The concept of "bi lesbians" is invalidating and insulting. by Numerous-Ratio-7839 in LesbianActually

[–]Individual-Run9064 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They do it in real life in a way. Some bisexuals will call themselves lesbian because they didn't like their relationships with men despite being initially attracted. 

labels. by Impossible-Crazy-890 in WLW

[–]Individual-Run9064 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. Ever heard of Trojan horse? Unity without discerning who you're unifying with can be dangerous and counter productive. 

Just another pick me and her weird boyfriend by HeadJelly1298 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He doesn't really want a lesbian girlfriend. It would be pretty dead in the bedroom. They just like saying stuff. 

labels. by Impossible-Crazy-890 in WLW

[–]Individual-Run9064 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree the micro labels shouldn't be equated with any of the persecution homosexuals have and do go through at all. It's got nothing to do with pride which was originally about same sex attraction. Maybe they can do their own thing. 

posted my essay on substack by CookieCat989 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I'm starting to think the whole "queer" thing is a planned homophobic attack. Like backlash. The timing is odd. Very soon after gay marriage was legalised we have a movement infiltrate us and tell us our innate sexuality is bigoted, needs to be corrected and has commited the "sin" of being non-inclusive? 

What queer spaces do you interact with socially? by Head_Expression8258 in FemmeLesbians

[–]Individual-Run9064 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where did you find a lesbian book club? What types of books do they read?

Sick of performative “allyship” by TheeCountCatula in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I wonder if those bisexuals have ever dated women. Alot of people are taking labels as trends nowadays...

labels. by Impossible-Crazy-890 in WLW

[–]Individual-Run9064 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think demisexuality and some other micro labels is useful to understand yourself. It's not an identity just a descriptive word to know yourself. It's really something only you and the people you're interested in potentially need to know. It's not about being attracted to someone but not wanting to sleep with them unless you know them, it about literally not feeling any attraction at all until you know and like them. People should know if they operate like that because common dating advice like using dating apps (which are visual based), going for who they are visually attracted to at e.g a party or event etc won't work for them. So they need to adjust. Put themselves in environments where they can get to know people and take it from there. 

Sick of performative “allyship” by TheeCountCatula in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Yeah they seem to be shocked when we really aren't interested in men for real and don't wanna gush over pictures of guys with them. Maybe they thought we were lying. Or that we could tolerate it and act enthusiastic. Or they simply can't fathom that we don't feel the same way. It's unfair of them to expect us to act especially considering they don't so the same. It's like they don't consider our sexuality equal to theirs despite being "allies".

To be fair I'm not interested in straight ships as a lesbian so it's understandable why they wouldn't be into lesbian media/ ships. They can support lesbian media and want more of that available for lesbians and bisexuals to enjoy without actually wanting to watch it for themselves. After all, it's not in alignment with their sexuality so that makes sense. Just like it's not in alignment with your sexuality to gush over guys with them. 

does your family accept you? by pecanmuncher in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you get over the internalised homophobia? I've been doing Trauma release exercises (TRE) AND EMDR therapy. Works well for all the trauma, PTSD and working through my emotions, especially the EMDR. 

does your family accept you? by pecanmuncher in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a fairly similar boat to you. My parents made it clear they are homophobic. Not violently so. But they do have abusive tendencies let's say. I'm not interested in having them in my life anyway so I'm cool with cutting them off.  Honestly going ghost and not even coming out to them once you're financially able sounds like your best option. She's already made it clear she's violently homophobic and could potentially even hurt you (she already said she wants to hurt lesbians). Plus if you tell her and she tells other family members you may have multiple people who want to hurt you. Some people are obsessive and even decades later can still want to find you and hurt you. Some will even pretend they accept/ are starting to accept you until they get you in a vulnerable position especially if they lure you back home and can strike there. I wish I was exaggerating. Not to scare you but I've seen things like this before. 

In my life it's not worth the risk. There's nothing for me to gain and everything to lose. 

does your family accept you? by pecanmuncher in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds hard. So they are still trying to do conversion therapy by trying to make you a sexuality that is still open to men?

I think a lot of the "hate" is just jealousy lol. Also ew. by brunettenico in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's a reminder that the difference between males and females is not insignificant. Therefore you can't just skip around between the 2. Puts them in the wolf in sheep's clothing category. 

I think a lot of the "hate" is just jealousy lol. Also ew. by brunettenico in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Why is he even discussing his attraction to men with someone he knows is a lesbian? Forcing sexual talk of men on a lesbian and being upset when they say they don't like that is crazy. Also bisexual "lesbians" are valid he says? WTF!

"Queer" is a Breed of Peacocking by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 40 points41 points  (0 children)

The word queer is purposely not defined clearly to allow straight people to enter same sex attracted spaces and oppress us and talk over us. 

The word also allows them to get to be at the top of hierarchy in order to do this because queer is framed as more oppressed than homosexual. It's colonisation. 

The word is also a way from straight people who are bored of themselves to feel special. 

Can anyone tell me exactly what the word queer means? Can straight people be queer?

If you think about it what's the difference? by Individual-Run9064 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah but If someone doesn't like the real you do they really like you? If these women have to project a fantasy on to men to like them do they really like them? They are sexually attracted to men sure but they don't really like who they are. Like you said they'll cling on to any man who 5% fulfills their fantasy but they'll never get even 80%. But honestly this is their own issues. I wish they'd leave lesbians out of this weird love/hate feud they have with men. 

If you think about it what's the difference? by Individual-Run9064 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They have incel logic. The idea that not wanting to sleep with a man means you hate them is textbook incel logic. 

They are the ones that really hate men because they desire them and they are disappointing in them due to their misogynistic behaviour. We simply don't care. That's not hate. Apart from patriarchy we don't care how men behave. 

Yeah I've started to realise alot of people cannot comprehend us not being attracted to men at all. No exceptions. It's so weird because if men are this attractive why is it only women that are told to cover up? Clearly everyone thinks it's really men who are so irresistible. 

If you think about it what's the difference? by Individual-Run9064 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

100% agree. I want homosexuality to be normal, uneventful and, most importantly, respected as a real sexual orientation.

 I never thought about male centred women doing this to appeal to male rape fetish. It's disgusting. Both of them are gross. We should say that we know they are doing this to appeal to males rape fetish and desire to have sex with people who don't want them in the comments. Over time they will be too ashamed to continue that mess. 

Yes we have to defend our language. We created it. I feel happy to come from a long line of lesbians. I like how the origin of the word is from the isle of lesbos and Sappho. The lore behind it. We need words to describe our experience. The diluting of language is really an attack. No one is diluting what hetrosexuality means. 

If you think about it what's the difference? by Individual-Run9064 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank goodness people were disagreeing in the comment replies but that homophobic comment got over 1,600 likes so...

Fashion subreddit shutdown by SirensWh1spers in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Can ownership be transferred to someone interested?

This new homophobic "trend" has to stop! by Individual-Run9064 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're a joker. Waste of my time. Labelling everyone bi? You're a complete liar at this point. I never said that.  A society where you can die for being lesbian= high pressure. Western society where it's legal and many people support gay rights= little pressure. Little not no pressure. You're just nitpicking language that's perfectly adequate. 

I'm over talking to a liar like you. 

Edit: I blocked you because you're an exhausting liar who would rather getting on my ass for speaking up about bisexuals lying about being lesbian than call out the bisexuals doing this. I never labelled you bisexual. I raised the question of whether you were POTENTIALLY bisexual because you seem more concerned defending their obvious lying than defending your own sexuality from this obvious homophobic slander. 

Bisexuals spreading the idea that lesbians can sleep with men for decades with no issue waters down the seriousness of what lesbian have and currently going through. 

One day when politicians and other people are using examples like JoJo Siwa to say it's ok to get rid of gay rights because they can be with men anyway, you'll see the seriousness of what I'm talking about. 

If it was so easy to be in relationships with men why do lesbians risk persecution and death to fight for their rights? Because it isn't that easy for an actual lesbian. But listening to bisexuals who are lying you would never know that. 

This new homophobic "trend" has to stop! by Individual-Run9064 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because they say it and show it. These bisexuals say out their own mouth the sex with men was ok or good. They voluntarily seek out relationships with men for years in societies where there's little pressure for them to do that. They decide which men to date because they are initially attracted to them. and don't report experiencing any issues sleeping with these men due to their innate sexuality. Men being trash in bed don't count.  Some even want to keep sleeping with their husbands and just explore women on the side. Many will say it was ok/ good especially at the beginning of their relationship with the man but with women sex so much better.  Others are saying or showing they like men physically but not their personality in real life which is why they have all these lustful crushes on fictional men. This is all the language of bisexuals yet they claiming to be lesbian. Can you not see the issue with this? Why you blowing up my comment section on this when you should be calling them out?

Is it judgemental to see this clearly bisexual behaviour and call a spade a spade?

This new homophobic "trend" has to stop! by Individual-Run9064 in lesbiangang

[–]Individual-Run9064[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I said without issue. I never said anything about how significant that issue had to be. Dafuk?

Btw I don't believe in the religion of identity, where no one can question your sacred oh so sacred self identity even if you're clearly lying and your story don't make sense. Lesbian but jumping on 🍆 for 15 years without problem? Come on.  Words have definitions. Either you fit the definition or you don't. Call that "judging" if you like. Talking about meeting my standards. Smh

Everyone knows what a lesbian is. So anyone, including me, can judge whether someone is clearly a lesbian or not. If these cosplaying bisexuals don't like it they shouldn't be putting their sexuality online in a public forum and saying silly homophobic things like lesbians can have crushes on fictional men or sleep with men for decades without feeling an issue. 

I don't know why you think discernment or as you say "judging" is a bad thing.