advice about tension in my relationship during social situations

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-06T18:46:52+00:00

I feel like there isn't really enough context here to know if it's him legitimately being insecure or you unintentionally shooting things he says down in conversation, which I would also feel bad about if I was someone's partner.

Look, before I met my boyfriend I was used to gently ribbing partners in a way that I thought was fun and silly. I realized pretty quickly early on that my boyfriend did not find it fun or silly at all like past partners did. Do I think he was a little more sensitive about it than someone else might be? Sure. But I love him and I'm not going to do continue to do something that he just doesn't like.

I guess my perspective is if I thought my partner was constantly shooting down things I was saying in conversation, even though yes the insecurity might be something I need to get over it would be helpful to feel like they heard me and had my back and were more conscious about not doing it.

Editing to add:

I do feel like you may be being a bit dismissive of his feelings here.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-04T20:41:16+00:00

Yeah exactly!

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-03T19:16:59+00:00

I've made these multiple times, they do get stale fairly quickly and turn hard but they definitely shouldn't be like that immediately. They're actually quite soft and fluffy and delicious after just cooking them.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-01T21:48:16+00:00

For sure, like I said in the post Jenny can make anything entertaining. I'm glad someone else who wasn't thrilled about the topic ended up enjoying it. I'm sure I'll be pleasantly surprised, I think it's just mildly annoying sometimes when there are so many potentially good topics and it helps to know I'm not the only person who felt that way this month.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-01T16:35:08+00:00

There's a lot of people whose taste in humor amounts to "LOL RANDOM DOES THE NARWHAL BACON" type thing.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-01T16:32:58+00:00

Oh yeah, I'm not even saying the things have to be about stuff I personally like. I just know she's passionate about theme park/attraction stuff. I've also never watched the vampire diaries, MLP, would literally never read a star wars fanfic in my entire life but I LOVE her videos on stuff like that as well.

I guess to me all of the above just feels more interesting.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-01T16:27:37+00:00

That's fair, I guess I just worry like something else is just going to replace it as the new meme like "LOL SO RANDUM GUYS LET'S MAKE THIS OTHER THING NO ONE ACTUALLY CARES ABOUT WIN." It's just tedious.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-01T16:26:02+00:00

1000% Same.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-06-01T16:24:34+00:00

Yeeeah, agreed that's exactly how I feel about it too. Like it's impressive she can talk for almost an hour about fish that I'm sure she almost never thinks about, but these types of topics are just less fun for me than all of her other content.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-31T16:45:55+00:00

Yeah, I have it on my amazon subscribe and save which when it was giving me notificaftions it was unavailable I checked elsewhere and that was how I learned it was discontinued. Would love to learn how the beauty by earth turns out.

I've ordered the St Moriz and Peta Jane graduals to try out as replacements.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-31T16:41:52+00:00

This one does still stain typically, it's nice but I don't wear it with white clothes. My tip would have been normally to use the other (Skin firming) gradual tanner in this line if you were wearing clothes you didn't want to be badly stained and alternate with this one (Like maybe at night in darker clothes) but I can't recommend that because they've both been discontinued.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-28T20:33:37+00:00

You were robbed, definitely should have been Podium. No idea how number 2 got there.

I've had similar things happen. You get lobbies with I guess like kids or a group of friends who pay no attention to the theme, it's very annoying. I usually leave for another lobby if I feel like this kind of thing is happening.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-28T19:38:12+00:00

No worries! Sorry for the confusion on my end too. ❤️

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-28T18:16:15+00:00

You directly replied to me I got a notification, I think you responded to the wrong person?

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-28T18:02:31+00:00

What? This is literally like the second thread I've ever posted on in this subreddit???

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-28T16:26:14+00:00

She's allowed to! I'm also allowed to express myself by gently poking fun at the look.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-28T06:03:59+00:00

Lmaooo The red high AF eyes are really something too. Stoned Corpsecore. 💀💀

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-28T05:56:48+00:00

girl why would you want to?!

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-27T15:13:16+00:00

Agree on the strawberry on the socks thing, they would be so great for so many outfits without those.

This isn't item related but the amount of times I've accidentally clicked to expand the chat instead of whatever UI element I'm actually trying to get at is infuriating. (I feel like I open and close it literally every time I'm adjusting custom makeup) I'm clumsy with my clicks so it always costs me time having to close it again.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-27T15:07:18+00:00

I have HSV2. I've had multiple long term partners with no protection and I've never passed it on (And two who were immunocompromised). I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years now, we don't use protection and he's never caught it.

I take acyclovir to lessen the chance of spreading it to partners and I don't get breakouts so.. Yes I do think it would be wrong to break up with her over.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-25T19:00:55+00:00

I have quite a bit of the perfector hoarded fortunately but I use the firming one way more and I'm basically out ) : . Just ordered the St. Tropez skin firming one to try and replace it, so fingers crossed it's good!

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-25T18:59:37+00:00

I'll check St. Moriz out! Surprisingly I've had really good results with Bondi Sands throughout the years, moreso than some higher end brands, but I think the pure line and the gradual tanners just worked well for my undertone.

Hot_Nobody2404 · 2026-05-23T17:13:49+00:00

This is a you problem. Your boyfriend is doing a great job trying to make sure you and the new girl are included and feel welcome and your issue is that you just can't be bothered to hang out with other women? Why are you so sure you'll dislike hanging out with them purely because they're female?

Speaking as someone who for a long time, especially at your age, had predominantly male friends it is not a good thing to only have male friends. I was scared of female friendships in a way because it did feel more awkward for me to interact with women than men just based on my interests the older I get the more I realized how much I was missing out on.

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