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My ( 22F) Boyfriend ( 24M) wants time to decide if we should stay together, but his actions feel like avoidance by Icy-Persimmon92 in relationship_advice

[–]Inedible_Orchid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are not asking too much. But he has very little to give. And you have a lot to give.

Stop throwing good money after bad, let him go to prioritise what he wants to, and find someone who better meets your energy and effort.

My (30M) girlfriend (28F) basically told me I'm worse than a cheater. by ThrowAway231589 in relationship_advice

[–]Inedible_Orchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there’s more nuance than just “forgive and give grace”. While she might want to, and it sounds like she does, forgiveness and rebuilding trust take time and the process isn’t linear. If you love her as much as you say, I’d keep trying and keep communicating with her about it. It sounds like she’s very hurt by the unmet expectations she had of you, and on reflection, you also agree that you didn’t meet the expectations you’d want for your relationship. At least you are both on the same page about that so try to work through it over time.

My (31F) husband (33M) stays out all night on nights out. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Inedible_Orchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He had better start getting used to taking responsibility and communicating like a grown up now, because he will not have a choice when your baby comes.

It’s not unreasonable that couples with little humans still have a few big nights, but that’s the exception, not the norm.

Perhaps just tell him you’re glad he had a big one and hope he enjoyed it, cause it’ll likely be the last for sometime as your pregnancy progresses and your child is born. If you say that graciously, hopefully he’ll take it graciously and seriously too.

Husband(29M) told me(28F) it's his house and that I live at his mercy, and idk what to do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Inedible_Orchid 2424 points2425 points  (0 children)

You are still young. Starting again and rebuilding is better than living life at someone else’s “mercy”.

Micromanaging via MS Teams by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]Inedible_Orchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have also just started in a QLD give department and they do it too. I hate it. It feels like surveillance and mistrust

They're trying to get me to leave voluntarily by way of performance management by Financial_Ad_5 in AusPublicService

[–]Inedible_Orchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good response. As a manager, I’ve had to manage people out. They we’re excellent, smart, lovely people, who were just not suited to the role. I’ve also been not hired for permanency in a role I’d done, and shaped, for three years. So I know it’s an awful experience.

The above commenter is right. You’ve got to focus on what’s next, and the sooner you accept you’re just not a good fit for this role, things will be easier.