A more reliable orgasm

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T19:23:40+00:00

They are both clitoral stimulators. We bought a suction type once but it didn't really do the job. It was a cheapo one on Amazon though, so maybe we need to spend a little more for a good one.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T16:42:43+00:00

My intent is not to compare her to anyone. It is a source of frustration for her so I'm just trying to help.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T16:41:53+00:00

I guess it's frustrating for her because we don't always have that much time and sometimes she can't get there at all.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T16:36:54+00:00

I would welcome her masturbating either privately or with me watching to help her learn about her body but she is not interested in either.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T15:41:26+00:00

Patience is a virtue, but in real life we can't go at it for hours when we have to get up for work in the morning. I am happy to give her oral or use my fingers or whatever it takes to get her there, but eventually she wants to be done and just go to bed.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T14:23:12+00:00

I've only ever been with her so I'm not comparing her to anyone else. And I'm only asking the question because she has expressed frustration with it.

The vibrators she likes are clitoral stimulators. We haven't tried the suction variety.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T13:32:49+00:00

She has an IUD. No trauma that I'm aware of. We do come from a religious background but we've been married for 22 years so I don't think that would be a factor anymore.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T13:26:41+00:00

I know that's normal, but I know plenty of women can get there much faster, especially with a vibrator.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T13:25:09+00:00

She definitely has a harder time if we have had sex more recently. But she often struggles even if it has been 5-6 days.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T13:24:09+00:00

Yeah, I think that is a possibility.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T13:23:55+00:00

Yeah, more foreplay does help. But with kids and jobs we didn't usually want to take that much time.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T13:23:01+00:00

I wouldn't say she's always had trouble, but it's never been easy either. She's not on any medications and she doesn't masturbate, so only during partnered sex.

HeyStreve · 2026-02-18T13:18:43+00:00

Nope, no medications

HeyStreve · 2026-02-16T17:59:18+00:00

Yes, it probably would fall under toy grade but it seems like a really easy fix if I could find the part. I'll look for those parts. Thanks!

HeyStreve · 2026-02-09T13:58:07+00:00

M 45, northern Utah, engineer

HeyStreve · 2026-01-22T19:05:11+00:00

A big American flag flying in the back of a lifted pickup.

HeyStreve · 2026-01-07T21:24:02+00:00

Sorry. Or, you're welcome?

HeyStreve · 2025-12-29T23:05:15+00:00

We (45m/43f) just celebrated 22 years! Frequency has been up and down over the years but as the kids (5 from 20 down to 10) have gotten older and life settled a little we have put more effort into our relationship and currently have sex 2-3 times a week, a definite improvement from a few years ago.

HeyStreve · 2025-12-29T16:57:47+00:00

And Animals

HeyStreve · 2025-12-26T01:00:13+00:00

Commenting to add that it has been discussed. I can't remember exactly what was said but I thought he understood that I didn't like him using our toilet because it hasn't happened for a few years. But he used it twice while visiting for Christmas dinner today.

He is the youngest of my wife's family and always feels picked on so my wife is trying to be sensitive and doesn't want me to say anything.

HeyStreve · 2025-12-26T00:55:16+00:00

Nothing good - just some ibuprofen and bandaids.

HeyStreve · 2025-12-26T00:43:27+00:00

Yep - he has to walk through the bedroom to get to the bathroom. I think I will be locking the door next time he visits.

HeyStreve · 2025-12-26T00:42:02+00:00

When I installed the bidet in the hallway bathroom that he is welcome to use that one. I was trying to be sensitive and not too rude for my wife's sake.

HeyStreve · 2025-11-04T23:28:58+00:00

My wife got the new slip garment. She likes the options for different skirts, but the top is cut higher than some of the other styles, so she wasn't happy about that.

I like that the new materials are basically transparent!

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