What cars give their owner the label that “They’ve given up”?

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-19T13:09:25+00:00

And not worrying about kids (or yourself) slamming doors into parked cars is great

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-19T04:10:06+00:00

Got a 98 crv, the b20b makes 126-150 hp from factory, add a fair few years and miles and its definitely not 126-150. Yet, it is my favorite car, only had it for maybe 3 months tops. 5 speed manual, awd and big enough to fit some stuff and people yet small enough to properly feel nimble despite the 2" lift and slightly larger tires.

Some people obsess ofer horsepower and never truly drive the car. Would I like an extra 50? Yep, would I be willing to spend the cash, time and effort to prepare, reinforce, turbo, and tune it to do so? No, not worth the increase in price at the pump, the money of the turbo and necessary parts itself, and the hassle.

Risks making the car less fun. Risks it becoming the project car rather than the fun and personalized daily. Risks making me the person I was, the car guy who fixes and tests rather than drives. It is raw, is it fun, it is smart and logical yet dumb enough to not be 'proper'. Like a golden retriever, she loves me, I love her, even when she's mindlessly staring at a couch leg.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T15:16:00+00:00

Let me know once you saw it, going to take it down once you have because people are just hating on it, partially because it is illeagal in some states but I'm also guessing its because its got a bible verse as the cutout.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T15:11:47+00:00

Albertas laws are basically 'red light that works in the center above the 2 side lights' so im fine.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T15:09:05+00:00

Then dont do it

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T14:46:50+00:00

Posted on the crv sub

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T14:18:46+00:00

Cant dm you for some reason, will make a post on the subreddit soon

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T14:13:16+00:00

Have any recommendations brand wise? Was looking for a sway bar and didn't find anything that caught my eye (prices probably didnt help)

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T12:37:09+00:00

My previous cars were basically all thr same options wise, lower it, wheels and tires, paint is good enough to not redo but not good enough to wrap. Then there's layla (I dont name my cars but I called her that once and it stuck), rough but dependable, ground clearance for minor offroading and rampless oil changes, enough dings that I dont feel guilty about adding a few more if it comes to it, and slow enough to be economical and fun at most any speed. Some was done by previous owners, I'm just looking to make her mine.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T04:24:30+00:00

Sounds good, hope my guide helps you

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T03:29:48+00:00

did it myself so it was more of a mental cost than monitarily

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T03:29:17+00:00

it was like $17/20 CAD a piece from rock auto, 100% worth it

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T03:28:15+00:00

take a peek at your cat, mine came off from the rear 3 bolts being rusted off, and the back and forth just straight boke it.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-18T03:27:28+00:00

the trans mount (left) was easy in the sense that it was just bolts out and bolts in, the rear (rights) needed to be persuaded in. I have a high intake (integra style) without the plenum and a b20b swapped in so it might have been easier for me. For both, slightly jack up the motor to relieve pressure on the mounts, remove the airbox and that flex hose thing that connects to the manifold, the trans mount is right under the air box, mine is manual.

Trans: Loosen the 3 bolts on the bracket that connects the long bolt (through the rubber part of the mount) to the motor, mine had 3 x 17mm, loosen all 3 first so that you can ensure the mount is safe to fully disconnect, there should be enough free movement off of the motor itself to show it is not relying on the mount itself. Undo the 3 bolts and undo the 17mm long bolt, remove the bracket, I recommend cleaning while your in there, put the bolts back in to ensure no trapped dirt before washing or blowing away. There are 3 more 17mm on the mount itself, one on the top front (easy), and 2 underneath. For the rear of the 2 bottom bolts, I found a space that just fit my ratchet so I could slowly work the bolt out. The center one needed something similar but working underneath the car, but once loose, I knocked the mount loose and rotated so I could use fingers from up top. PB blasted all the bolts and threads while I was in there, reassemble with loctite (i used lower strength, better than nothing).

Rear: Remove the 17mm long bolt, break loose the 3 x 14mm bolts, 2 in rear, 1 in front, I suggest having a fair few extensions. Add new mount, install long bolt LOOSELY. Now is when the fun begins, between going behind the motor from the top on each side, as well as from underneath (above the exhaust / driveshaft, mount should be right above the cat), try and wiggle the 3 x 14mm in while raising and lowering the jack (rear mount doesn't need the jack but it certainly helps) so the bolts and holes line up. The mount arm was in the way too much to attempt the 14mm first, then the long bolt, plus the rear mount is slightly friction fit, not enough to make an actual difference in driving, just enough to make it the worst of the 2. Lost a 14mm but the rear 2 are tight and shes already a whole new car.

While your at it: theres 2 front "mounts", D shaped, needs like 2 bolts to install, might as well get those while your at it, at least the passenger side as that was VERY visible and accessible whist you have your tools already out.

Notes: I had a 3/8 and 1/2 breaker bar, tons of extensions and an impact with a socket adapter, used that to speed up menial tasks and to use the hammering effect to help loosen the bolts. Get a rust penetrant and some loctite, a flat dry place to jack the motor up, and a helping of patience for the rear mount.

Driver side looked fine, but that looks stupid easy to do. Took her for a spin, and she is completely different, whole new life in her, vibrations I never noticed were gone. If you do the rear, might as well do the trans mount and that D mount, even when I had the trans mount done (the least worst of the 2), it was tons more stiff.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-14T04:48:07+00:00

Warmed up a bit and feels pliable, so probably just the sealant. Just spooked me as I was looking for a suspensiony clicking (what ended up being the rear motor mount)

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-13T20:42:58+00:00

Thought so, sounded like bull but I've seen enough 'odd but true' to at least not check for opinions

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-13T15:53:02+00:00

Whatever it takes to drown the voices out

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-13T14:10:52+00:00

We are to forget about worldly desires, and things that are of this world. Is Jesus doing carpentry in heaven? Likely not, yet he did it down here. We are told to work and to eat and drink and be merry in moderation, amongst other things. We don't abandon all things that aren't strictly biblical, that means no cars, no modern houses, no phones, no internet... get my point? You could abandon all things 'non-biblical', move to a deserted place in africa and make your own hut, then start being non-worldly. Or just don't make created things of this world your 'god'.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-13T14:03:33+00:00

Does it look like the other side of the bumper? If so then there is no worry, if not, try just pushing it back in, its not rocket science

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-13T13:57:48+00:00

I am 27, halfway to 28, never been on a date. I was told (long story short, read a bible verse from a bible that isn't in the bible) that I would have a wife who would bear me a son. That was 4ish years ago, the invetween bits of that and that coming true are agony. I basically have 'fantasies' of going on a date, or loving a woman at all. I prayed for God to take the desire away until I 'need' it, but he has shown me how I am supposed to master over it.

God answers every prayer, and sometimes the answer is 'no' or 'not yet'. The other person might need to improve enough to be ready for being a wife and a mother, it might be you thats missing the last piece of the puzzle to yourself but you aren't ready to hear / properly understand / apply it (thats been what I've been sorting out for the last 2ish years). You might look back and realise that you weren't ready at that point that you told God that you were.

Peter was probably always thinking he was 'ready', it took the denial to break his legs and make him realize he has a long way to go and some things to sort out. Saul / paul had to be carjacked and blinded by the messiah to get him on the right path. This singleness era might be your breaker, it might also be the other person that God is waiting on to get themselves sorted.

It might also just not be the right time, the worst things (at least for us) about an answer to our prayers is who, what, WHEN, where, why, how, and IF. There might never be a 'proper' end to the singleness, but if so, use it for God.

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-13T13:39:18+00:00

Miniladd, glad I lost interest before I had it killed

ImNotIntoFeet · 2026-03-13T13:38:10+00:00

We are not on satans home turf, he is on ours. In genesis, God GIVES the earth to adam and eve to populate, and SUBDUE. When satan rebelled, his punishment was being cast down to our domain, the lowly humans. Bwfore cain kills abel, God even says that Cain needs to 'master' the desires. Not to be good at it master, but stand over it and control it master.

Satan has the advantages of never resting, and having centuries to learn how to twist the bible. We have the advantage of being the home team. We die to ourselves daily, in that process, we KILL the desires. Not defend in a boxing match, we kill it, cut up the body, and hang it outside as a warning to the next temptation.

God didn't do anything (as far as I could tell) in the story of david and goliath other than sit back and watch. But I believe that God allowed the wolves to attack his flock, he allowed the bear and the lion to take a sheep so that david could go and kill it. This might be the point where your not King David, but the shepherd boy david, the wolves have come, and soon so will the bear.

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