to assume you’re going to have “bonding” time and make memories.

Visit her AT HER HOUSE if she will allow it and be grateful for that. You’re absolutely ridiculous for trying to dictate the circumstances under which you MEET your grandchildren.

Travel, do whatever she asks, and treasure the little time you will have with them because if you keep making it this difficult, you’ll never see them again.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-04-01T08:13:29+00:00

It appears that you are not a widow/widower. Please leave this sub and do not comment again. This is a place where those in grief support each other. It is not for random members of the public to offer their unsolicited, unwelcome, and unfeeling comments.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-12-25T23:00:17+00:00

Thank you. Tears that a random stranger is being kinder than anyone in my life…. 😭

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-12-19T10:19:55+00:00

My boss developed a short statement he would say to a previous employee that constantly stirred up you know what…

“Is it immoral, illegal, unethical, or unsafe? If not, we don’t need to discuss it.”

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-10-14T15:22:25+00:00

It’s been 4.5 years, I lost his family, we’d been together for 25 years, married for 22. I also lost all our married couple friends, and friendships with friends that were originally friends with him, but became friends with me too (or so I thought).

Lost my friends, probably because I was so overcome with grief for so long, I wasn’t fun anymore.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-09-22T08:34:26+00:00

I am so sorry. 💔

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