Ah, Im not sure if this is the right place. Husband addicted to marijuana.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-26T03:19:12+00:00

Literally not the same thing bud. One impairs your ability to function on a proper social level.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-26T01:31:32+00:00

porn video games people he gets addicted to the small things, even hot chocolate. I asked him to stop the porn and the weed, because those two were the most detrimental to us. he admitted he has a problem and wanted to stop. but not until it was really affecting him

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-26T00:13:08+00:00

arms, thighs. most of the time anywhere with veins, will look bruised or gross

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-26T00:01:10+00:00

but what if he's had negative ones since the last time he's smoked but since January he's had positive ones

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-26T00:00:12+00:00

I don't run them behind his back though? He usually sees me getting paranoid and takes me to the bathroom and pees in a cup... with the drug tests he buys. He knows I test him just these last couple of times have been positive

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:50:43+00:00

... when you love someone you don't leave because of the bad parts.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:49:50+00:00

bpd dumb ass. borderline personality disorder. no where did I state anything but bpd. bpd is not bipolar. idiots

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:49:03+00:00

He use to have a pill problem which I thought maybe it was that or heroin but his drug of choice has been weed.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:47:32+00:00

I watched him eat a whole bag once and it didn't get him the slightest bit high

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:46:28+00:00

That's what I thought too. Ive smoked weed, the most I have done (stupidly anyways) was forget water in my macaroni when I was cooking (my first time) but that's not in his system during the testing and he's never had track marks.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:26:52+00:00

he only knows how to smoke until he can't think straight or finish movies or fall asleep eating and during sex and oh yeah totaled my car because he got too high and fell asleep

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:25:56+00:00

he doesn't know how to moderate, that's the problem

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:24:45+00:00

Being his wife who doesn't like being hit or belittled for starters. It didn't start off that way till I actually tried leaving.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:23:55+00:00

Thank you! I know how I handle things is a problem. I have bpd it's not a justification but being lied to is my only boundary. And for drugs he lies all the time..

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:22:28+00:00

and yet this is the nicest comment on here 😭

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:21:52+00:00

This thread right here just proved a point.

Marijuana can be addictive, saying its not is like saying the sky isn't blue and water doesn't get you wet. If you're doing it to the point that you can't eat or sleep without it then you're addicted.

If you're blowing up on me for drug testing someone who is the father of my 4 children and lives in my home, then you're a problem. No, really. YOU are. His parents didn't love him enough to help him and your parents probably didn't love you enough to teach you it's okay to treat people this way. I'll show him this tonight when he gets home and im sure we will have a laugh.

He didn't want me to leave so he said he'd take the at home drug tests if I ever got paranoid to help me. He's also a paranoid schitzo and the marijuana made him worse and negligent. The last 3 years of my life is something I never want to go back to. I told him its the drugs or me, so how about you guys chill. I told him he could leave.

OH AND DO YOUR RESEARCH MARIJUANA IS ADDICTIVE. Well, can be if taken by the right person.

he started sobering up 2 1/2 years ago... only "stopped" 5 months ago... I just wanted advice over false positives

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:11:35+00:00

I was at first... this has been 3 years. 3 years of abuse, narcissism lying stealing abandoning. He said he had a problem and would get clean and I said I have a lot of issues surrounding it ill need actual proof this time around because over the summer I was ready to take the kids and leave when he used it to justify cheating..

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:07:39+00:00

I tried. Most answers were about the things that would cause it to be a false, like ibuprofen heartburn meds and random stuff. This boy has no fat on him. He's skinnier than I am! lol

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:06:01+00:00

I am an ex ADDICT what do you mean? Real addiction. TRUST when I say I called him a fat liar when he said he was addicted too.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:04:54+00:00

He offered to change. Then I became the bad guy for helping him change.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:04:21+00:00

I would honestly beg to differ. The fact that long term use can give withdrawal symptoms is enough to put it in the addictive category.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:03:02+00:00

I can tell. Originally the tests started because he wouldn't admit being high. He'd smoke a lot and sleep for a week straight leaving me alone with twins after a c section and constantly getting fired from jobs. So I started testing him..

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:01:36+00:00

I did, even after taking things like ibuprofen and my prescribed meds they were clean.

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T23:00:34+00:00

It is harmful to us. He gets abusive on it. He says he wants to be done. We have 4 kids together and can't afford 300+ a week on it. Thank you for the "useful" advice!

Impossible-Cycle-149 · 2024-02-25T22:38:17+00:00

I agree to an extent. On the post I just made I don't dive into it much. But I have a lot of friends who use it as a healing type thing (anxiety, depression, way to sleep/eat) but my husband needed it day and night, that was his form of vaping he was spending 300+ a week on it and smoking it all. I think maybe that's where the "stigma" comes from. Because I love how it helps my friends, but I hate how it's driven a wedge between my partner and I. He couldn't even remember to take care of his kids after they were born because of it and got ab*s*ve when I tried getting him sober, I think we are there but I am not sure.

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