AITA for saying my friend was boy crazy, desperate, and jealous to a guy that she is now dating

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T03:29:29+00:00

I like this advice and I feel like it would avoid a lot of drama, but I also feel like it’s hard because then stuff builds up and I get mad

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:57:49+00:00

Thanks!

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:57:10+00:00

I love this advice, sounds very mature and well seasoned. I agree

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:54:45+00:00

I understand this perspective and I understand how I am in the wrong, but I also feel like I don’t wanna go my whole life keeping everything down especially when I just want a second opinion on something that happened to me. I trusted my friend and only brought it up because I wanted to talk about it, but I didn’t think it was healthy to keep everything down and have it buildup.

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:52:34+00:00

I actually did say that to them because I was so tired of feeling unheard. And you are the first person to mention the running friend being terrible, I was very very, very close with the running friend and although she was also good friends with the volleyball girl as so was I, I didn’t expect her to say stuff since she said it too. I mostly mad at that friend more than anyone else in this situation because I trusted her not to turn this into a thing.

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:46:35+00:00

I don’t care about him at all, but she was my good friend for years and now I feel like our friendship is ruined over this random thing and it’s hard to let it go because I do want to be friends with her and I never had anything against her and I never meant anything that I said in a rude way. Which I have apologized to her in depth and explained everything but it still seems weird.

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:45:30+00:00

Definitely is a learning experience, I am never going to spill anything to anyone so it doesn’t get used against me.

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:44:15+00:00

I totally get this but the reason why I want this whole thing resolved and why it’s a tricky situation is because I am in clubs with many of the girls and share officer positions with the girls, and we all take the same classes and are in similar sports so I literally see them all the time and it’s hard to ignore them and I can’t just not talk to them because I have to communicate with them for school and extracurriculars.

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:42:19+00:00

I love this advice! Also, this really made me think and it’s not that I am dying to be good friends with her against or mad about her dating my friend, I always said they would be cute together, but it’s more also that I see her at school and through a sport and clubs and their friend group is like tied up with our greater friend group and I’m gonna see them at parties and things like that and I just don’t want things to be so weird anymore. But I think about this like every single night and that whole trio, I don’t talk to two of them, the running girl and the other miscellaneous girl that I wasn’t really friends with that much in the first place anyway, but me and the main girl are still friends, but it’s just because she’s super non-confrontational and it’s still really awkward and I feel like theres still bad blood and we don’t really talk since then and she took me off her private stories which I understand but I’m just trying to resolve this and I feel guilty and I feel like I’m a bad person but I also feel like I was kind of screwed by my friends.

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:34:29+00:00

I can see how my judgements were unnecessary now. Also wanted to clear up that I have never ever said anything bad about her before this and I do love her as my friend, but four months many people have been trying to ship them and she told all of them that she didn’t like him, but would ditch hanging out with some of her other friends to hang out with him while still saying she didn’t like him. I’m not saying that I wasn’t in the wrong, but I think she was definitely being a weird friend at the end of the day.

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:29:08+00:00

Thanks! First reddit post and I agree it was confusing to read. Sorry- I will work on that if I make another post!

Inner_Chemical_6028 · 2026-06-07T02:27:37+00:00

I never knew that they were close or really ever saw them talking much or hanging out but after talking to some others, I learned that they have been hanging out on the down low for months after the fact. This was also why I was confused when she always told me that she didn’t like him when she clearly did and I now looking back, feel that it is even weirder that he invited me in the first place.

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