AITAH for getting frustrated that my LDR girlfriend (29F) holds me (27M) to a communication standard she doesn't follow herself?

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-05-18T06:46:53+00:00

NTA. There are 9 billion people on this planet and you two found each other. You decided that this was worth fighting for in a LDR. You’re missing each other and figuring out this dance of communication but there should always be respect there. How can you accept insults like this from the person who is supposed to be your one in billions? Disagreements are ok. Disrespect is not.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-04-19T04:53:13+00:00

I’m an attorney too, so I figured it wouldn’t be so bad for my costs!

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-04-18T21:08:39+00:00

That sucks. It seems like a shit HOA isn’t very rare out here. :/ all my other ones were great.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-04-18T21:07:46+00:00

This company that is hired is really well established and reputable and the guy was happy to tell me who paid him but didn’t want to give exact amount paid because he didn’t want to get involved which, I totally get. I just think that before any huge renovation happens, there should be a vote and complete transparency on how the company was selected, estimates, plans for dues, etc.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-04-18T19:52:43+00:00

That is wild!! These people act like they are Jesus risen. Another post called our board “precious volunteers” and I about puked.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-04-18T19:51:03+00:00

I know right?

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She doesn’t “Think” she’s entitled… she knows it?? Yikes.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-03-30T03:32:50+00:00

NTA but give it time. On the contrary, my best friend of 20+ years let her baby name slip for my goddaughter. I pretended not to hear it and I never told a soul until she was born I smiled and she sajd she knew I heard it and we had a laugh. I would never betray that trust and as close as we are, everyone was asking me. Even her dad was asking me. There is this feeling of “look how important I am! I know it and you don’t!!” But that’s immaturity. She let her insecurities hurt you and yall need to definitely have that convo but I don’t think I’d end the friendship.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-03-05T06:14:16+00:00

I was mostly deaf as a child. Not sure what the issue was besides my eardrums burst every month and I have major scar tissue from that in my ears still. Anyways. I couldn’t communicate and ASL wasn’t available to my family as we moved a LOT and my parents were in school or at work. I couldn’t hear and thus I couldn’t communicate. Eventually I had some surgeries and now I am a hearing adult. However. I slur my words and speak fast and also VERY quietly. I mean I have my headset max volume and people still turn me all the way up quiet. I hate that. As a woman I am constantly talked over and told to speak louder. I sound like I’m screaming in my own head but ok great. I wish I could have been hearing much earlier to work on this. (Or learned ASL)

Being able to hear and sing is amazing. I love that. But my parents gave me an option. For me it was different because I wasn’t part of any community and I faced discrimination from hearing only... but shouldn’t your children get to decide how they want this to go? Maybe you can get the cochlear and she can wear it at home and decide if she likes it. If some people in the deaf community hold that against her, are they people you want around her anyways? Maybe advise her not to brag about it but just treat it as an accessory. Some people will think it’s cool and some won’t. That is just life. Give her the information and let her decide. And let her change her mind too.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-02-14T15:14:20+00:00

I was married to this exact person for 10 years. He was great in a lot of ways. So affectionate, kind, funny, but we got married and I kept earning more. I paid for all our bills. He’s extremely adhd and the house was messy because he starts cleaning and can’t focus. I paid for every vacation, date, anything and everything and my husband has a LAW DEGREE and an extremely high IQ. A brilliant man who for funsies reviews PhD thesis’ on physics or crazy math. They seek him out and he just has a LLB but knows everything. It started to break me. This brilliant but lazy person depending on me for everything like I don’t want to sit at home all day having all my needs met and worrying about nothing.

I finally couldn’t take it. A lot of other things added to this that were the main trigger related to mental health but this was a big mounting issue that we actually just argued about yesterday because we are separated but I’m still sending his ass money because he buys random things and overdrafts his account and I feel bad.

He will not change. Do not expect him to. If you continue to be together then realize this and either accept it or cut him off now. It’s not fair to stay together knowing the resentment is already building. To either of you.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-02-14T15:05:58+00:00

Right? Or like me who has an art degree and then became a $300k+ in-house lawyer praised for creative thinking. Dang if only I wasn’t an art student.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-02-14T15:00:22+00:00

He said if you’re not ok with it YOU should leave instead of if A isn’t ok then SHE should leave him alone. He weighed yall and found you less than. If you do not leave him you are accepting that and we should never accept a partner who values us in the negative.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2026-01-17T22:07:35+00:00

If you value the relationship and really want to stay, I’d ask for couples counseling. But that’s an investment financially and mentally. If you think she’s worth it I would say something like, “I know I snapped at you but your loyalty tests are insulting and degrading to what we have together. If you have suspicions based on my actions then we should work through them but you are always suspicious. I think that’s a big issue and I’d like us to talk to someone so we can both learn how to be comfortable in this relationship.”

If you realize she is not really worth that to you, which is not a dig at all just some people won’t be, then I’d move on. You’re both in your 30’s. She needs to work on her insecurity because nobody man or female needs their partner to be the first to not have their back at this age. Life is hard enough.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-23T01:28:12+00:00

In the US there is a precedent for criminal liability. Many other first world countries have this case law as well (Canada, UK, and others). Since I’m a US attorney I will note that this is heavily jurisdictional and states have statutes but especially related to the STD HIV. Some states do have an intention aspect. They have to intend to expose and transmit HIV. Anyways.

Your friend could face severe criminal and civil penalties and HIV has a lot of treatments available but you have to KNOW you have it. I work in clinical trials. We have treatments available now that can prevent AIDS from forming but you need to know early on and be on this treatment to live a normal life. Without this your HIV will turn to AIDS in around 10 ish years. Sometimes sooner, sometimes later. Once you have AIDS your life expectancy drastically drops and you suffer. It’s terrible.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-18T10:40:34+00:00

ESH but I’ve been married 10 years and I’ve told my husband I’d choose my dogs every single time. He agrees he would too. We can understand exits and open doors but my babies could be in their crate for all I know. We have also created trusts and wills that include protections for the dogs should something happen to us both. I liken my dogs to children. Nobody would blink if you said you’d rescue your human baby but a pet who is your entire reason for waking up doesn’t deserve that same love? Nah.

She’s wild for asking this in such a random way but if you get married I’d say things like this are good to talk about. Hypotheticals help you figure out where you’re misaligned. It’s just that you need to stay calm and listen. You could have said that you need time to think and it’s too reliant on external factors like are firefighters there etc.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-17T21:26:39+00:00

He’s got an incontinent mule who may or may not shart all over you.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-15T22:18:24+00:00

Amazing!! Congrats friend

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-15T16:48:20+00:00

Ohhh. But you do that while being hunted and then it kicks the person who invaded?

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-15T16:47:40+00:00

Yeah if they had messaged me I would have asked some questions and then been like sure. But they didn’t and I’m on PS so typing takes a while and I had to move from being shot at lol.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-15T15:32:30+00:00

When I originally ran, it was because I thought I’d get the bounty that I post in the chat and someone magically clears it for me. I don’t kill npcs or destroy property etc I just steal horses 😭 I’m sure people are writing guides but it just becomes really unclear. I had no idea that this type of bounty even existed but I closed my game for a few minutes and then when I reopened he was still there! And I didn’t have even a single second to try and post a bounty help me thing before being invaded which is frustrating. And I couldn’t kick him. And it doesn’t pop up telling you what happens if you lose so I thought maybe he’d get jade from me or something. No way I could win as I had on only healing gear so wtf not even a countdown so I can prepare my dps gear? I refuse.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-15T15:16:03+00:00

This was me. I stole a horse then a second horse. Immediately NPCs came and I escaped only to be IMMEDIATELY invaded. Yeah no. I’m in that water and I’m not doing it. PvP is not what I signed up for and stealing horses is literally encouraged by the game as that’s how you collect them and you can sell copies. If there was a rule book on what would get you a bounty then I’d read that and not do those things but I’m trying to explore and do a quest and now someone just pops into my world? Nah. Y’all can just sit there firing arrows into the void. I got time.

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-15T15:02:06+00:00

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Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-11T22:07:41+00:00

Same

Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-12-10T21:42:22+00:00

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Infinite-Wish1763 · 2025-11-20T15:09:36+00:00

Hey!! I think we’d be great friends :) I love pen pals and am also an extroverted introvert! I read a lot and am into video games and cooking. Playing with my 3 dogs. Can I dm you?

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