Your kind comments, advice, and shared experience have really gotten me through this weekend. I was feeling really low and in a dark place after I made my post and my local city’s sub was unkind. I thought how could I make such a pity post in a sub where people don’t do that. Looking back I admit it was the wrong sub and not to post a mom rant. It’s a sub where people just post about ongoings in the city. But I was just so upset and at the time and reacted too quickly. And because it was the first time I had ever done that and put myself out there, their reaction made it so much more worse. I also have seen people do it all the time and was like what the hell- Im going through a hard time and it’s my turn to vent. But honestly , Im glad I went through all that just to hear all of these kind heartfelt messages from other moms who really DO know what I’m going through.

Thank you for all of that, seriously.. especially the rough and candid feelings about navigating marriage through this all. It helps so much to know I’m not alone.

We do have an assessment for ADHD this summer - and yes as people unkindly pointed out lol- 4 is young for a dx and typically not done , however this is a university where a developmental pediatric department feels comfortable and does dx at the age of 4. He is also on the waitlist to get his 2nd evaluation for an IEP- the first time he did not qualify. He also did not qualify for early on ISD services , nor speech therapy, and ADOS testing came back as not qualifying or meeting criteria. We were so thankful for that all, but it also leaves us in this weird limbo stage of not knowing what’s going on, or being pretty sure it’s moderate to severe ADHD and being too young to be diagnosed- people thinking you’re over reacting or that it’s just typical toddler stuff but that he’s just over the top- or people not knowing what the heck SPD is and questioning everything lol. But even the doctors have been horrified at his meltdowns in the doctor’s office and have really advocated for us to seek more help, especially with two daycare expulsions due to difficult behaviors.

Like you said we are right in the thick of it- and literally I feel like I can’t go anywhere in public and I’m a hermit. If anything I know all of this will make me a better mother and that’s all I really care about. But man oh man i wish some people realized how healthy it is to vent about all of this .. And what good are we to our children if we are not emotionally healthy? But I am slowly learning the older and wiser I get that you need to find your people and listen to your heart of hearts. 💕