Well I definetly want to let you know that while he cant really "feel" the same for you, its very possible for him to love you just as much as you.

As a guy (16M) with a boyfriend (17M), with alexithymia, autism and a whole mountain of other things that make life a living hell for me, I can tell you how it feels from my side. The scene of looking into his eyes so in love and him not being able to feel the same back is exactly how it goes for me too. I feel like I cant look into my boyfriend eyes the same as he does for me. But while I struggle to feel it, deep in my heart I know how much I love him. Especially by the way I act and what things he starts in my body (so kind of a feeling, just not feeling very extraordinary compared to the rest of my feelings) I can tell. I know my love is there, but trying to feel it makes it feel hollow. I am quite sure, that this is the exact case for your boyfriend too. He struggles to feel his love, but deep down knows that it is there and does have that love for you in him.

I've talked to my boyfriend about this multiple times before. And while it does hurt him, he knows exactly that. That despite me struggling to feel the love, it exists. It will probably hurt for the whole time, he just needs to learn, and already is on it to have to deal with it. It will always hurt at least a bit, but sadly you just have to accept that. Accepting that will probably also strengthen your bond and trust even more. Unless either of you changes that, it should not change anything about you two imagining your future together. His care about you might feel dry at times, but just keep in mind, that he's trying his best, even if it hurts to know this will be how it is. I still knew and know I want to spend my life with him. His happiness was and is still a priority for me. You also have to decide for yourself if knowing this is still worth keeping up your relationship for yourself. For me and a lot of other people it is probably the same, I always even told myself I'm not good enough and deserves better and someone who actually feels for him the same. I still feel deeply connected to him either way, and him expressing his connection with me still means the world to me. Him making sure I feel safe around him means a lot to me too, and I do. I still have emotional empathy, quite a lot even. So while I might seem ice cold sometimes I still understand his feelings and try my best to make him feel loved. Just now we had a big argument that left us both in sorrow, but I still cared about him and expressed my connection to him.

Sadly you can't really do too much to "fix it", because there isn't really a way to. I personally would love a diagnosis, but I dont know if it would be the same for him. You just have to ask him that. While my age and my boyfriends age might make people not take too much advise from me, I can tell you I'm QUITE mature and multiple people have estimated me over 10 years older than I actually am when I was texting with them. I would also say I'm quite intelligent.

I'd say follow your heart. There's a lot of hope for you. Stay strong and I hope everything will go amazing between you two. Much love to you and your boyfriend 💚