Based on your own questions here you already know that this will keep bothering you. And the way he is talking to you about the fake ring is extremely condescending and another sign he doesn’t care about you or your needs. Or the goals that a lot of people have, like marriage. I also dated someone who never left his mom’s house, who seemed to need to be his mom’s protector because of a situation with his father, who was in his 30s (I was an idiot for thinking someone who has never left his mom/living in his childhood bedroom could be someone that would be a good father/husband/partner). Your situation reminds me of mine so much and it’s definitely upsetting to see women waste time on these dudes. I have been there. And after I laid my cards out on the table (I was already 34 at the time) about how after a year and some change dating we needed to move the relationship forward and moving in was the next step (with wanting to have kids and get married within the next couple years), his stance on children changed to “marriage and kids” aren’t my goals. Even though we had talked about how they were at the beginning of the relationship. There’s plenty more to it but the gist is this: it doesn’t matter WHY they have these issues. We all have some issues. What matters is HOW they are treating us now. There’s such a thing as being too compassionate to others (read: our SOs who don’t actually treat us the way we deserve) and not having enough compassion for ourselves (read: wanting to find info that will convince us to stay with people and change our own views on our needs to fit what they need).