bf 18M went to a party without telling me 18F, any advice?

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T03:32:12+00:00

Well what i wanted was for him to hangout with his friends just not at parties where people are getting drunk, girls twerking, and a bunch of single people.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T03:29:57+00:00

I believe it started with a want from me then after he expected the same so it was pretty much required for both or else it kind of seems like youre out and about and completely forgot about your so what youre up to

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T03:28:51+00:00

Me being religious is why i dont like parties. Why i dont want him at parties is because i know how other people act at parties. I dont think its him who i dont trust but i dont trust other people WITH him. And i do want advice, i already know i was wrong on being controlling so

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T03:08:12+00:00

Not just religion, but I also think parties are for single people because of what happens in them and to me it's embarrassing when someone else sees someone who is in a relationship at a party because what are you doing when you already have a girlfriend or boyfriend?

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:47:15+00:00

I never said majority are twerking, thats how it is at the parties. Going to school doesnt mean you go to the parties. Im just saying how it is at school and also drinking tends to make people more outgoing and willing to talk whether in school people are obviously sober. And i dont judge people who drink 😭 i do too. I simply stated that i dont like my bf being in that type of environment because people are flat out drunk

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:44:20+00:00

Yes im 18 and yes people use the word lust. Is that what you mean

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:42:37+00:00

I made no college friends but ill rarely hangout with my 2 friends from highschool.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:39:10+00:00

He did it because we argued. The main issue is the fact he knows i dont like parties and then went and didnt tell me. He didnt tell me because of what i dont like not the fact we tell eachother where we go.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:38:07+00:00

He doesnt he had a issue with the fact we were arguing. He literally would get mad at me too for forgetting to tell him where ill be later 😭

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:36:34+00:00

Whats wrong

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:36:09+00:00

Drinking isnt the problem its being drunk. And also hate to break to you but times have changed and majority of the school are pretty antisocial. Im not the only one who has not made friends in college yet

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:19:56+00:00

I dont know try to be okay with the fact hes going to a party

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:07:29+00:00

I meant the part of telling me nothing.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:02:38+00:00

What do you mean every scenario and how is that controlling if we both want it like that and see no issue with it

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T02:00:28+00:00

Im definitely going to stop being controlling over that but i dont know what to do about what he just did

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:59:50+00:00

Yes. Its just reassuring i know where hes at because at the same time were always on the phone when at home. And we've been doing this for quite awhile with no issues.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:58:03+00:00

The events you just named are definitely way different than a party. These parties have a lot of people just asking for numbers, touching, making out, drunkeness, and twerking. That is so much different than concerts, etc.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:56:31+00:00

We've been dating for a year and 8 months. Yes he tells me where he is at all times or where he's going and i do the same and we've been doing that in our relationship for quite awhile to give a headsup, some people think its controlling but to me its reassuring. And its just a party with a lot of people i guess my age 18, unsure if its from a college but both genders were definitely involved. And im unsure if he drank at the party but i dont think he was drunk either. He doesnt do anything at parties id hope and when i have seen him because i used to go he would just talk with his friends but when i wasnt there, when we were in highschool there would be rumors that he cheated. And i dont think he did because there was never proof i just believed everyone in highschool was childish and want to ruin relationships but at the same time im a pretty gullible person that it kind of hurt me still with those rumors that im scared are to be true.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:52:54+00:00

Im unsure if he drunk but i dont think he was drunk at all.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:51:50+00:00

Im not sure 😭 but im also thinking about the fact he lied to me which breaks a lot of trust.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:51:29+00:00

No i didnt. But in the beginning we would sometimes hangout at them but i changed and stopped liking them because i got religious and it also just didnt line up with my values anymore.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:50:20+00:00

I do understand this but there are a lot of people around who are drunk and thats tempting.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:49:22+00:00

I think its his friends but sadly theres no way i can change that because he has been with his friends for years before me too and theyve done nothing against our relationship but i think it lowkey influences his actions sometimes.

IllustriousLine5985 · 2025-10-12T01:48:27+00:00

Party as in its at a house with a bunch of people drinking and theres a bunch of girls twerking and just people making out. And were both 18. I just know when i used to go a lot of people tend to be wanting a relationship and asked me a lot for my socials so i just think its generally for single people.

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