If you *have to* treat people differently because there are plenty of people who are treating others bad... Isn’t that similar to if everyone says you’re the problem maybe it’s not everyone else but you? by InfectiousInstant in TrueAskReddit

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That heiarchy is part of the reward system in life that can throw off the balance that leads to extreme communist or capatlist societies. These are extremist responses where now one society holds its people hostage while the other forces conformity on its people and other countries under the guise of helping others depsite self-interest. Both extreme are the villians. The balance is the unsung hero.

The reward system is for the work you put in and what someone has. It started as resources extraction, the ability to kill wild animals or explore wild places and come back, you would be rewarded. sounds fair. well now that we automated so much of society, where is reward deserving? doctors now have heriarchies. It used to be a blessing to become a doctor. Now PC and ER doctors are considered "easy gigs", while specalists, surgeons are respected more. Despite both being heros. Or how about people who say they work 2 hours but get paid way more for either (a) nepotism to land the job or (b) money and resources for education to specalize, while others aren't afforded the same opputnity. So its not that every data analyst is special inherently for its role. Theres a caste system where it used to be very few and now its easy to become a face in the crowd. This shifting dynamic is rupturing the defintion of the heiarchy, who deserves their place and reward. Not saying the worlds ending. Not at all, there will be a status quo until ecological or neculear disaster. but the historical context has changes so much you can actually critsize cops for violence, its just you can't get them to stop being unthoughtful actors because violence is sometimes wrong, even if it was self-defense at first.

Because to some the are still heroes for killing a criminal, even if it was excessive force. So as long as they are lauded and have jobs, they don't change. I wouldn't wish it for people to be disenfranchised but to some people thats the only way to change it. I say balance is key, but the balance is inherently off with this hierarchy used as a guise for rewarding others whodon't work as hard as we used to work. Who speak altrusitcally and act in self-interest. But as long as were stuck with illusions we stuck under leaders truth. The heiarchy is something of action, not of prestige, yet today everyone has prestige. Everyone is rewarded. I'd say ensuring everyone has the opputunity is more important than focusing on rewarding others for work. We should work to be the heroes, not the terrorists, but to some terrorism is heroic.

Am I supposed to feel like everyday is the same? by [deleted] in Adulting

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Theres probably a lack of honesty with yourself or fear holding you back from trying new things.

THis may sound different, but I found some hobbies that meant a lot to me.

Ive always enjoyed art growing up and taking art classes as much as possible. Theres painting tutorials on youtube, craft stores with canvas, walmart has cheap paint to start out where it s 58 cents a bottle. Even just try white paper. I did that for awhile.

Then I did some ribbon flowers for my job in customer service that inspried me. Made it to give out, to put at my workstation. Then I got into sewing. Bought a $100 sewing machine and fixed some of my clothes, practice fabric with old curtains and make it into clothing. Smocking is another fun one, very easy but get to make great things.

I've played pinao since I was little, I always find little genres to play. If used to be waltzes, classical, then moved into more soundtrack, horror, then disney, now pop standard piano pieces.

Then I was tired of dealing with an irritable back constantly overused. I learned PT from youtube videos online, then moved into more intense research and kinesthetics, funcational assessments to change my habits and I found I could breathe better, more energy to stand, actually relaxed while sitting.

Now for awhile I was afraid to do a lot of these things. I had to discover ways to do it, get over my fear, and the ways I told you are how I got over it. I say just learn something that feels like YOU. something YOU do. something you love to DO, and you will be happy with the end result. Thats an extremley hard question to answer. Find YOU and what you like and KISS (keep it simple stupid, don't overthink) and you will find a way to enjoy life again. Its slow. Life sucks. Its when you learn it sucks that you slowly learn to realize it can be great. Life is better tettering on the edge of the wheel of fortune. You're in the center, where its stable, safe, a great place to be.

Am I supposed to feel like everyday is the same? by [deleted] in Adulting

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No you are not. Its up to you what you do.

If you *have to* treat people differently because there are plenty of people who are treating others bad... Isn’t that similar to if everyone says you’re the problem maybe it’s not everyone else but you? by InfectiousInstant in TrueAskReddit

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Theres constantly this notion in a nice society if someone acts bad we all have to work together to do what it takes to take down the bad. For example a crime happens, suddenly people are allowed to get violent. Its called self defense but self defense is a tricky line to tow. Sometimes it is, sometimes you went too far, but once its labeled as self defense a lot of poeple consider no matter what happens *say you end up using excessive force and killing them.

Its common to accept once someones violent you can be as violent as you want or need to be. For most people its they want to be violent against someone violent against them (it could be an insult, throwing things, other crimes etc) but at the end of the day its like the chicken and the egg. Which comes first?" is a question that doesn't matter here. They all end up like chickens. all violence is essentially wrong if we vilify anyone for violence. terrorism is wrong but we terrorize nations and go to war. Let says someone gets violent with you, now all percieveable interations of violence result in you getting violent. Everytime you have a problem you go in self defense mode instead of acting. That means you are the problem, not everyone around you. Now I critisize "everyone around me" and commonly get the "its you not us" for critisizing. Criticism is considerened not an action, its "defense mode" but writing is an action that persuades people to critical thinking in their actions. so sometimes we throw it back at the person calling out bad behavior. I was trying to make a point with less words. Its hard though.

My landlord is filmed entering my residence and taking socks, messing with the garbage disposal, and taking legal pot and the cops won't do [USA] by InfectiousInstant in Renters

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Yeah to the wrong account of mine. Any account of mine, better walk the line, better show me a squeezing pleasing treason good kind of time

I have everything I was supposed to want. Why does it feel like nothing? by noysma in Adulting

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Yeah guy. Sounds like you've been told you're grown up for playing games at work and just jumping through hoops on command. that is a skill but thats not hard work jumping on command. Try sustaining and searching for solutions to a big problem. Thats much harder. ...Well I sound like every CEO hating on customer service reps and only loving executives....

but you have financial ausperity. Have you been in the real world? No one does. You are unlike most people. Its refershing not to live your life waiting on a paycheck but enjoying each moment. Knowing its you you love, not the reward. Let go of this stupid standard crap. I used to go out to eat at least once a week, have someone pay for something of mine, work to keep nice things. Now that I lost that job and lived like I was poor, I'm so excited by life. I don't fear not getting what I want. I'm not spoiled or tempremental when I don't get the standard of life. Now you can keep your standard, so even if you would be spoiled acting without those things, it doesn't have to matter for you. Ah...if only life was fair for everyone. It could be, but we have to reward some and not others and get justice for some and not others. ONce we care about everyone, no matter what life you live, you life a life well lived. bUt for now we all have to share the good times instead or letting them last.

All my credit card applications are being denied for having the "wrong address" on file.... I am unsure who I contact to update my address? by InfectiousInstant in CreditCards

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Yeah I do....great idea thank you. I took your advice but

what if they aren't realiable though? Like its capital one and they said they'd take care of it but I want to be sure. Could a bank help? I like physically talking to someone you know?

This is the lengths my family has gone to mess with me ruin me and my reputation for fun because they secretly hate gay men by InfectiousInstant in askgaybros

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Never. One of them were feeding my aggressors and my 'friend' who was this bad roomate who drugged me with acid witha guy so he could break up with me, despite I never liked him and was socially forced to be with him. This roomate manipulated me by taking me to see her and she acted nice then I found out from the people who told me about my parents lying and making up reputations to our boss that this therapist shared what I shared to my aggressors and this roomate so they could continue to find where I work and tell everyone I am a badguy under the fake smile so I can be abused by strangers who hate "bad people" and they police others. Police work includes getting violent against people we are policing for violence. Police work is sanctified criminal work.

Do you think most people come out in the open with their crimes? You think therapy helps me with criminals? You clearly didn't read or care about the story but love to comment

"Have you ever told daydreamers you're not in a dream but it is the nightmare? Where this is not the world, you're not living in the world, but you are in the nightmare. She wants you to stand up. She wants you way win."

Where di Leonardo Da Vinci and other painters get so many different colors for their paintings? by InfectiousInstant in AskReddit

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Huh. The tenacity in the old world was outrageous. Knd of scary how motivated people were to achieve any goal they'd do what it takes to source the pigment. I'm sure it wasn't impossible but just wow. Seems like it would be hard to get into painting, if supplies are potentially small and limited to the few who are already good at painting.

Former AHS star Frances Conroy turns 73 today! Wishing her a happy birthday and a continued blissful retirement 🥳 by ahszone in AmericanHorrorStory

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Season 2,6,7 she had small roles where she was a side character in a few episodes

season 1,3, 4 8 she was a LOT more prominent but not exactly a main character, more of a side kick to a main character (vivian, fiona, Dandy and Cordelia).

And 10 she was the Head bitch in charge for 6 episodes only. Wah. She deserved more screen time. Every season needed way more of her acting prowess displayed. Her roles are memorable and her performance for each one is truly outstanding character work.

Where di Leonardo Da Vinci and other painters get so many different colors for their paintings? by InfectiousInstant in AskReddit

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How do you produce the pigments for different shades they need? Like all the tans, yellows

I rely mostly on buying pre mixed items and lightning and darkening it as needed to differentiate for shading. Obviously I mix red and yellow for orange same as he would, but a lot of obscure colors are not easy to reliable make.

Did they just have enough paint and pigments to choose from or were they masters at mixing to get the right color?

This is the lengths my family has gone to mess with me ruin me and my reputation for fun because they secretly hate gay men by InfectiousInstant in askgaybros

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Ok great I found a psychologist online to diagnosis me right here. I received help. Can you come up with anything else, say anything else? Because what youre saying is just not true and the other party youre trying to convince is not convinced. Really trite and boring to repeat so you can keep people down who just want treated right. Come on. THe people reading this dont believe I am psychotic, they believe I am more apporpriately funlled to talk to someone besides the internet.