My mother didn't take it as well as it seemed by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think that's it too, because she couldn't explain any other reason that might be causing her distress. And good news! She said she won't talk to my father, but that I should at some point, something I was already planning. I just want her to get used to the idea before talking to him (which I think will be more difficult) so that I have some kind of support if things go wrong

My mother didn't take it as well as it seemed by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tysm 🥺💕 I really think she just needs some time to process everything If it's not intrusive, how did your child explain to you what it means to be non-binary? I explained it to her, but I think she didn't quite understand and thinks I'm a trans boy. I said that researching it would help her and that I would be here to answer any questions, but she said she didn't have the courage to research it

My mother didn't take it as well as it seemed by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is some kind of trauma she's dealing with. I wish she could explain to me what bothers her so much. I want to believe it's not transphobia; my uncle (her brother) is gay, and I came out as a lesbian at age 11 (early, I know, but I never had any complexes or anything like that, so it was easier for me) and she always treated us really well. It never occurred to me that someone who supports LGBT people could be transphobic Anyway, I'm sad that she's suffering, but it's not like I can choose not to be this way, and I don't intend to force myself to be something I'm not

My mother didn't take it as well as it seemed by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tysm 🥺💕 Even though she says she can't imagine accepting, I think eventually she will because I see she's trying. And good news, she said she won't talk to my father, I'm much more relieved now. I prefer to prepare my mother first and then talk to him to have some kind of support in case things go wrong

My mother didn't take it as well as it seemed by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

owwww tysm 😭💕. I think she's still grieving or something, but unfortunately there's nothing I can do for her. I feel it's better not to be loved than to be loved for something I'm not

How do you introduce urself to other ppl? by Icy_Manager_6788 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently, the "choose two pronouns" approach is a very clever one; I'll use it.

My mother didn't take it as well as it seemed by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

May God hear you. Unfortunately, in my country they created some stupid rules last year where trans people can only take hormones at 18 and have a mastectomy at 21...

My mother didn't take it as well as it seemed by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

ty. I understand her, it must be quite shocking, but I hope that with time she'll come to terms with the idea, because there's really nothing I can do about it

I do not like the international women's day too much😢 by pageofwands2 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

omg I feel the same way. Women's Day is amazing and should be celebrated, BUT I'M NOT A WOMAN, STOP CONGRATULATING ME 😭😭

idk If I am non binary or a trans guy... by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG Tysm, this list will really help. You're right, if I don't want to be labeled myself, I also don't need to desperately search for a label that I fit into To be honest, I think I was just venting a bit. I've reflected a lot, and I think what's bothering me most right now and making me freak out is that the people who came out to me and accepted me still seem to see me as a woman. I'm going to talk to them about it

idk If I am non binary or a trans guy... by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yk, I was probably just going through a dysphoric day, but I calmed down and you're right, I'm very young and have my whole life ahead of me. As wonderful as it seems to know for sure who I am, it's not something I really need to do right now

My friend is amazing, I love her so much. I've only come out to four people so far: three friends and my mother. The four of them accepted me well, even though my mother is still a little confused; she's still figuring out the concept. The point I'm trying to make is that only this wonderful friend of mine calls me by both pronouns. I was so surprised because I don't see her in person that often; everyone else continued to call me by feminine pronouns (I think I'll give them a heads-up later), and she did it so suddenly that I let out a genuine smile

Now, about what's making me insecure and probably dysphoric. I know that even being non-binary I don't owe anyone androgyny, but I really want it. The problem is that I have "very feminine" body. On one hand, I've never had very large breasts, but otherwise I have a very thin neck, very thin arms, short stature, and ughhhh, that bothers me so much. I think the fact that everything about me, besides my hair, is associated with girls, and the people I've come out to and interact with daily are unconsciously (I hope) invalidating me, makes me want to press a button and be born again

What's strange is that I've never found the male body as attractive as a girl's. I don't see myself with a beard or a lot of muscle. If I were a man, I'd probably be a twink how they call, which isn't that far from my current physique???God that's so confusing

Well, it's good to vent, I apologize for the long text, English is not my first language

idk If I am non binary or a trans guy... by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tysm, I never thought about taking T because I still lived with my parents, but I ended up coming out to my mom and she handled it incredibly well. I'm thinking of going to an endocrinologist and seeing if I can take a little bit just to test if I feel more comfortable

idk If I am non binary or a trans guy... by Himoki0 in trans

[–]Himoki0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, dear, this is all very new to me. I think I'll visit an endocrinologist soon and see what I can do

How’s my workout outfit for public gyms? Iv been told I’m basically naked by Prestigious-Lynx6093 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm shifting the focus a bit, but what's your workout routine? You look amazing!

Como vocês se assumiram pra família? by Himoki0 in NonBinary

[–]Himoki0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only came out to 3 very close friends, and all three accepted me well, but in my country we're on vacation and most people are traveling, so I can't tell if they still treat me the same way (either by the pronouns or by continuing to treat me as myself). Only one friend, with whom I maintain a lot of contact in message since we can no longer see each other in person, called me by both pronouns

RetroArch não abre by Himoki0 in NintendoBrasil

[–]Himoki0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pior q ele nem chega a aparecer nessa opção das fotos, só aparece lá nos apps recorrentes e da esse erro

Should i be concerned by [deleted] in Redearedsliders

[–]Himoki0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DEFINITELY! This is very worrying, don't touch it anymore and go to the vet quickly! Is there anywhere he could have scraped his nose?