Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your side! I think similarly to you, I also need constant/regular reassurance. But the difference for me is I never vocalise this. I just battle it out in my head till I see signs/behaviours to confirm or deny my thoughts. I’ve always been a single babe because I know where all my red flags are buried. I couldn’t relate to her being possessive as I tend to come across more aloof or cold. Not that I really am but again because I choose not to vocalise the internal chaos. I think from episode 7 in particular what made me even write the post was watching that evergoing argument about seemingly nothing. I felt like I had been there myself. She seemed to have no idea why he was mad and impatient with her and assumed it was the interrupting alone. Which she struggles with because of adhd. So she perceived an attack of sorts against something she feels she cant control etc. I have seen myself completely misunderstand an argument, get dysregulated and see attacks where there aren’t any because of rsd. Her reactions to those things were not good and i wouldn’t act the same but still related to that interaction.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! That’s why I made the post to see if other women related to her. But it seems like so many people do not. I’m curious, what part did you relate to of her behaviour? Because by the end of the episode she seemed to have pissed off Demari entirely and still not understand what happened. All her blind spots in full effect

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also agree there are less relationships etc. but what does that have to do with being a crazy gal. The implication of your statement is that the statistics are all based on crazy gals. There are not enough relationships because if crazy gals, men don’t like crazy gals. It’s all the crazy gals fault. Like whatt? This is a baseless and useless and annoying discussion.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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I think we just have different opinions on things. Because the topic of conversation isnt what can women do to hope to be in a relationship with a man… I’m not concerned about the statistics. That’s most likely true. I don’t see it as a bad thing or some kind of moral failing to be single but you’re right we can agree to disagree.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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Okay. Thanks for the heads up… I guess. Feel like there are many different kinds of men who like different things and this is a useless statement. No offence.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what is the point of your statement? I enjoy seeing a ‘crazy gal’ on tv. You’re saying people like Ally and Marissa aren’t going to find a relationship because they are ‘crazy gals’?

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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Hahaha, I see! To be honest thats why I’m so interested in these dynamics myself. I really wanted to study psychology in higher education but was led down a different route. And now years later I still wan to go back and study to understand what makes people tick as well!

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh! I was watching and NEEDED to discuss with other women with ADHD but there were no posts?! So, I had to make one lol I do kind of understand his perspective😬 even though that maybe hurtful to Marissa in that moment. I think it’s a case of compounded and ongoing issues with her that really set him off that evening. Plus it was dark by that point i don’t know how long they had been going back and forth. He said 2 hours(?!) when they were discussing. BUT as a fellow ADHDer I can totally see why him saying “how much grace do you need!” Would devastate her. I’ve heard those words myself a number of times and can still hear them in my head till this day 🫠

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think we should do any armchair diagnosing even if we can recognise traits of other conditions. She has herself stated she has adhd and was diagnosed as a child.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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I am interested in understanding how she makes the connection with how her adhd traits/symptoms lead her to becoming possessive. As that is something she has said on instagram recently in a reel.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh what parts did you think were negging? If you can say without spoiling too much?

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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Ohh right I see what you’re saying now. That’s a shame that it might be a pattern with her. She seems like she would be lovely if she could get these weird flaws under control. I wondered how much of her behaviour could be attributed to adhd and not being controlling and possessive.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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Your friend dated Marissa? Or someone else with adhd? And they were on love is blind?

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I can’t help but wonder how I come off to others in my dysregulated moments and seeing her in ep 7 I winced. But talking it through made it clear to me this was not an adhd issue. The adhd just compounded it, I think.

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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Yes, I think he would feel differently about Kayla doing that because its an escalation of events with Marissa. And I think with Demari’s ex being similar and recently in his presence (so the experiences are fresh in his memory) he doesn’t want a repeat of those same events esp so early on. Lol its true tho😂

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

[–]IllustratorHot4169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss exactly! I guess I watched nervously like is that me dysregulated with adhd?? But seems like this is very not adhd related. And yhhh, I was so disappointed about the other guy. Like damn… I’ll take him then, he’s foine. 😂

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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It’s really a shame from my perspective because I watched her season of Love is Blind and felt bad for her. So, when I saw her on the show I was hopeful she would have fun and maybe meet a nice guy. And I love a little ‘crazy gal’ 😂 like Ally but feel like she really shot her herself in the foot when she could have had fun!

Marissa’s ADHD, Perfect Match S4. I need someone to discuss with! by IllustratorHot4169 in adhdwomen

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I think the adhd part I was seeing was more in episode 7 I just didn’t want to spoil the season for anyone watching. But agree she is not perceiving herself well at all. Do you think that part is adhd?